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6 years ago @ The Toast - An Open Thread, and Se... · 0 replies · +14 points
6 years ago @ The Toast - The Final Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +8 points
This feels a little bit like college ending: a brief, beautiful time that brought important personal growth and wonderful new people into our lives, and it is sad. But given that I'm still BFFs with people I met in college, I have faith that many of the relationships that were forged here will endure, and even if they don't, the things we learned about the world and about ourselves will always be with us.
Be excellent to each other.
6 years ago @ The Toast - A note on The Toast · 0 replies · +35 points
6 years ago @ The Toast - The Final Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +38 points
6 years ago @ The Toast - Hey Ladies: Take it to... · 12 replies · +102 points
6 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +1 points
6 years ago @ The Toast - Thank You, Toast. · 1 reply · +18 points
We are so lucky to have had you and I can't wait to see what you do next (can we preorder your book NOW, or do we have to wait?).
6 years ago @ The Toast - How To Tell If You Are... · 1 reply · +35 points
If only I were not too tall to reasonably pass as a Hobbit.
"Orcs are chasing you, but this does not bother you nearly as much as the inadequate breakfast you had earlier today."
It is really hard to put in a productive day of Orc-fleeing when you haven't had a good breakfast, okay?
"You are a member of a wonderful fellowship of diverse people united by love and loyalty, but soon it must come to an end. And when the world you know begins to fade away, at long last you will go to the shore and board a ship, and take to the Sea."
6 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +26 points
Are there possible innocuous explanations (e.g. he's broke and entertaining you at home is cheaper)? Sure. But are they the most likely? No.
He's ignoring your signals, you said you got a weird vibe from him on your first date, and you don't really sound all that interested in him. If you're the kind of person who takes a while to warm up to new people and you'd like to give him another shot, do it in a public place. If he's worth dating, he'll respect your boundary. If he doesn't respect it, that tells you what you need to know.
In terms of pushing back, you have options. You can play coy, and say "oh, I wouldn't want to put you out! Let's go to [x restaurant]!" (I would choose a relatively casual/inexpensive restaurant, both to manage expectations and in case it is a money thing) Or be direct and say "I really feel more comfortable going out somewhere!"
6 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +10 points