I definetly agree with you. Heck I used my families name for everything. I now use my husbands name to my benefit also. However, when I used my families name or when I use my husbands name, I try to make a name for myself. When I used my families name back in Pittsburgh, I got the job I wanted, discounts, whatever. This was partially because I think, people thought my grandfather was in the mob, so not true! But back thenI didnt care, I just wanted an easy way in, and then I would make a name for myself. I have friends who have used their mothers name to become apart of different sororities. Yes, affirmitive action, is a name which has a bad rap. Affirmitive Action is not just for POC, but all nationalities.
To each his own, whatever your sexuality is, is your business. However, whether your gay or straight, public displays of affection, should be kept to a minimum. I do feel that if you are homosexual, and display public affection, you are very much ridiculed more. This shouldn't be. I have really good friends who are homosexual and when we go out people think we are all homosexual. So not true!! One of my good friends actually got fired from his job for being a homosexual. He would go to work dressed as a man, however he has very feminem ways. Some of the older costumers began to complain, about how he walks and talks(he overheard the conversation with these 2 old hags and his manager), and at the end of the he was terminated. At the end of the day he got the last laugh we he sued the company . Whatever your beliefs are, that's fine, but your beliefs should not result in hurting someone's feeling and or causing them their lively hood. That's just wrong!
I totally agree with you. And I have called myself racist against non-Americans. It burns my bridges to go to a place of business, where I can't understand a word they are saying. Then they'll get upset when you say excuse but I don't understand. The 2 nurses at my job are African and sometimes when they are speaking thier words run together, they'll see my facial expression and slow down. Sometimes i'll even say, speak English, I don't understand. We all just laugh it off, since this is now the standard joke in our office. However, if you don't speak English, or if we as Americans go to other countries, don't get upset when someone ask can you repeat yourself.
That's when I first realized and really admitted that I was prejudice against people of other countries. This is something i'm still working on. It's really not them I should be upset, I should be upset with the folks who make the rules to give them all of this stuff. We have people right here in America who are homeless, give them a house. Single mothers who catch 2 or 3 buses just to get back and forth to work or school, give them a car. Now please don't get me wrong, i'm not talking about giving these items to the lazy americans who don't want to lift a pencil, but the working(or going to school) americans who may just be having a hard. So needless to say, this lesson, so far, has not been of interest to me. I even kept telling myself have an mind...but I just couldn't do it. SMH @ myself...I apologize if I have offended anyone, but this is just how I feel for now.
Ok, so I will be honest...I guess I'm the odd man out. I really wasn't interested in the lesson 13. I mean some of what Dr. Richards I understood, but I just wasn't as enthused as I was with all the other lectures. Maybe I wasnt interested because I'm prejudiced of people from other countries coming into America. Coming into America and getting a lot of perks that some Americans wish they had. When I was younger, mid 20's, and just just getting started in the social work field, I would have to do home visits. The area where my office is, is mostly folks from other countries. I would go in these houses, nice houses, with nice cars in the driveway and I would be pissed. I'm going to be honest.
Seems like we were in the same boat. I lived in Pittsburgh in a neighborhood with people of all colors and religions. I went to a Catholic school. I begged my parents to let me go to a public high school and then did. EVERYONE talked about me my first few months. I was too proper, too light, dressed preppy, and told I thought I was better than them. What? Because my parents wanted me to attend a private school, I was made to be the the bad girl. That's really sad. I hated to go to school because of this.Why is it if you don't act like how society portays you, you act like the race your not? This society is so screwed up, its a shame. I too enjoyed this lesson. I'm actually enjoying the entire class.
a doll that looks like them. It was sad to see how the little hesitated in handing the lady the doll that looked at her. We as parents really need to examine ourselves and the things we are teaching our children. Are we raisning racist kids? Something to think about. Why, we as parents just can't teach our children, no matter what your race is, that your beautiful in the skin God choose for you. If God wanted you to be something else, He would have made you that in the very beginning.
Growing up my parents pretty much made sure I had all types of dolls that were both black and white. This was mainly to make sure that both sides represented. With my daughter I did the same thing. I didnt want my children to think that one color is better than the other. I got and still get, even from family members, you act and talk so white. How do you act and talk white? Because I use proper English, dress conservative, have long straight hair? I don't get it. I hear a lot of races use improper English. Are they acting Black? I was kind of sad about the doll experiment. That's really crazy. The kids aren't comfortable in choosing
I agree with you it is hard to be yourself. It takes a lot of soul searching, to find the true you. The one thing I have done when I am store, and being followed, I just leave. I have decided that I will not give you my hard money. If you feel that I am not good enough to be in your store, I'll leave. Because to me that's what your saying, I'm following you because I don't think you should be here! I also commend you, on being you! People are prone to be a ease once the ice is broken. I think if more of us(PEOPLE) were just ourselves these awkward situations would not happen as often. I'm sure your still get someone who gets a kick out the awkwards, but in the end they will be the one who sticks out like a soar thumb.
I was truly bent out of shape with the two little girls. "There weren't even that many Jews." What??? I feel sorry for them. Their parents are pouring into them their beliefs, but I wonder if the twins were ever asked what they thought. Are they given the option of exploring the world outside the racist one, their parents are having them live in. I am a firm believer, that God holds us, parents, responsible for what we instill in our children and once they become adults they are held accountable for their actions. By no means am I judging these parents, I just totally don;t agree with what I've seen. It's really sad! The whole wash cloth thing, dingy me, I thought everyone used wash cloths! lol....I am truly learning a lot from this class. But the one thing I really feel is, if people weren't so afraid to have discussions about race, we wouldn't have to wonder where comments like, white people smell like wet dogs, or blacks use wash cloths because their skin is extra dirty. We as a society should be scared to ask questions or say what's on our minds. We really shouldn't be so extra sensitive.
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