Thequeenmum
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8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 1 reply · +11 points
This was their first little event.
9 years ago @ The Toast - Autistdar · 1 reply · +6 points
Basically, I would say that how you respond to his excited conversational dominance may not actually benefit him in the "real world" unless he is able to keep learning very specifically about the physical cues that others give (e.g., beginning to fiddle with objects, or moving their body slightly away, or starting to look at their phone). One negative consequence of being more aware that others aren't always interested in what you are excited about is that you may decide to clam up and not really talk about your passions to anyone, or that you will "turtle" in uncertain social situations and be MORE awkward and reserved. Better to learn to read the cues and learn that some acquaintances may actually be excited about what you have to say! (That's my super preachy and long-winded response - I have been working my way through this social challenge for years, and I haven't got it all figured out yet).
9 years ago @ The Toast - Autistdar · 0 replies · +2 points
9 years ago @ The Toast - Autistdar · 0 replies · +7 points
While I have found it challenging to realize that I have been coping with the social and emotional blind spots that afflict those of us on the spectrum, I've also found it very liberating. I have a tribe. I am still me. I am okay. I am still brilliant and wonderful and flawed and broken just as I always have been. Now I am better equipped to understand myself, and to understand what the hell goes wrong in my relationships with others sometimes. I can also support my children better, knowing that they very likely will struggle in a similar way.
If reading this article has helped you see that you may be on the spectrum (as I suspect many in this beautiful, eccentric, passionate, and brilliant community very likely are!), please be comforted to know that you are not alone. We are many, we have been sadly underdiagnosed and misunderstood, and we are pretty damn awesome.
9 years ago @ The Toast - Friday Open Thread · 0 replies · +3 points
9 years ago @ The Toast - How To Respond To Crit... · 2 replies · +49 points
9 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 3 replies · +25 points
Enter a recent magical day when we were called together urgently at work first thing in the morning, and other higher-than-boss-person people were there. They announced that boss-person had suddenly resigned as of right now and was GONE. Like, POOF! Vanished from all of our lives. *CLOUDS PARTING, RAINBOWS, UNICORNS, ETC* (We wish boss-person all the best in his or her future endeavours)
This is a completely true story, and I just wanted to share it because work can be HARD, and it can be FRUSTRATING, but sometimes, unexpected changes happen. FIN
9 years ago @ The Toast - How To Talk To Babies ... · 5 replies · +31 points
The problem isn't that "grow" is used as a verb, but that it's used as a transitive verb with a direct object that is something other than hair or a garden (I'm growing carrots = fine; I'm growing my children/bank account/love of cats = not fine).
9 years ago @ The Toast - Flaws Only A Protagoni... · 0 replies · +27 points
This line always makes my skin crawl! I read too much Nancy Drew as a child. Bess and George were always "chorusing" and "chiding". This whole piece is perfect, by the way.
10 years ago @ The Toast - The Way Home: On Faith... · 0 replies · +4 points