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7 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +10 points

Oh hey! I was right there with you a year ago and I was freaking out too. My gyno explained that atypical cells also can be a result of a problem but also of recent menses, recent intercourse, basically anything that occurs in the vagina. So I wouldn't be surprised at all if the yeast medication or pesticide had something to do with it. I know how scary it is and I'm not gonna pretend there's a way to know for sure or to feel great about that lack of knowing. But there really are a lot of possible outcomes for this where you're totally fine, probably more than ones where you're not. I'm going in for my follow up next week so it's been on my mind a lot lately. Keeping my fingers crossed for both of us!

7 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 1 reply · +8 points

Also if anyone's interested in a really deep, scathing, empowering read of LEMONADE, this storify by Brienne of Tarth is powerful and moving: https://storify.com/femme_esq/beyonce-s-lemonade

7 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +39 points

Not to mention... "Becky with the good hair" is also a nod to the near-universal glorification of European hair and features, and the psychological impact that has on Black women? The idea of "good hair" dates back to slavery! It is totally in line with the themes she explores the rest of the album/movie, and only marginally relevant to the "other woman."

7 years ago @ The Toast - Thursday Open Thread · 1 reply · +10 points

THIS IS THE WORST. I am so sorry you are going through it! Everyone's responses have been on point and I would like to add this Dear Sugar column about cheating that I find myself coming back to again and again: http://therumpus.net/2011/08/dear-sugar-the-rumpu...

7 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +12 points

Oscars talk anyone? I should really stop being surprised by this but all 20 acting nominees are white.... COME ON.

7 years ago @ The Toast - Open Thread! · 8 replies · +8 points

The Bargain Bin got me thinking about loafers like I never have before. Anyone have a favorite pair they can recommend, or more generally, what are your shoe staples? I'm not one for heels but otherwise I'm not picky!

7 years ago @ The Toast - Open Thread! · 1 reply · +4 points

My favorite poem of all time: "Eve," by Enid Dame

I also love Marie Howe when I need a good cry, and John Ashbery (especially The Tennis Court Oath) :)

7 years ago @ The Toast - Open Thread! · 2 replies · +8 points

This video of the cast and crew clapping for Our Lord and Savior Shanice Williams made me burst into tears. So so so wonderful!

7 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +6 points

If you haven't already, I highly recommend looking through the #TransHealthFail hashtag on Twitter! Lots and lots of horrifying anecdotes to peruse. Good luck either way, it's so good that you're doing this!

7 years ago @ The Toast - Anatomy of a Black Act... · 0 replies · +19 points

An incredible piece about an incredible woman! I enjoyed this so much.The last paragraph packs one hell of a punch.