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8 years ago @ The Toast - An Open Thread, and Se... · 0 replies · +13 points

Ahhh I am SO LATE with this, but--

Thank you so so much to Nicole and Mallory for creating this place. I first discovered it in winter 2014, after sob-laughing at Mallory's "Open Letter from Aaron Sorkin." I lurked for a decent amount of time, and only started commenting this fall, but I am just so, so in awe of the community here. So many people have said this better than me, but this was a place where I read so many comments and thought "oh my god, I thought it was just me!" Comments about reenacting Boxcar Children in the backyard, and also comments about deeper things, but it was wonderful and validating. When I finally did have the courage to post about anxiety here, I never felt ashamed or like I couldn't be completely honest. On the contrary, I felt incredibly supported and even loved.
I went to the Toastie Wake in Boston last night, and of course it was perfect. We enlisted A Man to take a group shot of us, then drank Sangria and shouted about books and Hamilton and misandry. As sad as I am about the Toast closing, I'm happy that it has given a reason to branch out and meet more people from the community.
So thank you, so, so much. Thank you to everyone who has given me advice, and talked with me about books, and life. From this site, I've even gained a new roommate for September (shout out to bundtpan), in a place that I am actually excited to move to. This place has been a haven for me on days I've been bored at work, bad days, and days that I just need a good laugh. This place has nurtured my misandry, and made me more of an unapologetic feminist. It made me find out about Hamilton, and introduced me to the wonders of Korean skin products.
I'm rambling now, but thank you, Toast, for truly being the nicest place on the Internet. <3 Hope to talk to all of you more on Twitter and Slack.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +1 points

I'm going to send you an email! Thank you!

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 1 reply · +2 points

Thanks for the solidarity! We need a support group for shitty Boston housing.

I will definitely send you an email! I used to live around Davis (in JP now) and love the area. I am looking to move around September, but that's good as a backup! Thanks again!

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +1 points

I would definitely love more info! That's around when I want to move. I'm CurrerBell789 on Twitter if you want to find me there, or you can email me at

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 8 replies · +1 points

This question is specifically for Boston-area Toasties, and might be a bit of a longshot, but people have been so great and helpful in the past, I might as well.

For the past year, I've been living in a place that is a bit of a mixed bag, so I've been really on the fence about renewing the lease. The main thing is the landlord is HORRIBLE--won't fix things, sends super hostile emails, freaks out about extremely minor stuff or is MIA....anyways despite all that I was considering renewing the lease because it's an amazing location for where I need to be, and moving is horrible.

I sent in a rental app a couple weeks ago and then crickets. Today, I'm getting ready and there is a knock on the door and real estate agents are standing there, saying that the house is going on the market and they need to take pics. I wasn't informed of this at all, and haven't heard anything, but long story short, I guess I'm going to need a new place to live. I sent the landlord a panicked email about an hour ago, but now the more I think about it, the more I don't even want to put up this.

Basically, I need a new place to live. I've been going through Craigslist and I REALLY don't want to do that again, but I feel like with short notice, this is what you have to do. I've had some bad experiences with Craigslist in the past, plus living with random people when you have anxiety is not fun. Anyways, I want to hyperventilate at the thought of this, and the thought of housing in Boston, and everything associated with moving, but does anyone know of either reasonably priced (for a grad student) studio housing in the area, or of availability in housing with kind, decent, friends of Toast type people?

Again, I know this might be a stretch, but I'd appreciate any leads or advice. This was super unexpected and upsetting and I am just so tired of dealing with housing in this city.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 1 reply · +3 points

Just followed you on Twitter! (same name as here, and I need to use Twitter more often lol) We should also discuss Boston things if you're moving to the area. And I love your picture on there. Ada Lovelace ftw.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 1 reply · +2 points

LOFT has amazing cardigans! Pretty much every color and print, and they have nice lightweight ones for the summer! Plus they have good sales all the time.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 3 replies · +3 points

I could at least look into it? Even if it's just a one time, deep clean thing, I'd be willing to pay for it. Our bathroom is so disgusting that it could benefit from a professional deep clean.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 2 replies · +5 points

...that sounds HORRIFIC and I am so sorry you had to deal with that. Internet hugs and a medal of badassery for you.

According to her, the tub doesn't drain properly, and that's why the seeds just chill out there, but she could mop them up or something.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 1 reply · +6 points

Ohhhh god. Yeah this sounds very similar to my situation. It's good to know I'm not alone. I sent her a text asking her to clean, and she just replied back saying it's not as dirty as it looks, and that it's just seeds from her soap that "hang out" in the tub because it doesn't drain properly?? I am just...this is not helpful. Oh people.