en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/612693 Comments by Rhythm http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28312662 "Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire" is the biggest abomination to the institute of marriage that I have ever heard of! Sat, 25 Jul 2009 09:31:44 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28312662 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28312511 @jr57 Those "losers" are allowed to date and sleep with multiple women and then come home to cute, happy Terisa. Sounds like a couple of "studs" to me. Sat, 25 Jul 2009 09:28:35 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28312511 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28312360 I'm not sure what it is you don't "agree" with. These people are in love, they are happy, and they have been together for over a decade. What is there not to "agree" with? I think "disagree" in this context is a euphemism for "judge." Anyway, you say you are tolerant. That's awesome! Are you tolerant enough to support marriage rights for polyamorous people? (i.e. Terisa would be legally allowed to marry both Scott and Larry?) Sat, 25 Jul 2009 09:25:39 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28312360 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28312149 Twelve years is not a commitment? Sat, 25 Jul 2009 09:21:36 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28312149 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28255825 SeaRez, I don't feel left out when my partners are with their other partners. I don't feel like they're holding out on me. I don't need to take up every moment of their free time. Fri, 24 Jul 2009 21:20:31 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28255825 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28255683 What you call an opinion I would call a judgment. I am polyamorous, Always_Right_29, and I am perfectly willing to recognize that for YOU, you do not experience "true love" without exclusivity. All I'm asking is for the same tolerance from you. Once upon a time, the popular opinion was that a black person and a white person could not experience true love with each other and many sadly uninformed people still believe that two people of the same gender cannot experience true love. I think it's safe to say that true love has many infinite forms and is not necessarily limited to the "traditional" way. Fri, 24 Jul 2009 21:18:18 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28255683 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28255285 Well, it's not a reality show. It is loosely based on Terisa's life, but actors play all the characters. If a monogamous person wrote a book, play, or made a web show about their life, would you call it narcissism? Fri, 24 Jul 2009 21:13:19 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28255285 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28150545 I know children of poly families and they are perfectly happy, well-adjusted, and sure as hell well-loved. I hope this trio has all the children they want. Fri, 24 Jul 2009 01:06:09 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28150545 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28147898 Most polys I know are far more educated about STIs, more aware of the risks they're taking, and actually limit their risk more than most serial monogamists I know. There is more information on polyamory discussion boards about how to prevent transmission of HPV than there is on most medical websites about STIs. And as far as the dog thing, I don't know a single polyamorous person (and I know a lot) who condones sex with animals. Fri, 24 Jul 2009 00:27:01 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28147898 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28145805 Well said, Allena. Infidelity is rampant in our culture. I was hugely traumatized as a child because of my father's legendary infidelity that sent my mother into a long-term, violent, alcoholic stupor. For most of us who choose polyamory, ethical nonmonogamy is far more than a cynic's consolation prize. (I am a heterosexual female, by the way). As I'm sure is the case for you, too, Allena, I would never go back to monogamy even if I could somehow guarantee indefinite exclusivity. I identified as monogamous until I was 25 and it never worked for me. My own infidelity was just as rampant as my father's, and I even attended 12-step meetings for Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. That didn't work, either. I was trying to fit myself into a box that was WAY too small for me. Accepting and embracing my nonmonogamous nature in an ethical manner has lead to greater health, happiness, and prosperity for myself and everyone around me. Monogamy never lead to truly deep, meaningful love and commitment for me the way that polyamory does. Before, love simply meant control to me. Now it means intimacy, freedom, and truly accepting my lovers for who they are, inside and out. I'm not saying that polyamory is the ideal lovestyle for anyone but myself. I just wish the world would be more open-minded about it. Thu, 23 Jul 2009 23:56:18 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28145805 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28142796 I know ExpandingLove and I can tell you that he is as in love with his wife as any man could possibly be. Listening to him talk about his respect and admiration for her is a moving experience. Thu, 23 Jul 2009 23:16:24 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28142796 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28142262 Why not? Twelve years is a long time. Clearly this trio is committed to each other just as strongly or more so than many monogamous married couples. Would you say the same thing to a gay couple that had been together for 12 years? Many people require romantic exclusivity to feel commitment, but these people clearly don't. How does that make it "not marriage?" Besides, "traditional marriage" 100 or 2000 years ago looked very different than most monogamous marriages in the U.S. today. I think it's time to drop "tradition" and admit to ourselves as a society that there's more than one way to live happily ever after (hugs, Silvergoth). Thu, 23 Jul 2009 23:09:35 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28142262 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28062452 I'm poly and it works for me and my people. There are kids of all ages. The kids are fine (The kids are fantastic, actually. Other primates raise kids in a group environment and no one is confused or traumatized). Poly is easier, simpler, happier, more committed, more loving, more long-term, and more fun for me than monogamy. I feel compersion a lot. Occasionally I feel jealousy, too, but it can be dealt with just like any other emotion. I am more educated, more aware, and WAY more careful about STI risks than I was in my days of serial monogamy. Even if one feels the need to judge, remember that we are talking about consenting human adults here. Fifty years ago it was illegal in most places in this country for a white person and a black person to get married. You don't have to like polyamory, but you really ought to tolerate it if you like freedom. Thu, 23 Jul 2009 11:16:01 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/51386562.html#IDComment28062452