en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/765013 Comments by donkeykong5093 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/stories-for-uplift__trashed/#IDComment71243618 At times, we are faced with things in our life that race matters. I am personally from an Asian Family where it is expected for us to marry or date someone of our own kind.The second video with Tan Hong Ming was really cute and funny, but it really represents a deep message about relationship with one another. The message in that video that race should not really matter in relationship and love, if two people are to fall in love with one another then so be it, love is something that is not suppose to be bound to limits on the basis of race. I remember when i fall in love with a Spanish girl when i was little, my mindset during that age was not based on racism topics nor base on seeing the skin color difference between us, or seeing the difference in culture in us. In that age those topics didnt really matter to me because it was something that didnt really matter to me or made a big deal of in that time. I think kids should just be "colour blind", not just kids but to everything. Why make a big deal of things such as race, appearance, and culture. I think everything should be become one, have people open their hears and minds and experience a world where everything can be seen in peace and unity. The first video where a man give a kidney to a grocery store clerk i thought was really touching, i mean this man with nothing in return goes out and gives a kidney for person who never demanded or asked it from him. The man gave his kidney with a open heart and wanted to assure safety for the person and her dearing life. He represents what good we have in our world, where everyone is willing to help each other and give each other hope and give one us recognition not on the basis of racism and skin color, but on the basis of the inside just do not understand, it is so frustrating to think about the way this world works. We honestly should all have to think about the way our children things and how their minds function, children see no differences on the basis of race and skin color, they see no boundaries or limits in people. We adults have to teach people and our children to live in a world with a open mind and heart and look beyond a person's color. We need a world where everyone is unified and love each other and care for each other not on race but on the inside. Thu, 29 Apr 2010 06:29:30 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/stories-for-uplift__trashed/#IDComment71243618 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment69996826 To the 300000 people who died, i guess in reality people here in america or anywhere else do feel not affected for it like they do with loved ones but i get the feeling of guilt because i dont know what to do or feel i cant do anything about it and i just move on with my life. I was sad about it of course, but i didnt really cry - its like me saying "oh it happened, that is sad, and i just move on with my life" i guess we feel that doesnt really effect us cause we dont feel the pain and suffering ourselves and we feel that it might never happen to us. People in haiti gone through some many bad and suffering experiences that i myself cant imagine, but since they are there and we are here, i guess we cant feel so much sympathy as those who experience the pain there. Fri, 23 Apr 2010 21:18:51 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment69996826 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/south-park-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment69995180 Well i gotta say that south park, family guy, and other forms of entertainment do things to the extreme where that all take forms of insults to people. They things they say or show are out of the ordinary but it like this. They are doing this kind of things because it way of proving entertainment, south park always has episode where it angers people and if offends them and their culture, but hey its south park, but i guess there are times where they went to far to insult someone religion and culture, i guess they have to wake up and realize sometimes they things they say and talk about in their show arent in reality really funny and they have to wake up and realize that. Fri, 23 Apr 2010 21:14:29 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/south-park-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment69995180 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/how-am-i-not-a-racist__trashed/#IDComment69413031 i think its personally okay to know that you are speaking within the lines racism, but if you know that surely that means that you are not a racist. I like to respect you to know that your in the line. It might appear to be racist that if some one were to say something like they are better suited to help a country then a least developing country but in reality it is not racism at all. People should be aware that racism is not always from the lines of stating a fact. If america is able to help a least foreign country then another country then it could be true. It not like the guy was saying yeah Americans are better than the rest of the world because we have more resources, better homes, better people, etc etc. but in reality that sense of pride did not come from the speaker. You should not worry because i believe you were aware of what you were saying, some people say things before they think and usually they end up insulting someone like as racist, political leaders who are interested in one race domination. America is given lots of opportunities and it is our duty as Americans to help those in need of our resources and developed country. I think we should be able to recognize that all the benefits that we American possesses should not be uses just on our country. there are other countries in need of our aid. An example is Haiti and american and other developed countries should help those who are in pain and suffering and have lack of resources to help themselves out. The definition of racism is judging someone of another skin, color, appearance by your own standards and stating your race is better then theres. In this case that america is one to help a less developed country is not a form of racism. America is here along with other developed countries to help and provide, whatever the cost may be. Wed, 21 Apr 2010 19:57:45 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/how-am-i-not-a-racist__trashed/#IDComment69413031 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68318017 I agree with the concept of "it does not really matter" i mean society and the media tells us what the ideal vision of what is perfect and what is to be expected in order to be perfect. Personally i see that as utter B.s., i watch shows such as America's next top model and movies like Vegas and i see scenes where judges tell people who are auditioning for them comments like "your nose is to big" "your baby fat has to go" "your face is to big" "you body is to small" blah blah blah. To me i see it something that is really pointless. I think is not right to tell someone else that they are not perfect even you who are judging are not perfect either. I look at the judges and say wow, some of them are really ugly. I see one judge that acts like a total dick and man he is butt ugly. The point i am trying to make is that the world tells us we need to fit some kind of standard in reaching perfection. I see my friends who look at magazines such as seven teen or G Q and they say comments like "i wish i had her face" or "man, she is really beautiful, what joy it would be to be in her body". I just look at my friends and yell " you guys are not ugly nor do you have to be like those girls to be beautiful" To me, my friends are beautiful, no doubt about it. Not because they look like the girls in the magazine, not because they fit the criteria of "being perfect" in society, but because to me they are people who believe they are perfect and will always believe they were perfect, no matter what society tells them. Fri, 16 Apr 2010 03:58:17 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68318017 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men__trashed/#IDComment68316864 I feel that Men themselves have a lot to conform to, to society standards, to men's ideal vision of pride, to the media, to the flow of what is to be expected in Men, and the ideal vision of what a man represents. I went through so many pressures of trying to fit in the norms and pressure of being the ideal man in society. In media and to the public of this nation, the ideal man is someone who is strong, courageous, confident, athletic, protective, aggressive, and charming to women. As i skim over pages of magazines such a sports illustrated and power house, i see pictures and description of men who are well dressed, handsome, popular and secured in both state of mind and physical aspects. Through out grade school and even till now, i been trying to fit that persona and be that kind of man. I struggled everyday to fit that criteria by going to the gym, hanging out with peers who fit that description of man, and always to exert myself in becoming best in sports. Through the trails of achieving perfection in men hood, i have gone through many pain and suffering. In Tuesday class, we were given a performance of a skit, which consisted of three girls, the girls acted out a scenario where a girl is about to get a boob adjustment and her friend is trying to convince her not to get it and save it for others who really do need it. Her friend refuses to listen and argues with her friend and the third girl is trying to speed things up with no care at all. Basically both friends get hurt and walk away from each other. Scratching the boob part, but that kind of scenario is the same with men as well. There are men who went out to do drugs such as steroids in order to perform and be the best in sports and have a looks of a "manly" man.I have friends who went through that case and i have been hurt and eventually my friend go hurt. The media, our culture, and view points of men and women is what brings so many insecurities in both male and females. Men, just like women, are constantly aware of themselves and what the appear. They change themselves in order to be fit in society image of what men and women should look like. Through that process of fitting the image, males grow through my trials of pain and hopelessness in order to meet the standards. It brings stress and pain and blinds males of seeing what is really in front of them, they are perfect no matter what people or the media tells them. Fri, 16 Apr 2010 03:46:39 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men__trashed/#IDComment68316864 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/christian-invaders-the-turnaround__trashed/#IDComment68314246 Today's lecture kinda made sensed to me and by far one of the best lectures i hear. Sam said that in the past he has heard that criticism about his lectures, knowing that the some people view him as crazy. Today however, i believe why so many of my class mates in the past or from people who took his class before have stated why he is such a good, powerful teacher. I know from today why Sam is a professor with reputation that goes beyond from ordinary professors. The way he conducted his lecture no just one single view point but from multiple view points. Today in lecture we looked from a Muslim student stand point and how they react to the acts they see in Americans. Sam showed us viewpoints from baptist, Sarah Palin, George Bush, and a general. Some of the things that Sam discussed today (to some people) were offensive, but let us forget that in Sam's lectures that will always be the case, there will be some one in the crowd that will be offended of the things that Sam says. I found it very touching and emotional how the lecture open the eyes of some people and saw things differently. They understand why Muslims or people living in Iraq are in so much pain and anger because they believe in the concept of Christian Invaders. The video of soldiers shooting at a car and running over it with a tank because of law of mugging was broken or a tank pushing a car in front off to the side of the road. The people who hate Americans and its soldier are only exposed to that image and viewpoint. They are unaware of our view point, that the soldiers are people who have families and known to be good people. Muslim are restricted to that one view point and can not see things the way we do. It is also reverse to, we only see Muslims as terrorist, who are always going out for war and for chaos of the united nations, America, Christians, and its allies. I feel that that today's lecture was really emotional and in then end, Sam asked us a question concerning with the thought of whether if we were Muslim would we fight against American's, i answer maybe or more towards to the idea that i might be against war. But if i was a Muslim student who is faced with a single view point maybe i dont want to. Sam lesson is to not become a extremist and hes right. Fri, 16 Apr 2010 03:31:24 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/christian-invaders-the-turnaround__trashed/#IDComment68314246 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/i-really-want-to-know-also__trashed/#IDComment66711319 I guess its different for everyone, like we all take different effects from Sam's lectures. I know some people say that their lives have been changed by Sam's lecture. I personally feel that i got a lot from this class. When i first came to this class in January, i thought i knew what to expect from this class, i thought i would hear the same things over and over again. I came to Sam's class having the assumption that i would hear the same lesson- racism is wrong, blacks today are mistreated. But i was proven wrong, i learned many things such as the white guilt theory, slavery- not just in american history, but slavery exist today. The lesson that outer appearance or basing where we are from does not tell us what our heritage and race comes from. Basically I personally got a lot from Sam. I admit that some lectures i felt i did not get anything at all from it but in reality each time i came to Sam's Lecture, i feel that my eye open more. Today in lecture, Sam told us about Slavery and its effect on us. At first i came to class thinking it would be a class where i can fall asleep and rest after a long day of exams. But the topic and the video same showed us really struck me and made me fully awake. Sam , today, gave us all two pieces of chocolate that were wrapped in foil and told everyone to eat the first piece and not to eat the second one until after the video. Sam showed us a video of Africans making and working on gathering chocolate, the very chocolate that we eat today, the chocolate that we just ate. The truth about these Africans is that they are slave, who work on the fields everyday while receiving no money at all from their owners or managers. They left their homes and country in order to make money for their families and get out of the state of poverty. Ever since they left their families, they were place in fields where its location is unknown to them. The workers are overpowered by their owner. if they ask for money, they wont receive any. If they escape, they are severely beaten while in bondage. They show their scares and the image is very powerful and affected me. After watching the video, Sam tells everyone to eat the second, and i knew and thought how could i eat something that slave work so much to make and without seeing any benefits in for themselves. How could the world not realize this. I was also affected by the baby video where colored children choose the white doll over the black doll and say that the white doll is beautiful and say that the black doll is not- which represents themselves. The main point is Sam do change our way of thinking and makes us realize and be aware of what is really happening in our world today and we are blinded from not seeing it. Fri, 9 Apr 2010 03:02:23 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/i-really-want-to-know-also__trashed/#IDComment66711319 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-about-multiracial-people__trashed/#IDComment65408262 Well I faced this same issues before that of my own , although Im fully Asian, sometimes i am confused to whether I am categorized as a white or a black/dark people. In class, Sam mostly used the categories black and white and sometimes I feel left out or my race- the whole Asian group- is left out in the category- like how are suppose to identify ourselves? Are we considered to be black cause we are minorities or are we suppose to be categorized in the white group because we have pale white skin? But for the person who is asking the question in the video, I would suggest to categorize yourself in what ever you feel heart or home with. The speaker stated that hes half white, half Hispanic, and his ethnicity is Porto .Rican, and many people come up to him, even Sam, and say hes "white." I believe that you cant just say or state what you are based on what other people would describe or say what you look like. For me, people say I am Asian and in reality i do look like an Asian. Both of my parents are from Asia and i inherit their genes in appearance and looks. Even though I may look like a Asian, i feel like I am more Asian American then Asian. Many people would argue that Asian and Asian American are very much the same, but i believe the two terms are completely different from each other, its like they are both different culture (which i totally agree with.) The speaker in the video said that through his experience in his life- he has always categorized himself as black and colored. Even Sam came up to him and said what were his views on white issues and he responded by saying that he is Hispanic. I believe that he just need to have a firm grip and standing of knowing who he is and what race he belongs in- which i believe he already had done. If i was in that guys shoes i would have done the same thing, if i feel like i grew up in environment and experiences more Hispanic influenced than white, then i would say i was Hispanic as well. No matter what other people would say or what people would tell you, only you (yourself) will know what you are and where you belong in. Thats why i stated that i was Asian American than Asian because i grew up in a white culture, i lived in american, i was more involved with white culture than my Asian culture. It comes down to what you see in the inside, not the outside. You are the one who knows what you heritage is, it all comes down the your race identity that you feel comfortable and suitable with yourself. Fri, 2 Apr 2010 09:46:09 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-about-multiracial-people__trashed/#IDComment65408262 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-about-multiracial-people__trashed/#IDComment65399425 Well I faced this same issues before that of my own , although Im fully Asian, sometimes i am confused to whether I am categorized as a white or a black/dark people. In class, Sam mostly used the categories black and white and sometimes I feel left out or my race- the whole Asian group- is left out in the category- like how are suppose to identify ourselves? Are we considered to be black cause we are minorities or are we suppose to be categorized in the white group because we have pale white skin? But for the person who is asking the question in the video, I would suggest to categorize yourself in what ever you feel heart or home with. The speaker stated that hes half white, half Hispanic, and his ethnicity is Porto .Rican, and many people come up to him, even Sam, and say hes "white." I believe that you cant just say or state what you are based on what other people would describe or say what you look like. For me, people say I am Asian and in reality i do look like an Asian. Both of my parents are from Asia and i inherit their genes in appearance and looks. Even though I may look like a Asian, i feel like I am more Asian American then Asian. Many people would argue that Asian and Asian American are very much the same, but i believe the two terms are completely different from each other, its like they are both different culture (which i totally agree with.) The speaker in the video said that through his experience in his life- he has always categorized himself as black and colored. Even Sam came up to him and said what were his views on white issues and he responded by saying that he is Hispanic. I believe that he just need to have a firm grip and standing of knowing who he is and what race he belongs in- which i believe he already had done. If i was in that guys shoes i would have done the same thing, if i feel like i grew up in environment and experiences more Hispanic influenced than white, then i would say i was Hispanic as well. No matter what other people would say or what people would tell you, only you (yourself) will know what you are and where you belong in. Thats why i stated that i was Asian American than Asian because i grew up in a white culture, i lived in american, i was more involved with white culture than my Asian culture. It comes down to what you see in the inside, not the outside. You are the one who knows what you heritage is, it all comes down the your race identity that you feel comfortable and suitable with yourself. Fri, 2 Apr 2010 06:13:25 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-about-multiracial-people__trashed/#IDComment65399425 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-about-multiracial-people__trashed/#IDComment65460436 Well I faced this same issues before that of my own , although Im fully Asian, sometimes i am confused to whether I am categorized as a white or a black/dark people. In class, Sam mostly used the categories black and white and sometimes I feel left out or my race- the whole Asian group- is left out in the category- like how are suppose to identify ourselves? Are we considered to be black cause we are minorities or are we suppose to be categorized in the white group because we have pale white skin? But for the person who is asking the question in the video, I would suggest to categorize yourself in what ever you feel heart or home with. The speaker stated that hes half white, half Hispanic, and his ethnicity is Porto .Rican, and many people come up to him, even Sam, and say hes "white." I believe that you cant just say or state what you are based on what other people would describe or say what you look like. For me, people say I am Asian and in reality i do look like an Asian. Both of my parents are from Asia and i inherit their genes in appearance and looks. Even though I may look like a Asian, i feel like I am more Asian American then Asian. Many people would argue that Asian and Asian American are very much the same, but i believe the two terms are completely different from each other, its like they are both different culture (which i totally agree with.) The speaker in the video said that through his experience in his life- he has always categorized himself as black and colored. Even Sam came up to him and said what were his views on white issues and he responded by saying that he is Hispanic. I believe that he just need to have a firm grip and standing of knowing who he is and what race he belongs in- which i believe he already had done. If i was in that guys shoes i would have done the same thing, if i feel like i grew up in environment and experiences more Hispanic influenced than white, then i would say i was Hispanic as well. No matter what other people would say or what people would tell you, only you (yourself) will know what you are and where you belong in. Thats why i stated that i was Asian American than Asian because i grew up in a white culture, i lived in american, i was more involved with white culture than my Asian culture. It comes down to what you see in the inside, not the outside. You are the one who knows what you heritage is, it all comes down the your race identity that you feel comfortable and suitable with yourself. Fri, 2 Apr 2010 05:46:09 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-about-multiracial-people__trashed/#IDComment65460436 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/how-can-we-ever-win__trashed/#IDComment65407919 Its true that the things that Sam say are out of ordinary, Sam discusses issues and topics that are considered "hush hush" topics in norms and basically things that people do not really go out and say in public or even in a class room setting. So the answer to the speaker in the video where she ask "can we ever win?" In response there is always a way that we can win. Is there a point in being Soc 119 and talk about issues of race and ethnicities? Yes there is, sometimes people need to be awakened and face issues and conflicts of race and ethnicity. Sure, sometimes in class Sam would say things that in a way offends people where people would leave class, people would grip their hands, people feel emotions of anger and a mindset of misunderstanding the point that Sam is trying to get out. Through all that, I believe that everyone in class has their eyes opened to the topic and issues of race and ethnicity. The purpose of Soc 119 is to get people aware of what is really out there and what we need to face that is in reality and not be blinded and naive to the issues that really exists in our races in society. As i move through and analyze the stages of Preawakening, awakening, immersion, disintegration, pseudo communitarian, and humanitarian stages i feel like I am part humanitarian stage but in reality i am more of Pseudo communitarian stage. I am opened to all cultures and want to base a person on the inside and not on the outside. But sometimes i would cling and attach myself to group of people i feel home with and sometimes accept people like them more than people who were different, i would sometimes have anger or blame people of different race of mine for many things but i reality i act only in my hatred and anger. A person can only win if he is able to understand, listen to views of other people and not be offended by them and act in anger to argue with them. If you can do that , i believe that is how you will win, that is when you know and understand through full mindset of positive thoughts. the stages and learning the topics in soc 119 are helpful and do have a purpose. i believe people learn alot from them and from it we can learn alot about our sociological stages and be more open to issues of race and react to it from normal norms. In the end, it is not about winning or saying we achieve on pasting through all stages, it all comes down to each and every one of us understanding the issues of race and ethnicity and knowing how to respond to it by reducing the threat of mindset of racism discrimination and stereotypes. Fri, 2 Apr 2010 02:41:22 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/how-can-we-ever-win__trashed/#IDComment65407919 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-about-multiracial-people__trashed/#IDComment65400081 Well I faced this same issues before that of my own , although Im fully Asian, sometimes i am confused to whether I am categorized as a white or a black/dark people. In class, Sam mostly used the categories black and white and sometimes I feel left out or my race- the whole Asian group- is left out in the category- like how are suppose to identify ourselves? Are we considered to be black cause we are minorities or are we suppose to be categorized in the white group because we have pale white skin? But for the person who is asking the question in the video, I would suggest to categorize yourself in what ever you feel heart or home with. The speaker stated that hes half white, half Hispanic, and his ethnicity is Porto .Rican, and many people come up to him, even Sam, and say hes "white." I believe that you cant just say or state what you are based on what other people would describe or say what you look like. For me, people say I am Asian and in reality i do look like an Asian. Both of my parents are from Asia and i inherit their genes in appearance and looks. Even though I may look like a Asian, i feel like I am more Asian American then Asian. Many people would argue that Asian and Asian American are very much the same, but i believe the two terms are completely different from each other, its like they are both different culture (which i totally agree with.) The speaker in the video said that through his experience in his life- he has always categorized himself as black and colored. Even Sam came up to him and said what were his views on white issues and he responded by saying that he is Hispanic. I believe that he just need to have a firm grip and standing of knowing who he is and what race he belongs in- which i believe he already had done. If i was in that guys shoes i would have done the same thing, if i feel like i grew up in environment and experiences more Hispanic influenced than white, then i would say i was Hispanic as well. No matter what other people would say or what people would tell you, only you (yourself) will know what you are and where you belong in. Thats why i stated that i was Asian American than Asian because i grew up in a white culture, i lived in american, i was more involved with white culture than my Asian culture. It comes down to what you see in the inside, not the outside. You are the one who knows what you heritage is, it all comes down the your race identity that you feel comfortable and suitable with yourself. Fri, 2 Apr 2010 02:13:25 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-about-multiracial-people__trashed/#IDComment65400081 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/revisioning-the-revisioning-stage__trashed/#IDComment65393027 I grew up in Rockville, Maryland and all around me there were different kinds of races such as whites, Hispanics, Latinos, Asians, blacks, and so on so forth. As I was in elementary school, the concept of race and issues of inequality in American society never crossed my mind. Soon as I grew up and entered in a scene whether social status and race mattered. I first experienced it in middle school - a starting point of where you eventually hang out with a group of people constantly for the rest of your grad school. Asians hang out with other Asians, preppy people (which were mostly white) hung with each other along with the athletes and jocks. Blacks hung out with blacks and so did the Latinos and Spanish. I did not why the things were the way they are at first but eventually through my own personal experience and witnessing others I soon came to understand why and eventually entered the stage of "re-visioning"-the concept of racial inequality. I first to experience through exams and tests. One day our teacher showed us the states of our test scores and as i looked into the categories- it was divided into several groups based on race- Asian, black, white, Hispanic, other. So I saw that blacks were considerably low and whites were relatively high. This was in middle school so i did not know why or how social factors contributed to the scores at first. In my area., people who were categorized as colored were often in a family setting that was in poverty and were influence to work instead of study. Students that were white had families where education brought their family success and in life of wealth and fortune. I did not know why it was like that or why it was meant to be. Soon i started to see many differences, even though they were clear as day to spot, my eyes just suddenly opened as though i was covered in a black cloth and finally it was taken away and i was able to see many difference in race. I soon realized the social status, welfare, job status, and difference in culture in different races and soon realize that we are all different in many ways not just by simply appearance but also by our cultures, life status, way of life, beliefs, and influences. I soon realize it in the media and at a time i too felt the guilt that should be put in whites. I grew in anger and hatred at a time but eventually knew that was not case that all the guilt should be put on white nor the whites today should feel guilty of what some of their ancestors did in the past. From that point on i moved in the stage of Awakening and soon wanted to stop the issues of inequality and start something where again i can see past the difference and issues in our race and one day maybe combine together to be one. Fri, 2 Apr 2010 01:48:23 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/revisioning-the-revisioning-stage__trashed/#IDComment65393027 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment64257559 I guess the term for period that Sam used such as "bleeding" was kinda a shock and in a way uncalled for but why is it such a big deal? Sam did say we lived a man's world and through that world we live in a way where we cant talk about women's period openly. The topic is something that you can openly discuss and talk about out in the open. Women do not really want to discuss their experience in their period stage cause its something to them not worth to be proud and say "its great having a period." From what i experience from my friends who are females, when they have periods, it is hard for them to be happy about it nor enjoy it. The topic of period or Sam's term "bleeding" follow in the lines of hush hush topics of sex and masturbation. These topics are thing that mostly not many people would want to share nor does our public want to express interest in sharing it. I guess when Sam talked about bleeding, it shocked many people because it was out of the norm. What student would expect his teacher to ask her if she was bleeding right now in class? Not many female students are willing or want to to show to the rest of the class that they are going through a stage in their period. I notice that alot of girls were disgusted and left the class room due to anger and being disgusted to know that their professor Sam would disgust something so hush hush openly to the rest of the class. They have the right to because we live in a world where it is considered wrong and out of the norm to openly to talk about bleeding that women go through to rest of the class. But if we live in a women's world (as Sam) things would be different, reaction would be different, hush hush topics would be different, and the student response to Sam's comments on bleeding would be different from what it was. Fri, 26 Mar 2010 22:09:37 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment64257559 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64255469 As i watched the video, Sam did say that the video was going to be one of the disturbing videos in the class and i agree. I found it shocking and sad that African American, dark skinned children choose the white doll over the black doll. They were then asked to to describe and explain why they would choose the white doll over the black doll and they responded by saying that the white doll was nice and they said the black doll was bad looking. Basically the concept they believed in was that the good doll was white and the bad doll was black. The children was then asked which doll looked like them and then the kids choose the black doll after saying the black doll was bad. To me, I felt why would a child believe they are the bad doll and choose a doll that does not represent them. Today, our society involves around media and many children are influence by it. I myself am a minority and grew up thinking white dolls were better and considered good dolls instead of an Asian doll. I see my sisters always playing with white american looking dolls in her room and off to the side i see the Asian made dolls who looked like my sister off in the corner- not touched or played with at all. Many minority kids believe that white looking dolls or looking white is good and considered beautiful. But as a child looks through a mirror and see that they are not white colored or looks like the doll they play with, they believe that they are ugly and considered a "bad doll." We need to have kids believe no matter what color, where your from, or what race your from, you dont have to feel ugly because you dont look like a doll that is advertise on t.v. Kids need to believe that we are all beautiful in side and outside no matter what we look like and where we are from. Fri, 26 Mar 2010 21:53:09 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64255469 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-are-all-of-you-thinking-about-asians__trashed/#IDComment64145602 Well its true we did not touch much on Asians and its topic. But the question is "can people distinguish the difference between Asians and Asian Americans?" I think sometimes its hard to distinguish the two. As in appearance i feel Asian are grouped as a whole instead of individually, doest matter whether your Chinese, Vietnamese, Phillipans, Korean, Asians are just Asian. People not from Asia will see Asians as people who have pale skin, small eyes, kung-fu- basically their viewpoint is stereotypical. In reality though like with all other races, Asians are really different from each other by a lot. We all may look the same, but in reality its like two different cultures. Asian Americans born here in the United States seem to be in the awakening stage where we believe that we are white or in terms of people - "white washed" or "twinkies"- Asians who are Asians in the outside but white in the inside. I myself is Asian and was born here in America and i feel completely different from Asians and some of the international student who attend here at penn state. We both are different and its hard for us to find a fitting with each other. Fri, 26 Mar 2010 04:53:14 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-are-all-of-you-thinking-about-asians__trashed/#IDComment64145602 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-to-do-about-white-guilt__trashed/#IDComment62899402 I agree as well, as we grow up we are given facts, a sense of direction of whether something is right or wrong in the early stages of my life. As i grew up throughout grade school, i learned of past history of African Americans and their past through slavery, discrimination, and poverty. As a child I simply knew that slavery in America is simply wrong and that many past African Americans went through a lot of pain and suffering through the trails of groups like the ku Klux Klan (kkk), running towards freedom, and hardships even after they were freed. But most of the things I was taught was facts and events. I did not really know about race relations issues. I guess as i was reading books as a grade school students - i only read through a single point of view. I learned and got a sense of an idea that whites were simply the blame. I watched movies like Pocahontas, KKK historical videos, and hardships of slaves who were controlled by white supremacist. So the question is what to do about the "white guilt." It true that as a student or child we are given facts and not points of view such as whites are to blame, but from the facts we are given we get a idea of whose the blame from facts of who owned slaves and who were simply " king of the mountain". I got idea that whites were to blame but i was never taught to blame white people nor do i believe its fair to blame or put on guilt people today of what their ancestors have done in the past. History books of the old should be thrown out and so should come the new books of history which goes beyond facts, goes something deeper. More of culture and sense of idea, broader perspective where no one is to blame or be given a sense of guilt. I believe whats in the past should stay in the past, we learn from the past and grow together in both ourselves and with each other. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 05:22:04 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-to-do-about-white-guilt__trashed/#IDComment62899402 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-happens-to-multiracial-people__trashed/#IDComment62897407 I guess Sam is creating a base where people can easily categorize themselves like people from a European area like England to Russia are considered white because simply they have white color skin and so on so forth. The topic on multiracial people- i guess its hard to categorize your self to simple bases or race such as black and white. Today, people can be both white or black - people can be more than one group of race. The world is changing and so should the bases of identifying a person's race. On a earlier post on how people would check themselves in a questionnaire, the simple choices where a person is given black, white, etc should change and simply have the person choose or state what they are. For sam, i guess its hard to find so many bases for multi racial people that he himself cant do but we all must do. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:59:48 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/what-happens-to-multiracial-people__trashed/#IDComment62897407 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment62895952 I think its all based on perception and point of view. I guess there can be many concerns falling into the race category. Many people who are minorities sometimes have a point of view that people who are grouped or termed "white" who say something offensive is a big deal. But if another way around where say a black person makes front of a white person- it would be less of a major issue. To that point view i think its just simply "stupid" because we all face offensive terms and subjects everyday of our lives, everyone faces and goes through it. I don't know why people who were categorized as white did not make their stand to offensive term targeted at them just like how people categorized "blacks". At class i saw comments where both groups had really insensitive, disrespectful comments target at them. I observed black reactions to terms like "annoying" and "loud", a girl who took offense to it said "now that is plain mess up" and i agreed with her. But then i observed the same girl as she told her friend next to her to text something back to the opposite race. To that i stated " that is messed up". I also observed the class particularly the white students and all i heard was chuckles and statements like "what?" I guess white students do not take to much offense to the irrelevant and rude statement and simply quite used to it and rub it off like it doesn't affect them at all. May be blacks take more offense to the statement because i guess its kind of the same problems they face everyday where they go through verbal abuse and misunderstanding form people outside their race. But i say we all go through it and its a problem that not just one group of race face, but we all must face and fixed to make race more of a single unity. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:44:09 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment62895952