This. I used to make up excuses about why I couldn't babysit for my cousin, but I just tell the truth now. "Sorry, but I'm going to watch Season 4 of The Tudors and eat an entire pizza by myself...why yes I would find that more fun than looking after your child...yes, I suppose it is selfish, but it's also why I chose not to have children. Good day to you!"
I used to do that, but I ended up making a concerted effort to confront racist/insane crap rather than pretend it doesn't exist. People tend to be too embarrassed to call people on their offensive crap so half the time, they don't even realise they're being offensive and that only "LIEbrals" don't like that kind of stuff. If it comes from family members, people who's opinions they may actually trust or care about, you have more of a chance of addressing these attitudes. Even if they don't change the way they think, they may be more likely to at least keep their stupid shit to themselves when you're around.
God this. I notice it especially when I run into an old friend who's all "Yeah friend me on Facebook!" and there's 30 people with the same name and half of them have babies as their profile pic. YOUR BABY IS NOT YOUR IDENTITY!!
But why are you friends with her? I've defriended people simply because they're people I knew in school that I thought would be cool to catch up with, but when it turns out we have zero in common anymore, what's the point? I don't understand why anyone would keep people they actively despise on their friends list. WHY??
That's what I've always thought too. Realising that flawed human beings are still capable of great, even history-making acts is more of an inspiration to me, as a flawed human being, to get off my arse and do good things for the world.
Ah, apologies, I didn't get that you were coming at this from the gay male perspective. I just think a lot of guys get tagged with the "just in it for sex" label when at least 60-70% of my male friends are actually looking for a relationship and would happily date a lady they'd slept with after seeing a few times if the connection was there. I guess it's just about using your own judgment about the situation.
Word on OPI's Lincoln Park After Dark. IMO, it's the best purple/black on the market.
My personal two cents, OPI does last longer than other brands. It's thicker...or something. But the Sally Hansen top/bottom coat combo makes my toe nails last so long I usually end up having to trim my toe nails before I have to remove the colour.
The suede effect is even worse. It looks like the coloured correction fluid you used to paint your nails with in high school when you were bored.
I have the exact same problem with my toe nails which are the only nails I put polish on.
As much as I love it having fancy coloured toe nails, I've found giving them a break of about a month or so usually helps get them back into condition.
As tunamelt said, moisturise. Your nails are porous, so anything you put on them will sink in the same as it would with your skin. This might sound weird, but safflower oil is very high in vitamin E and I rub it into my nails, put it in my hair as a treatment and pour it over vegetables instead of butter. It's really magical stuff.
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