en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/7259407 Comments by algebraic https://the-toast.net/2016/04/20/on-money-anxiety-and-marriage/#IDComment1019555061 Wow, I know I'm echoing a lot of people here, but this really resonated with me and with some of the problems with money in my marriage. Except--TWIST--I'm the tight-fisted one but also the one who grew up in an upper-middle class financially stable family, where my husband has the "it's gonna be OK, don't worry about it" attitude and he grew up in a financially insecure family. And it's hitting especially hard now because I just got laid off from my first really well-paying job that finally gave us a feeling of financial freedom. Now all the old anxieties from the lean times in the past are creeping back in. Wed, 20 Apr 2016 21:13:01 +0000 https://the-toast.net/2016/04/20/on-money-anxiety-and-marriage/#IDComment1019555061 http://the-toast.net/2016/03/31/beauty-advice-from-an-inspirational-woman/#IDComment1018031669 I read this in the voice of Cecily Strong's "Girl You Wish You Hadn't Started a Conversation With at a Party" and it was perfect. Thu, 31 Mar 2016 14:30:56 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2016/03/31/beauty-advice-from-an-inspirational-woman/#IDComment1018031669 https://the-toast.net/2016/03/24/feminist-knitting-patterns/#IDComment1017419937 Oh man, this is timely. I just unearthed from my closet an "inspired by Le Tigre" sweater I knit about 10 years ago that says "feminist" on it. Back when I had time to make up my own patterns and knit them. This is great! Thu, 24 Mar 2016 20:46:30 +0000 https://the-toast.net/2016/03/24/feminist-knitting-patterns/#IDComment1017419937 http://the-toast.net/2016/03/22/link-roundup-536/#IDComment1017218383 Thank you!!! I was just checking out the lemon items on ebay yesterday. Lemon coin purse is now on its way to me. And a pair of earrings, because why not? Tue, 22 Mar 2016 15:09:48 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2016/03/22/link-roundup-536/#IDComment1017218383 http://the-toast.net/2016/03/04/cocktail-hour-open-thread-101/#IDComment1014802717 I can't smell farts. I can hang pictures in a group perfectly level and evenly spaced by just eyeballing them. Fri, 4 Mar 2016 18:22:18 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2016/03/04/cocktail-hour-open-thread-101/#IDComment1014802717 http://the-toast.net/2015/12/18/cocktail-hour-open-thread-93/#IDComment1007083915 I am HERE for this conversation. Every year I choose a different color scheme for my gifts. I usually do ones that are kind of off-brand for Christmas, but this year I went traditional and did glossy emerald paper with red and white striped twill tape. Fri, 18 Dec 2015 20:41:47 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/12/18/cocktail-hour-open-thread-93/#IDComment1007083915 http://the-toast.net/2015/12/11/cocktail-hour-open-thread-92/#IDComment1006375456 I once mailed a Christmas gift to my parents, and accidentally put my own zip code on it instead of theirs (we live in the same state, but about 200 miles apart), and it made it there fine, I think there might have been a 1 or 2 day delay. Fri, 11 Dec 2015 16:57:08 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/12/11/cocktail-hour-open-thread-92/#IDComment1006375456 http://the-toast.net/2015/11/17/diana-vreeland-writes-a-technology-advice-column/#IDComment1003966922 My exact though upon finishing reading this. Tue, 17 Nov 2015 21:12:16 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/11/17/diana-vreeland-writes-a-technology-advice-column/#IDComment1003966922 http://the-toast.net/2015/11/16/how-to-tell-if-you-are-in-a-maeve-binchy-novel/#IDComment1003841311 This post just made me realize that I've been confusing Maeve Binchy and Rosamunde Pilcher for a very long time. Mon, 16 Nov 2015 19:56:28 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/11/16/how-to-tell-if-you-are-in-a-maeve-binchy-novel/#IDComment1003841311 http://the-toast.net/2015/09/25/cocktail-hour-open-thread-84/#IDComment996681461 I am also starting a new job that pays me twice as much a week from Monday! High five! Also, I have been unhappy with the way my body looks for a while now, post childbirth and periods of depression, etc, and I started eating better and have been getting on the treadmill a few times a week for the past couple months and have lost an amount of weight that I am really happy about! I just feel like my life as a whole is moving in a really positive direction, and that feels great. Fri, 25 Sep 2015 18:18:27 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/09/25/cocktail-hour-open-thread-84/#IDComment996681461 http://the-toast.net/2015/09/24/every-track-from-dc-talks-jesus-freak-in-order/#IDComment996523744 Wow. Woooowww. That's amazing. Man I must have really gotten around to Christian music festivals back in the day, because I totally went to Alive. Thu, 24 Sep 2015 16:55:48 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/09/24/every-track-from-dc-talks-jesus-freak-in-order/#IDComment996523744 http://the-toast.net/2015/09/24/every-track-from-dc-talks-jesus-freak-in-order/#IDComment996508023 Wait, was SonFest at the Mt Vernon Naz? Because I totally went to that! Probably late 90s early 2000s, but not sure exactly which year. I know John Reuben was there the year I went because I immediately developed a massive crush on him. Thu, 24 Sep 2015 14:30:02 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/09/24/every-track-from-dc-talks-jesus-freak-in-order/#IDComment996508023 http://the-toast.net/2015/09/11/cocktail-hour-open-thread-83/#IDComment994654305 Hello friends! I don't post here often, but do read often and I know how many of you have shared the joys of quitting your job. This afternoon, I will know that joy as well. Even better, I am quitting my job to take a new, better job that is not going to bore me to tears and that will pay me double the money I am now making at my sad, boring job. I've been at this sad, boring job for 8 years, so this is a huge change, but I am so happy to be making it. Fri, 11 Sep 2015 16:24:57 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/09/11/cocktail-hour-open-thread-83/#IDComment994654305 http://the-toast.net/2015/08/07/cocktail-hour-open-thread-79/#IDComment989325496 I'm doing a Whole30 right now with my husband and best friend. I made some kale chips last night that were delicious--I put garlic powder, onion powder, smoked paprika, cayenne and salt on them and they were great. My husband and I ate two sheet pans of them. We had lettuce wraps last weekend that were good--ground beef with coconut aminos, rice vinegar, and sambal olek topped with shredded carrots, green onions and cashews in iceberg lettuce cups. Making a giant batch of steak, chicken and vegetable kabobs made for a lot of leftovers for the week and that was pretty handy (marinated in red vinegar and olive oil). I have pretty much all our dinners planned out for the 30 days, but I'd love to hear other people's recipes in case we decide to continue eating paleo after it's over. Fri, 7 Aug 2015 17:05:27 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/08/07/cocktail-hour-open-thread-79/#IDComment989325496 http://the-toast.net/2015/06/09/every-track-from-wow-1999-in-order/#IDComment977056809 I still have so many Christian music compilation CDs hidden away in my house. I sneak them out and listen to them when my husband isn't around to mock me. The first, and best, one I have is Tooth and Nail Volume 1--it introduced me to Pedro the Lion and Damien Jurado in high school and for that I will be forever grateful. Tue, 9 Jun 2015 19:15:30 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/06/09/every-track-from-wow-1999-in-order/#IDComment977056809 http://the-toast.net/2015/06/09/every-track-from-wow-1999-in-order/#IDComment977055806 Raising hand to participate in Five Iron discussion. I would go see them anytime they came within 150 miles of my town. Tue, 9 Jun 2015 19:10:15 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2015/06/09/every-track-from-wow-1999-in-order/#IDComment977055806 http://the-toast.net/2014/10/29/ginger-snaps-menstrual-horror-movie-dreams/#IDComment900284329 First of all, I love this movie, so thank you for this piece! Secondly, this line: "not even Bridget, whose outsider perspective on the traps of womanhood cannot yet conceive of actual female sexual desire, only female objectification or sexual passivity" brought me a crystal clear realization about my weirdness about sex as a teen. Wed, 29 Oct 2014 20:28:44 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2014/10/29/ginger-snaps-menstrual-horror-movie-dreams/#IDComment900284329 http://the-toast.net/2014/10/09/ur-dad-story/#IDComment886879127 Within probably ten minutes of coming to visit me at my newly purchased first house, my dad was on the roof cleaning out the gutters. Also, my sister and I still roll on the floor with laughter when we remember the goofy grin on his face we caught one day while he was watching a "Bonanza" retrospective (my dad, in general, is not the "grinning" type). Thu, 9 Oct 2014 14:54:49 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2014/10/09/ur-dad-story/#IDComment886879127 http://the-toast.net/2014/09/02/raising-tone-etiquette-gift-disasters-already-ate/#IDComment871881172 Just a thought that isn't addressed in L2, but maybe one or both of the friends had suggested going to a restaurant, but on the day of the get-together, found themselves short money, and weren't able to order food or were only able to order a small amount and thought that brushing it off with "I already ate" was less embarrasing than "I can't afford to eat here". Not that something similar has ever happened to me... Tue, 2 Sep 2014 18:01:56 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2014/09/02/raising-tone-etiquette-gift-disasters-already-ate/#IDComment871881172 http://the-toast.net/2014/08/05/link-roundup-148/#IDComment861644384 I told someone else upthread, but it might get buried--it's not really a sex thing (although there is plenty of sex in the books, and the show if the first episode is any indicator), the scene I'm guessing that's being referred to here is where Jaime (the male lead), beats Claire (the female lead) with a belt for disobeying him. Tue, 5 Aug 2014 16:02:39 +0000 http://the-toast.net/2014/08/05/link-roundup-148/#IDComment861644384