SentientFuego

SentientFuego

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2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 2 replies · +6 points

Even though I am only technically all the way vaxxed this coming weekend, I already kind of celebrated by accident. Last weekend we saw two sets of vaccinated friends in person for errand reasons with bonus hangoutx (which was nice, but I was EXHAUSTED afterward). And then last night, after a rough mental health day, we discovered out neighborhood bar has reopened and we went and had a meal on the patio and got to see bar friends again. Also I suppose closing on a house will be a celebration, too, even if it also means I have a bunch more work ahead of me. Granted, I can't truly *feel* any of this celebration or relief or really most of the things that would allow me to emotionally refuel, because my mental health is like that right now, but I'm working on it.

2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 1 reply · +3 points

Oooo ALL THE CANDLES! You're fabulous and you're gonna amaze them!

2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 1 reply · +4 points

Nor am I. We were staring down the barrel of getting priced right out of our own neighborhood if we waited too long, so the fact that we found anything remotely viable is a welcome relief. I hope you have the same luck!

2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 1 reply · +2 points

Mmmmm Ethiopian food. And happy slightly late birthday!

2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 3 replies · +4 points

YES, it's okay to not vibe with a therapist - it sounds like they're not giving you what you need at all. You're allowed to find a different one or even just quit if their approach isn't right for you.

I wish you much better house buying luck in the future! This Yuppie Thunderdome housing market is horrible and it's shutting out regular non-rich people who just want a place to live.

2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 4 replies · +7 points

Last week we got an accepted offer on a house and I only freaked the fuck out about it for a couple days and have been much less of a hopeless lump ever since, so I'm counting that as growth. I didn't take on the enormous venture of moving just to motivate me to get my shit back together, but if it happens to work that way, I won't complain.

2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 1 reply · +5 points

I may just be a cantankerous old fart, but I'm not sure the fact that sometimes people lie because rejection sucks is something we needed clinical terminology for in the first place. And I believe we had the term "asshole" lined up for people who do the lying anyway.

I'm sorry you're feeling so shitty, but I think your "just have to remember" coda is VERY SOUND. Cling to that one; it's a hit.

2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Monday Open Thread · 0 replies · +3 points

In theory I'm still booked for two nerd conventions this year that got moved from last year, but I'm not confident either one is going to happen (or happen safely enough for my taste), so I'm not counting those. Maybe a road trip to see my family, maybe a work trip to check in at the office and see local friends. Or maybe none of that because we seem to be in the process of buying a house somehow, and that's probably going to take up a bunch of my time and money as we prioritize repairs and improvements because we sure as fuck can't afford the kind of place around here where the work is all done; the housing market is yuppie Thunderdome and we were lucky to find something scruffy-vintage enough to be in our price range.

2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Friday Open Thread · 1 reply · +5 points

Hooooo boy, a lot of that is very familiar to me, in both pieces. Dad being placid (mostly), Mom needing reassurance from me, me not wanting to deal with Mom being Sad at me, me not wanting to be the kind of emotional Mom was and instead going in a direction that taught me a ton of avoidance and very little healthy emotional regulation. Uh... cheers?

2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 1 reply · +5 points

Growth is not a thing, but holding it together seems to be going okay today, so... yay?