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Rhythm

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12 years ago @ KOMO - Seattle, WA - Local family\'s lifest... · 0 replies · +1 points

"Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire" is the biggest abomination to the institute of marriage that I have ever heard of!

12 years ago @ KOMO - Seattle, WA - Local family\'s lifest... · 1 reply · -1 points

@jr57 Those "losers" are allowed to date and sleep with multiple women and then come home to cute, happy Terisa. Sounds like a couple of "studs" to me.

12 years ago @ KOMO - Seattle, WA - Local family\'s lifest... · 0 replies · 0 points

I'm not sure what it is you don't "agree" with. These people are in love, they are happy, and they have been together for over a decade. What is there not to "agree" with? I think "disagree" in this context is a euphemism for "judge."

Anyway, you say you are tolerant. That's awesome! Are you tolerant enough to support marriage rights for polyamorous people? (i.e. Terisa would be legally allowed to marry both Scott and Larry?)

12 years ago @ KOMO - Seattle, WA - Local family\'s lifest... · 0 replies · +1 points

Twelve years is not a commitment?

12 years ago @ KOMO - Seattle, WA - Local family\'s lifest... · 1 reply · +1 points

SeaRez, I don't feel left out when my partners are with their other partners. I don't feel like they're holding out on me. I don't need to take up every moment of their free time.

12 years ago @ KOMO - Seattle, WA - Local family\'s lifest... · 2 replies · -1 points

What you call an opinion I would call a judgment. I am polyamorous, Always_Right_29, and I am perfectly willing to recognize that for YOU, you do not experience "true love" without exclusivity. All I'm asking is for the same tolerance from you.

Once upon a time, the popular opinion was that a black person and a white person could not experience true love with each other and many sadly uninformed people still believe that two people of the same gender cannot experience true love. I think it's safe to say that true love has many infinite forms and is not necessarily limited to the "traditional" way.

12 years ago @ KOMO - Seattle, WA - Local family\'s lifest... · 0 replies · +1 points

Well, it's not a reality show. It is loosely based on Terisa's life, but actors play all the characters. If a monogamous person wrote a book, play, or made a web show about their life, would you call it narcissism?

12 years ago @ KOMO - Seattle, WA - Local family\'s lifest... · 0 replies · +3 points

I know children of poly families and they are perfectly happy, well-adjusted, and sure as hell well-loved. I hope this trio has all the children they want.

12 years ago @ KOMO - Seattle, WA - Local family\'s lifest... · 3 replies · +2 points

Most polys I know are far more educated about STIs, more aware of the risks they're taking, and actually limit their risk more than most serial monogamists I know. There is more information on polyamory discussion boards about how to prevent transmission of HPV than there is on most medical websites about STIs.

And as far as the dog thing, I don't know a single polyamorous person (and I know a lot) who condones sex with animals.

12 years ago @ KOMO - Seattle, WA - Local family\'s lifest... · 0 replies · +3 points

Well said, Allena. Infidelity is rampant in our culture. I was hugely traumatized as a child because of my father's legendary infidelity that sent my mother into a long-term, violent, alcoholic stupor.

For most of us who choose polyamory, ethical nonmonogamy is far more than a cynic's consolation prize. (I am a heterosexual female, by the way). As I'm sure is the case for you, too, Allena, I would never go back to monogamy even if I could somehow guarantee indefinite exclusivity. I identified as monogamous until I was 25 and it never worked for me. My own infidelity was just as rampant as my father's, and I even attended 12-step meetings for Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. That didn't work, either. I was trying to fit myself into a box that was WAY too small for me. Accepting and embracing my nonmonogamous nature in an ethical manner has lead to greater health, happiness, and prosperity for myself and everyone around me. Monogamy never lead to truly deep, meaningful love and commitment for me the way that polyamory does. Before, love simply meant control to me. Now it means intimacy, freedom, and truly accepting my lovers for who they are, inside and out.

I'm not saying that polyamory is the ideal lovestyle for anyone but myself. I just wish the world would be more open-minded about it.