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7 years ago @ The Toast - Beyond Surviving: On S... · 0 replies · +1 points
7 years ago @ The Toast - Friday Bargain Bin · 0 replies · +3 points
8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +7 points
FUCK.
8 years ago @ The Toast - How Do You Handle Jet ... · 0 replies · +3 points
All the advice about going outside and moving around in the morning does help, though, especially if you can make yourself go for a run.
For future Antipodeses runs - when you switch flights, make your layover last at least 12 hours, and rent an airport hotel room or a private sleeping room in one of the lounges, and shower and sleep. Or at least lie there in the dark for a bunch of time. It makes the ultimate arrival and adjustment a lot easier. Don't tell me you can't afford it. What you can't afford is a flight to or from the Antipodes.
(Still ass though. Still a week of ass.)
8 years ago @ The Toast - On Race, Good Intentio... · 0 replies · +5 points
Somebody at that table saying something angry like "It sounds like you're saying Asian people all look the same. Do you know how that sounds?" or even "why in heaven's name would you ask such a question?" would have been a healthy expression of anger and support for Nicole, and if it didn't educate the person who made the comments that they're racist and ridiculous, it would at least educate her to keep her mouth shut about ethnicity a little better, which is a favour for the world if not her personally.
Racism is certainly the biggest problem in this situation but I also see a problem with how little Americans seem to be allowed to get angry with each other and still carry on having a reasonably good social time with each other. As an outsider that sort of thing looks like everybody there is always getting each other mint juleps, loaning around lawn mowers, and keeping quiet at dinner parties when people say terribly racist things to them, and then suddenly cracking and voting for Donald Trump, or treating people with different politics like it's still the Civil or Cold War.
8 years ago @ The Toast - Don't Fall In Love, Va... · 1 reply · +3 points
8 years ago @ The Toast - On Race, Good Intentio... · 2 replies · +4 points
8 years ago @ The Toast - Even Lumberjacks Deser... · 0 replies · +18 points
8 years ago @ The Toast - Tough Choices · 4 replies · +19 points
It's everyone's job to educate. To emotionally labour. The problem isn't that women do it; it's that men don't. You can fight the fight by educating, you can fight the fight by fighting, but just walking away leaves the fight for other people, who will have to fight it eventually. And if you are stuck loving the douchebag in question for whatever reason, walking away may legitimately not be an option.
If walking away is what you need to do, then it should be done. I've done it, and will almost certainly do it again, because this shit is fucking exhausting. But the only thing it will help is your sanity. It still leaves the problem squatting on the table and shitting all over everyone's dinner, even if you've decided it's not your problem.
8 years ago @ The Toast - An Annotated Map Of Th... · 0 replies · +4 points
But the only reason I notice it and it riles me more than the contemporary authors I like so much less is because I love Thomas Hardy. And it's not consistent. The Mayor of Casterbridge is one of my favourite books, and that reverses the dynamic; Elizabeth Jane may not be the most interesting heroine in the history of literature, but she's one of the loveliest and most sympathetically drawn, who manages to drum up some tenderness and forgiveness for that poor, nasty sad sack of shit Henchard.