en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/2431005 Comments by emi12889 http://www.worldinconversation.org/2011/03/31/if-we-lived-in-a-female-centered-world-what-words-would-be-used-to-describe-sex-119-blog/#IDComment139282455 I do believe that if we lived in a female centered world that sex and the way we think and refer to sex would be different. However, I don’t feel as if it would necessarily be as drastic as other people think it would be. People always talk about how women are so much more sensitive than men and they only have sex to fall in love or if they are in love and sex is so much more physical for me. I do understand that and in a lot of aspects that viewpoint is true. I just feel that it needs to be said that there are still a lot of women out there who just want a good time and will have sex without any type of feelings whatsoever. And by that same token there are men out there that are over the whole frat boy stereotype of wanting to have sex with as many girls as possible and who want to have meaningful intimate relationships. I have heard girls, especially at clubs and bars, talk about how all they want that night is to get laid. I think that a lot of men only think that women want to fall in love and be passionate and blah blah but honestly, that’s not always how it is. Especially since we are in college and sex is a lot more, free. I think that it just depends on the person. I know people that only want to have sex just to have sex, and those who want to fall in love and have sex. It all depends on the person. If someone only wants to get it in, then they obviously aren’t looking to fall in love with the first semi attractive person they see. And if someone wants to fall in love, then they wouldn’t always put themselves in a situation say, drunk at a dance club, which would render them the situation of finding someone of the other sort. Not once did I mention the sex of the person. I think the only thing that alters how the person feels about sex is how their peers treat sex. If a guy’s friends make a bet of how many girls they can sleep with in one year, then those guys are going to make a point of bragging about how many they could get with without falling for any kind feelings. Girls do it too. I’ve personally seen friends of mine do the same thing. It all depends on the person’s place in life and how they see themselves and other people. Maybe having sex goes along with the freedom of being on your own in college for the first time, or sex is a way of showing someone how much you care. Gender doesn’t matter as much as most people think, it all depends on the indivudual. Sat, 2 Apr 2011 03:23:08 +0000 http://www.worldinconversation.org/2011/03/31/if-we-lived-in-a-female-centered-world-what-words-would-be-used-to-describe-sex-119-blog/#IDComment139282455 http://www.worldinconversation.org/2011/02/24/how-conscious-are-you-of-your-seat-in-class-before-and-after-todays-lecture-119-blog/#IDComment130642457 I have honestly thought about this before. I always notice how silly people are when they stand in front of the entire class before or even after lecture starts deciding where to sit, hoping to get a seat that isn't by anyone else. Its as if its less embarrassing or whatever to stand in front of the class to decide than it is to just sit down wherever is close and most convenient. And I’ve noticed people seeing seats, and then disregarding the seat because of the person sitting in a seat next to it. Whether or not it has to do with that person’s race. I think it does, only because I am cynical and think people are so quick to judge others on their race. I say this because all throughout my college career I have lived with black people. I am a skinny preppy princess-y white ballerina, and I feel like more often than not when I say my roommates name is Amaris or Chinny that people A) automatically assume they are black (which they are) and B) will say “Oh you live with black girls?” as if it is a problem or they are shocked that I do. I love the girls I live with, not because they are black, but because they are good friends and very good roommates. I feel like people think that way sometimes too in classes when they choose where they sit. I was late coming into class on Thursday and the first seat I found was beside a black guy. Did I care? No. I know I have been exposed to black people my entire college career, but I really don’t think people can use that as an excuse anymore. Get over it and just sit down. Respect the teacher and the people around you and just find a seat, no matter who is sitting beside you. I completely agree with the presence of the whole latent prejudice thing, mainly because since my eyes have been so opened to it, that I am able to see it in others as well. Ok maybe you don’t want to sit in that seat because it’s on the left side of the room instead of the right, but why climb over a row full of people and backpacks just so you get your room? The rooms are more often than not crowded and your space will be invaded anyways, so why be picky as to where you sit? Fri, 25 Feb 2011 17:32:49 +0000 http://www.worldinconversation.org/2011/02/24/how-conscious-are-you-of-your-seat-in-class-before-and-after-todays-lecture-119-blog/#IDComment130642457 http://www.worldinconversation.org/2011/02/17/how-much-can-a-person-use-the-ignorance-card-119-blog/#IDComment129013589 I definitely think there is a limit to the use of the ignorance card. Sure, everyone knows that you can't know everything that is going on or being said everywhere. It's impossible. Yet you can't be blind to everything around you either. For instance, if someone was not around for a conversation between two other people, and that conversation is brought up at a later time, the person that wasn’t there for the original conversation could use the ignorance card because they honestly are unaware of what is going on. I think that sometimes a person can be ignorant to something, yet think that they know what is going on. The media has the tendency to cover a particular event or situation in a light that is relayed by the media outlet. If a world event happens and the media only covers one side of the story, then the other side is, obviously, left out or not shown in a way that covers it completely. If someone who has been exposed to that sort of media is then questioned or comes in contact with the complete story of the omitted side, they can honestly say they didn’t know, but it is their fault for not researching the other side of the story further or is the media at fault for leaving pieces out? I think that kind of situation is twofold. Sure everyone can blame the media for everything because they are an easy target. However, if we, as a society, are so “informed” and “technologically advanced”, then how can the media be completely to blame if resources to make educated opinions about the world around us are so easily at our fingertips? As members of society, and as human beings in general, it is our obligation to become as informed and worldly as possible, to better others and ourselves. That does not mean that we should only believe what we read in books or what “scholarly” sources tell us, but that we should formulate our own views once we have become properly educated. I think that once we are able to educate ourselves, we will be less motivated to use the ignorance card out of place. I know for a fact that people use the ignorance card all the time to get out of a situation in which they don’t know the full story or don’t want to accept it. The truth is, although there are certain times that the ignorance card is valid, we as a people must keep pushing to become more informed so that playing the ignorance card is used less frequently. Sat, 19 Feb 2011 03:26:05 +0000 http://www.worldinconversation.org/2011/02/17/how-much-can-a-person-use-the-ignorance-card-119-blog/#IDComment129013589 http://www.worldinconversation.org/2011/02/03/do-you-think-race-can-stop-being-an-issue-in-the-future-119-blog/#IDComment126070314 Obviously, it’s hard to judge anything that will happen in the future. I’m sure that people a hundred years ago would never have predicted what our world is like today. However, I think some things will always remain. I do believe that racism will never go away. It’s kind of the same topic as war, prosecution, etc. It’s unavoidable in this world since there are so many different people being brought up in so many different ways in different cultures. I believe that once everyone can accept everyone else for exactly who they are, that racism will go away. Until then, we are stuck in the rut of judging each other no matter what, and issues around the world being caused by misunderstandings. I feel as if people are always so quick to judge each other. It’s something completely unavoidable. No matter how much you accept everyone and everything, I think everyone is so up tight and stuck in their ways, whether you can see it in front of you or not, to accept everyone. I think a lot of the time people can change their minds as to what they think, but for the most, part it seems to be very difficult. I think sometimes I get so mad at racism and people that are racist because I don’t understand how people can be so mean to each other. Sure I see it every day and I’ve always been exposed to racism, but I still don’t understand how other people can’t just accept each other. And then I think, oh I am judging other people that don’t understand others, so does that make me racist about those people? I feel like it is just an endless cycle of people assuming things about others because they are ignorant. I think it all comes down to ignorance. I believe that once ignorance is eliminated, that racism and all the other issues that come along with ignorance will go away. Education is the best weapon we have against racism and once everyone is educated as to the differences between everyone and how everyone is really quite similar at the basis I think we will be able to eliminate racism. If everyone could be exposed to a class like this, I definitely think that some minds would be changed. I still think that some people, maybe older generations or people that were brought up under different circumstances might not understand, but education to eliminate ignorance would be the best assistant in helping to get rid of racism in the future. Sat, 5 Feb 2011 04:13:24 +0000 http://www.worldinconversation.org/2011/02/03/do-you-think-race-can-stop-being-an-issue-in-the-future-119-blog/#IDComment126070314