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http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : Should Christian Bale visit Colorado shooting victims… dressed as Batman? - The Week

Tue, 24 Jul 2012 19:10:26 +0000

That was my first thought, “What an ‘effing idiot!” But probably just people who know NOTHING about how trauma works or effect people…and I guess it is lucky for them that they have the luxury of ignorance.

The Declassified Adoptee : Memoir Writers: I Don\'t Know how you People do it

Mon, 16 Jul 2012 03:18:34 +0000

If my life were a work of fiction nobody would buy it, it wouldn’t be believable. My recent post Since When Is Your Anger MY Symptom?

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : Since When Is Your Anger MY Symptom?

Sun, 15 Jul 2012 02:07:12 +0000

It is in the list…but should it be? There is definitely hope for Hope, she has suffered much and earned every right to BE angry…AND untrusting. It is a long, long road, but she can learn that she also has the RIGHT to be happy too.

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : Since When Is Your Anger MY Symptom?

Sun, 15 Jul 2012 01:54:41 +0000

“Oftentimes, RAD parents need lots of encouragement too. These RAD children can have some very negative effects upon their parents, including: (1.) Parental dreams are dashed. (2.) There is an apparent frustration present due to the lack of bonding. (3.) RAD children often vent their hatred toward their mother. (4.) There's an apparent close bond with their father. (5.) There's a lot of external criticism of parents. (5.) Holidays are often difficult due to the child's anger. (6.) Parents may appear hostile, angry and defensive.” http://voices.yahoo.com/the-symptoms-effects-reac... “Some of these parents may even appear to be a bit unreasonable or hostile towards outsiders on occasion, especially towards those who do not understand what they are dealing with or who might be ridiculing or questioning their unique methods of parenting these children.” http://www.thelittleprince.org/symptomsandcauseso...

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : Since When Is Your Anger MY Symptom?

Sun, 15 Jul 2012 01:54:17 +0000

That is a great question Lydia...and children precieve their parents as, "angry and hostil would make sense. Right? “Let's start with why we appear hostile and angry. First our children: When we take their actions personally we are so hurt.” http://reactiveattachmentdisorderlife.blogspot.co...

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : Adoption PSA From Second City

Mon, 9 Jul 2012 17:10:10 +0000

I think it was a tongue in cheek commentary about how somehow people tend to look at adopting exotic black children from forging countries as “safer” and more fashionable than adopting “regular old” black children out of the US foster care system. I honestly thought it was sadly true and funny…. “Thanks to her honor student they were able to find a medium sized black child.” Truly sad…and funny because if you listen closely to some people who talk about adoption, that is what you hear a lot of. I want this. I don’t want that. This child is defective, we are gonna return them, what I don’t get a full refund on our purchase price?”

Lost Daughters : Nature/Nurture/Something Else?

Tue, 3 Jul 2012 18:18:45 +0000

I am in the both camp, while I have never really completely lost my connection with my origionaly family, I have DNA traits- such as my dad’s dyslexia. But I would not be the person or personality I am today if I did not spend the majority of my formative years being raised by 20 something grad students just off the U of M campus…and in many ways I have learned to be that obnoxious word: GREATFUL for that. My recent post The Medication Generation: Teenagers and Antidepressants - WSJ.com

http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/ : where is the mommy-war for the motherless child?

Fri, 11 May 2012 14:17:44 +0000

*Standing ovation* You totally ROCKED this post! (hope you wont mind if i quote and share)

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : How One Person’s Source Comfort Could be Another’s Source of Terror

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 13:16:41 +0000

Thank you, thank makes me feel good. I am glad to be back in the position where I can post more….obviously I have had a lot swirling around in my brain all this time

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : How One Person’s Source Comfort Could be Another’s Source of Terror

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 13:05:50 +0000

Thank you Lisa, I am certainly not implying that to want to share ones religion with a child in their care is wrong…I the situation I mentioned I truly believe that the people involved thought, based on their belief system, that saving us from an eternity of damnation was the right thing to do and that they did it with love in their hearts. I am just trying to point out that if a child is being oppositional, defiant, of having melt-downs around church and religion…it may not just be will full disobedience, a power struggle or over “nothing” there may be more to the story and it may be really emotionally difficult for them to process.

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : How One Person’s Source Comfort Could be Another’s Source of Terror

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 12:52:20 +0000

Thank you…I think. ; )

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : My Kids Have No Respect for Gravity

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 12:50:07 +0000

I am glad to know I am not alone…I kept thinking who does that? Well, now I know. LOL. Oh, no the room did not get finished last night….don’t be silly!

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : The truth is:

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 13:20:25 +0000

So true, in my family the oldest was dumped by sending them to an exclusive boarding school, the middle, floated back and forth between parents and family, and learning their lesson from boarding school, they realized that if I was a ward of the state they could get rid of me for FREE! For years we each had ideas about who was the most affected by our parent’s actions…who had it worse and such. Their actions on my behalf were by far the most despicable there is NO QUESTION ABOUT THAT…in the end as crazy as it seems, I may have really been the lucky one in many ways. It is very hard on the internet, partly because it is impossible to add every little aside, caveat, and, “on the other hand” to every post and comment…ugh, it can be very frustrating.

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : Just Get Over It

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 12:57:55 +0000

I remember once, after my mother left us, being sick and crying for my mommy…no idea why I would that…it seemed our being sick brought on rage and resentment for her…oh well. Anyway, my dad lost it…I mean LOST it…and in hindsight I get it…here she left us, he was doing the best he could, he was taking care of us and I wanted the one person who resented taking care of me. I can’t imagine how hurt he must have been. But I figured out real quick, that crying for my mommy was NOT OK!

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : Just Get Over It

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 11:47:41 +0000

That is very interesting. I am assuming, because of your hesitance to discuss it…that you have some feelings about that in either direction: that it either it has some lasting influence, or maybe it was great and you think it didn’t. I wonder how that has influenced your world view. I have a feeling like many of us kids from trauma, you learned early on that life could change on a dime and it affected your sense of stability and safety. My dad’s mother had a heart attack in labor, needed surgery to replace valves and so on, so my father went to and was raised by his grandmother on the farm next door, so he got to SEE his mom. But I think that separation affected he and my grandmother both, profoundly.

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : The truth is:

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 03:13:31 +0000

thank you Sheri

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : The truth is:

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 03:12:46 +0000

thank you, i miss you jess!

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : The truth is:

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 03:11:53 +0000

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : The truth is:

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 03:11:32 +0000

thank you

http://sundaykoffron.blogspot.com/ : Adoption Ambivalent

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 03:04:55 +0000

: ) i know the other diention of the story take some people aback...but we HAVE to have those conversations...HAVE to!