en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/1115461 Comments by cym5201 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment84830900 I definetly agree with you. Heck I used my families name for everything. I now use my husbands name to my benefit also. However, when I used my families name or when I use my husbands name, I try to make a name for myself. When I used my families name back in Pittsburgh, I got the job I wanted, discounts, whatever. This was partially because I think, people thought my grandfather was in the mob, so not true! But back thenI didnt care, I just wanted an easy way in, and then I would make a name for myself. I have friends who have used their mothers name to become apart of different sororities. Yes, affirmitive action, is a name which has a bad rap. Affirmitive Action is not just for POC, but all nationalities. Mon, 5 Jul 2010 04:56:17 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment84830900 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment84829378 To each his own, whatever your sexuality is, is your business. However, whether your gay or straight, public displays of affection, should be kept to a minimum. I do feel that if you are homosexual, and display public affection, you are very much ridiculed more. This shouldn't be. I have really good friends who are homosexual and when we go out people think we are all homosexual. So not true!! One of my good friends actually got fired from his job for being a homosexual. He would go to work dressed as a man, however he has very feminem ways. Some of the older costumers began to complain, about how he walks and talks(he overheard the conversation with these 2 old hags and his manager), and at the end of the he was terminated. At the end of the day he got the last laugh we he sued the company . Whatever your beliefs are, that's fine, but your beliefs should not result in hurting someone's feeling and or causing them their lively hood. That's just wrong! Mon, 5 Jul 2010 04:41:39 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment84829378 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84827145 I totally agree with you. And I have called myself racist against non-Americans. It burns my bridges to go to a place of business, where I can't understand a word they are saying. Then they'll get upset when you say excuse but I don't understand. The 2 nurses at my job are African and sometimes when they are speaking thier words run together, they'll see my facial expression and slow down. Sometimes i'll even say, speak English, I don't understand. We all just laugh it off, since this is now the standard joke in our office. However, if you don't speak English, or if we as Americans go to other countries, don't get upset when someone ask can you repeat yourself. Mon, 5 Jul 2010 04:26:15 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84827145 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment84824124 That's when I first realized and really admitted that I was prejudice against people of other countries. This is something i'm still working on. It's really not them I should be upset, I should be upset with the folks who make the rules to give them all of this stuff. We have people right here in America who are homeless, give them a house. Single mothers who catch 2 or 3 buses just to get back and forth to work or school, give them a car. Now please don't get me wrong, i'm not talking about giving these items to the lazy americans who don't want to lift a pencil, but the working(or going to school) americans who may just be having a hard. So needless to say, this lesson, so far, has not been of interest to me. I even kept telling myself have an mind...but I just couldn't do it. SMH @ myself...I apologize if I have offended anyone, but this is just how I feel for now. Mon, 5 Jul 2010 03:57:47 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment84824124 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment84824111 Ok, so I will be honest...I guess I'm the odd man out. I really wasn't interested in the lesson 13. I mean some of what Dr. Richards I understood, but I just wasn't as enthused as I was with all the other lectures. Maybe I wasnt interested because I'm prejudiced of people from other countries coming into America. Coming into America and getting a lot of perks that some Americans wish they had. When I was younger, mid 20's, and just just getting started in the social work field, I would have to do home visits. The area where my office is, is mostly folks from other countries. I would go in these houses, nice houses, with nice cars in the driveway and I would be pissed. I'm going to be honest. Mon, 5 Jul 2010 03:57:36 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment84824111 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81850940 Seems like we were in the same boat. I lived in Pittsburgh in a neighborhood with people of all colors and religions. I went to a Catholic school. I begged my parents to let me go to a public high school and then did. EVERYONE talked about me my first few months. I was too proper, too light, dressed preppy, and told I thought I was better than them. What? Because my parents wanted me to attend a private school, I was made to be the the bad girl. That's really sad. I hated to go to school because of this.Why is it if you don't act like how society portays you, you act like the race your not? This society is so screwed up, its a shame. I too enjoyed this lesson. I'm actually enjoying the entire class. Thu, 24 Jun 2010 04:19:53 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81850940 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81849412 a doll that looks like them. It was sad to see how the little hesitated in handing the lady the doll that looked at her. We as parents really need to examine ourselves and the things we are teaching our children. Are we raisning racist kids? Something to think about. Why, we as parents just can't teach our children, no matter what your race is, that your beautiful in the skin God choose for you. If God wanted you to be something else, He would have made you that in the very beginning. Thu, 24 Jun 2010 04:05:08 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81849412 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81849007 Growing up my parents pretty much made sure I had all types of dolls that were both black and white. This was mainly to make sure that both sides represented. With my daughter I did the same thing. I didnt want my children to think that one color is better than the other. I got and still get, even from family members, you act and talk so white. How do you act and talk white? Because I use proper English, dress conservative, have long straight hair? I don't get it. I hear a lot of races use improper English. Are they acting Black? I was kind of sad about the doll experiment. That's really crazy. The kids aren't comfortable in choosing Thu, 24 Jun 2010 04:01:30 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81849007 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81133178 I agree with you it is hard to be yourself. It takes a lot of soul searching, to find the true you. The one thing I have done when I am store, and being followed, I just leave. I have decided that I will not give you my hard money. If you feel that I am not good enough to be in your store, I'll leave. Because to me that's what your saying, I'm following you because I don't think you should be here! I also commend you, on being you! People are prone to be a ease once the ice is broken. I think if more of us(PEOPLE) were just ourselves these awkward situations would not happen as often. I'm sure your still get someone who gets a kick out the awkwards, but in the end they will be the one who sticks out like a soar thumb. Sun, 20 Jun 2010 20:41:32 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81133178 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81132441 I was truly bent out of shape with the two little girls. "There weren't even that many Jews." What??? I feel sorry for them. Their parents are pouring into them their beliefs, but I wonder if the twins were ever asked what they thought. Are they given the option of exploring the world outside the racist one, their parents are having them live in. I am a firm believer, that God holds us, parents, responsible for what we instill in our children and once they become adults they are held accountable for their actions. By no means am I judging these parents, I just totally don;t agree with what I've seen. It's really sad! The whole wash cloth thing, dingy me, I thought everyone used wash cloths! lol....I am truly learning a lot from this class. But the one thing I really feel is, if people weren't so afraid to have discussions about race, we wouldn't have to wonder where comments like, white people smell like wet dogs, or blacks use wash cloths because their skin is extra dirty. We as a society should be scared to ask questions or say what's on our minds. We really shouldn't be so extra sensitive. Sun, 20 Jun 2010 20:33:14 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81132441 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81132411 Lesson 9 was an eye opener for me. I feel that not only white people are in awkward situations, however so are other races. If you are African American in a predominately white event, you feel funny yourself. Mainly because your wondering, what is everyone thinking about you. I think if all races would just be their individual self there would be no awkward feelings. Your personality has no color, to some degree. What I am trying to say is, if your an outgoing bubbly person, than be that same person when you find your self in this type of situation. If we are who we are, instead of thinking color, I don't feel awkward situations would happen as much. Sun, 20 Jun 2010 20:32:58 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81132411 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-7-race-and-ethnic-inequality__trashed/#IDComment80527101 I also never thought there were stages. I agree, i think we will never get through any of these stages if the media doesn't stop potraying white is right and black is wrong. Not saying they should not report the facts, but you don't have to emphasize the color of the person commintting the crime, etc. I really feel if people approach things with an open mind these types of discussions would not have to take place so frequently. Thu, 17 Jun 2010 04:28:17 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-7-race-and-ethnic-inequality__trashed/#IDComment80527101 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-7-race-and-ethnic-inequality__trashed/#IDComment80526382 I really enjoyed this lesson, more than any of the others. I too never thought of "who I am". However, everyday I put on heels, I do think, man I wish I was taller. I also don't understand why people get so bent out shape with the words niggers, cracker, etc....if you know you are not either one of those terms, why get upset? I enjoyed the stories about the disabled individuals. I work with various disabled individuals, and some of them have said they forget they have a disability because they have grown in their own skin and have excepted their disability. I wonder if we have done this also. If you don't say I'm a white, black, asian girl, is it because you have grown into your own skin? Or is it just because it's obvious, so you don't add to the description of yourself, your color? I will say the one thing this lecture has me thinking, is why I catergorize a group of people based on what one person has done. It's not fair to that group, because every in that group, may not be a butt head like the one person who has pissed me off. Shame on my judgemental self! Thu, 17 Jun 2010 04:18:42 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-7-race-and-ethnic-inequality__trashed/#IDComment80526382 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-two-lesson-2-intro-to-race__trashed/#IDComment78159304 I also agree! I think people should learn to be confident in their own skin. If more parents would instill this into their childrens head, you have far more confident adults. It never made sense to me why people who "hate" a certain group, waste so much money on trying to get their complexion. Not only are they wasting money, but they're also jeopardizing their health. I never knew there were so many skin lightening products out there. Guess I need to pay more attention when I'm in Walmart. lol Wed, 2 Jun 2010 04:49:08 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-two-lesson-2-intro-to-race__trashed/#IDComment78159304 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-1-lesson-1-whadya-know__trashed/#IDComment78152921 Wow after reading your post and really think about people living off of $2 a day. It really makes me want to smack myself!!!! Just the thought of being so wasteful, really makes me sick. I by no means think I am wealthy, but the way I spend money, you would think I was. I also thought about how at the drop of a dime that could be me. That totally freaks me out!!! So with this said, I will definetly begin to watch my spending habits. Especially eating out everyday for lunch(just ridiculous)! I like totally agree with you regarding the suicide rate for homosexuals. People are so very cruel and regardless of how strong you may be, if you keep hearing derogatory statements that just may push you over the edge. Wed, 2 Jun 2010 03:34:54 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-1-lesson-1-whadya-know__trashed/#IDComment78152921 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-3-lesson-4-ethnocentrism__trashed/#IDComment77948989 I get what your saying about cultural relativism, however are you getting to the know the individuals before judging. And, once you sit down and have a heart to heart, are you still forcing your own values. Because, sometimes I don't think we(Americans) are forcing our cultural values, but more so wanting them to see where we are coming from with our values and vice versa. Mon, 31 May 2010 21:33:03 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-3-lesson-4-ethnocentrism__trashed/#IDComment77948989 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-3-lesson-4-ethnocentrism__trashed/#IDComment77948363 I am in agreement with the factory farmed meats. However, I still purchase it(shame on me ), but I also purchase organic items(when I catch a good sale). When I think of slavery, I think of a lot. I think how I am a slave to my cell phone provider, cable company, the mall, and my favorite stores in Pittsburgh's Strip District. Also, I think Americans should stop judging other countries on their corprol punsihment and get a handle on ours. When folks are stoned in Afghanastan, they have an audience, well does the person being executed. What's the difference. Just one example Mon, 31 May 2010 21:27:43 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-3-lesson-4-ethnocentrism__trashed/#IDComment77948363 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-1-lesson-1-whadya-know__trashed/#IDComment76858430 I really enjoyed your post. I also, like your explanation of the tattoo. It kind of put things into prospective. It's good to continue to come across people who are comfortable in their skin. I didnt think there were many out here. Mon, 24 May 2010 03:34:46 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-1-lesson-1-whadya-know__trashed/#IDComment76858430 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-1-lesson-1-whadya-know__trashed/#IDComment76858026 Wow, there are so many thoughts going through my mind about this lecture. I too wish I was in the room, instead of just watching. This class is going to be interested! I guess one of the things, that really struck something inside of me, was the numbers for the suicide rate. I couldn't believe LBGT, suicide rate is not higher. People are so cruel these days, I would have thought this group would be on top. I also thought, white males would have been higher than what it was. Also, the name sterotype. I think all people create unique names. People of color a tad more creative. I don't think their parents think about the long term effects it has on their children, being selected for certain jobs, etc. The one question, which I really didn't care about was President Obama's religion. WHO CARES.. Is the country being run based on the religions selected by our presidents. Do we only care what his religion is because of his name, 9/11, his father was a Muslim extremist. So now we're basing our opinions on what someones father was. Who's running the country, him or his father. We are so focused on personal matters(which is none of our business) that whats important gets clouded. Pathetic, in my opinion. The thing that really ticks me off, this man is our president, and reagrdless if you voted for him, you like him, you thin he;s doing a good or bad job....we should still respect him as our president and address him as president obama. My italian, republican grandfather taught me that. He did not like president regan, however when he spoke of him(mostly bad) he still said president regan, out of respect. MANNERS COST NOTHING! Mon, 24 May 2010 03:28:17 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/week-1-lesson-1-whadya-know__trashed/#IDComment76858026 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/intense-debate-registration-id__trashed/#IDComment76728478 Hey all Sun, 23 May 2010 01:40:20 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/05/intense-debate-registration-id__trashed/#IDComment76728478