en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/1843906 Comments by RcRealityCheck http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114943700 You know what they say about opinions Ava. It's all subjective. Took me a long time to realize that. You can only live for you. You have to listen to your own heart. Cause in the end your always going to be you. Fri, 10 Dec 2010 20:05:16 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114943700 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114763513 Look at you, spitting that real! Thu, 9 Dec 2010 21:04:10 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114763513 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114763438 LJ Knight is fine too. I'd have tons of fun arguing with her just to have makeup sex...lmao Thu, 9 Dec 2010 21:03:36 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114763438 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114732272 I'm about to start flirting with you lol. You want an internet bf? hehehe Thu, 9 Dec 2010 18:23:43 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114732272 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114720903 I mean I don't know Kanye to even talk about what he's like in his personal life. So I can't even begin to assume. Now if you use his persona he has out here in the media, then yeah he has some growing up to do. But as far as what he wants, I think he is ok in that regard. Its who hes going to be with. So why not get what you want if your going to spend the rest of your life with her. Thu, 9 Dec 2010 17:17:25 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114720903 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114718949 Bitter Much? Seriously, I see nothing wrong with Kanye's thoughts on what HE WANTS. Nothing wrong with it at all. Same way if a woman gets in here and describes a Ken Doll, with a huge penis, and money like Bill Gates. Its what she wants. Want's may not be realistic or grounded in reality. But still who's to say what you want is Superficial? It's your life. The same people criticizing you for your wants aren't going to live it for you. It's up to you to make you happy. So I say men and women, say what you want. Think about what you want seriously. Then get it. Only you can make you happy. Fk whoever has something to say about your wants. Cause the people talking all that sh*t wont help you find your happiness. Article is ridiculous. Thu, 9 Dec 2010 17:05:18 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/kanye-west-is-ready-for-a-wife-but-what-does-he-bring-to-the-table/#IDComment114718949 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/why-men-date-women-with-no-intentions-of-a-relationship/#IDComment114699722 Do you. Continue to be yourself. Don't compromise. Ask questions. Make the best decisions based on the information you have. Relationships are a gamble. Nobody knows what anyone is thinking. Understand any relationship is a risk, which is also what makes them so rewarding when they work out. Don't be afraid to make the right changes for your own happiness. Thu, 9 Dec 2010 15:10:37 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/why-men-date-women-with-no-intentions-of-a-relationship/#IDComment114699722 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/why-men-date-women-with-no-intentions-of-a-relationship/#IDComment114615674 I guess I'll post my thoughts on this. I've never been in a relationship with a woman that I couldn't see going further than just Girlfriend/Boyfriend. I like to pride myself on believing I choose quality women. Wether we work out or not, I believe you are a quality woman, if I'm willing to deal with you. Ive engaged in relationships before where I had no intention on being with that woman. Treating her right the entire time. Allowing her to treat me right also. But I engaged in that relationship with intentions on being selfish in the first place. Keyword, SELFISH. I got with this woman knowing full well, I was going to use her. Use her as a platform to chase other woman. My fall back. My plan B. It freed me up to be riskier in my pursuit. This had nothing to do with how this woman treated me. I got with her knowing full well she wasn't who I wanted. REGARDLESS of how she was to me. I knew already that I never wanted her. No matter what the reasons were, I KNEW that I didn't want her. There is no excuse for treating anyone like this. Its weak. Its selfish. And its down right deceitful to use a person to cover up your own weaknesses. And thats exactly what a man does when he gets into a relationship with a woman and planning on taking advantage of her. Ladies. The key thing I want you all to realize is that this is a case by case basis. It fully depends on what kind of man you have. Where this man is in his lifetime. If this behavior is behind him or never was in him in the first place. Men are never confused about what we want. Its just that we know we cant have what we want all the time. So we take steps to make it happen. A man will never ever make you wait if you are what he wants. He will make it happen. If your not, hes going to stall and find reasons to keep you around until what he wants either happens or falls apart. Nothing about this behavior is confusing. Its selfish, bottom line. Now a man like myself, I've been there and done that. I no longer need a launch pad. I'm confident enough to approach any woman I want. I can handle rejection. Thru trail and error, I am grounded. The same way the words I type on this site, exudes cockiness and self assurance, I'm like that in my life. I've been hurt badly enough to know the damage that a man can do on a woman who loves him. The kind of damage that can be avoided with the truth. I now leave women alone that I dont want. I repeat, I leave women alone that I don't want. Meaning I no longer believe in growing to love. I have to be willing to love you from the moment I see you in order for me to grow to love you. If you don't have it, I'm sorry we cant converse. We cant date. Because I don't want to hurt you. Your in it more than I am. I'm a firm believer of making a woman fall in love with me. I don't want my woman doing more than I am to gain my attention. I should be able to just look at you and want to do everything I can for you. And no I'm not talking about your looks, I'm talking about that "it" factor. Yes it does exist for a man. We know who we want. What we want. It's just that we usually cant get that. We don't want to be alone. We will settle for second best. While having our eyes on that first choice the entire time. Simply put, Men are all in different stages at different times. There is no way to know which man you have. Which is why a woman should be herself and remain herself at all times. Don't put on front for any man. If he loves you and wants to marry you, you wont have to wait forever for it to happen. Your man will take steps. If you notice your man lagging behind. Taking his time, then speak up. Don't be moot. Cause I know how you women value your time, so make sure its not being wasted on some sucka, whos using you to get to another woman. Step back. Find out who your man is. There is no harm in that. Its you right. I fkn love women. I really fkn do. You have so much power, its crazy how women don't exert it. Find out who your dealing with. Take your time. Avoid all this heartache and pain. Make the right decision for you. Because it's your life. Whats good for you, may not be good for another. But the key is, its good for you. All men are different. Remember that. Good luck. Thu, 9 Dec 2010 03:46:44 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/why-men-date-women-with-no-intentions-of-a-relationship/#IDComment114615674 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/why-men-date-women-with-no-intentions-of-a-relationship/#IDComment114609274 You know is this post really needed? You shouldn't worry about black men that don't date black women. Leave them to their own devices. Worry about us men that do date black women. Thu, 9 Dec 2010 02:54:53 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/why-men-date-women-with-no-intentions-of-a-relationship/#IDComment114609274 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/why-men-date-women-with-no-intentions-of-a-relationship/#IDComment114581914 Don't believe this hype. This doesn't apply to all men. I will be posting my thoughts on this fully lately. When I read it myself. But from reading your post, just know that all men aren't like this. Case by case basis. Wed, 8 Dec 2010 23:32:18 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/why-men-date-women-with-no-intentions-of-a-relationship/#IDComment114581914 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment114251015 1. Depends on what she did. If she's snooping. Then yes my response wont be understanding. Not at first. I'm going off. Like I said, this is a gross violation here. There is more than just trust issues going on. This kind of behavior leads to more destructive behavior. I'm not going to tolerate this one bit. The key words here are, BEFORE and Communication. COMMUNICATE with me, BEFORE, you cross that line. All you had to do was ask. And if you trust me, then you will accept my answers. I wont be vague. I will sit down with you and we will handle it. Just like adults should. There you will see how much I love you and care. But this is BEFORE you snoop. 2. I suggest you evaluate how much you trust and love this person. If you are not satisfied with the answers, then more communication is needed. You don't have to snoop to watch the changes in your partner. You should be able to tell if there are changes in your partner from everyday interaction. TRUST is a part of the relationship. If your that suspicious and unable to TRUST your partner, then why are you with them? If you've tried to talk and your last resort is to snoop, then snoop. If you find something be prepared to deal with it all. But seriously, if you cant talk to your partner and iron out whats wrong, something is wrong with the relationship. If a person is DAMAGED or cannot PROPERLY COMMUNICATE, then what the hell are they doing in a NEW RELATIONSHIP? And what are you doing with them? This is the BASICS of a relationship. The foundation. You need to be able to effectively communicate with your partner. And if you cant trust your partner fully, then why get into a relationship with them? If your insecure no matter how understanding your partner is, its ultimately something you need to work on. I refuse to pay for Sins of another man who've done you wrong, telling me that he did it so I believe that you would do it. Seek help. Stay out of relationships if your not ready. My original comment stands. I have a low tolerance for snooping. Very low. Especially when women trumpet that guys need to trust more and be able to communicate. Thats what I expect. If you need help, see a shrink. I don't read minds and I build trust thru my actions. Thats the only way you can. If your insecure seek help from everyone, before you take matters into your own hands and ruin your relationship. Nobody can truly control another person, that's where trust comes in. I don't have time to watch you and hold your hand the entire time. I will hold you up when I can, and you can hold me up when you can. But as my partner, your expected to be able to handle things in a more reasonable manner, the same way I am. Or why are we together. If you have a problem with me, and your first answer is to spy on me, then your totally wrong. And I'm not going to greet that with love and tolerance. If you have a problem with me, and you come to me, willing to talk and wanting to hear what I have to say, then your right. You deserve a detailed explanation, patience, and all the understanding that I'm capable to give. You demonstrated problem solving, the kind that will save us both in a bad situation. And why I should continue to trust you. Your not holding it in and making the air toxic by doing sh*t behind my back trying to catch me doing sh*t behind yours. I cant allow weakness from my woman like this, I just cant. If your insecure, I'm not the man for you. Because I wont be kind to this kind of weakness. I don't expect a woman to put up with my insecurities. Not in a I have to snoop on your and check up on you all the time. But if my woman is willing to talk to me about my flaws and help then I'm all good. I cant be mad at her if shes mad at me for snooping on her. Tue, 7 Dec 2010 11:29:18 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment114251015 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment114178411 New One, you could have had that same talk without him snooping on you. He could have approached you that day and asked you what was up. It was up to him to trust you and your answers. I'm sorry but I don't agree with creating a problem to solve a problem. Especially when all you had to do was talk to me. Tue, 7 Dec 2010 01:40:25 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment114178411 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment113966917 Well there is always more than one way to handle things. But, I would curse you out. I'd make it sting because by snooping your doing this: 1. You're telling me that you don't trust me, period. 2. You don't want to talk because you believe I will lie. You want to see for yourself. 3. Communication. Lack there of. These are basic fundamental things of a relationship. I believe there should be consequences for violating the relationship. And disrespecting your partner like that. You don't get help if your not seeking it. So no, I will not allow you to snoop on me and talk you down. I will go off on you. Your at the mercy of my mood. Because you took the WRONG route to solving a problem. There is so many problems in snooping. Just so many. Why even open that door? Communicate. You don't have to snoop when you can just bring whatever it is thats bothering you to the floor. This is why Trust is so important and why once its violated its extremely hard to operate. You leave yourself vulnerable to your partner. So if you go ahead and snoop and he catches you, why would you think the reaction should be positive? Snooping is a very weak, disruptive and highly toxic act to bring in a relationship. It should be stamped out like a forest fire. Because this action just leads to more distrust and more disruptive behavior in the relationship for all parties involved. Communicate. So you can avoid this period. Mon, 6 Dec 2010 00:42:52 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment113966917 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment113864632 LOL New One. If your snooping. You've already taken my compassion and genuine love for you for granted. If your rumbling thru my stuff searching for something, you don't care what I have to say. That nagging suspicion in your mind is going to make you disregard what I say, half way hear me, and do it anyway. If a woman feels that she has to snoop. Its not up to the man to determine why she needs to look. The woman should have came to her man BEFORE she goes thru his things and let her feelings be known. ONLY THEN can I find out what made you feel this way and diffuse this situation and ease your mind. You should TELL your man WHY you need to look. If you want to look, this is something YOU need to decide for yourself. Wether talking to me about this will be ENOUGH to SATISFY you and your minds well being. Let's be honest here, most of the time it isn't. Everyone, Men and Women, need that hard concrete evidence in these types of situations. Its so many ways to look this. A person may talk to you, and still not be satisfied, now that person believes that, they've tipped you off. Your just going to hide all the evidence. And "act right". So in my humble opinion the best way is to just go ahead and look. Seek it out. If there is nothing there, it wont be anything to find. If there is something, then you handle it. But don't make it the man's fault if you haven't talked it over with him before hand. Don't try to lay everything relationship wise on the man. Or even the woman for that sake. People aren't mind readers. Nobody really knows what sets someone off. It may be something really silly, unknown phone numbers, a hug from a coworker, coming home late or anything. That's why communication is needed. Women say they want to communicate. Well here's your chance. Cant have it both ways. There is no way you should be snooping, you should be talking to your man about your feelings. Not violating his trust by going thru his belongings looking for dirt. You said: "A MAN THAT HAS GENUINE LOVE FOR A WOMAN IS MORE CONCERNED WITH HER WELL BEING MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. " And I agree but, in this situation this has nothing to do with it. Unless you talk to me first. If you snoop first, then get caught, well I'm sorry you've just committed a heinous violation of trust in this relationship. Your wrong. A woman should also be thinking the same thing as your quote says. Meaning she would talk to her man first if she cares about his well being also. Instead of snooping. Sun, 5 Dec 2010 13:19:58 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment113864632 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment113760952 So your saying you caught your man up to no good twice...... Why was there a second time? Sat, 4 Dec 2010 21:39:52 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment113760952 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment113239893 They are going to look. Men may look too. Goes both ways. Look. Fk it, go ahead and look. If you find something, I hope your prepared to go to bat about it. Cause if that person is wrong, they are going to harp on you being a snoop and not what you found. And if you didn't find anything and your caught, dont get mad that your being cursed the fk out cause of your lack of trust. People like to try and flip this one. Curse her ass the hell out bro, that's a freebie, so let it all hang out. Milk it for a week too. Thu, 2 Dec 2010 00:03:57 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/to-snoop-or-not-to-snoop-the-not-so-easy-question/#IDComment113239893 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/11/why-do-men-cheat-on-the-perfect-girl/#IDComment110906366 Seriously bro? You know the reason we still getting at women.... We are Str8 men! No matter how much we bish about them, we still love them nonetheless. I'll take a look at the rest of your articles. I understand this is a site for women, but the slant here is ridiculous. Fox News type ridiculous. Sat, 20 Nov 2010 23:08:31 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/11/why-do-men-cheat-on-the-perfect-girl/#IDComment110906366 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/11/why-do-men-cheat-on-the-perfect-girl/#IDComment110748662 There are celebrity men who aren't cheating. But they wont receive a post. SMH. Dude Dr.J is looking like LJ Knight on this one. Cant tell the difference right now. I see the same ole comments, Most Men, Men just dont know, Men do this, Men that. Sigh. I see he used the Tony Parker fiasco to get this out there. But the woman Tony was "sexting" is married her damn self. And she was a FRIEND of Eva! But that's going to be over looked. Hasn't even been brought up. I guess men are cheating on their perfect women by themselves. Wasn't even a groupie this time, but a friend of his wife's, and a wife herself. Sometimes I wished us Men got out there and talked about these things. Then we could shut these women the fk up about cheating. But most men are too proud to talk about being fked over by their women. Its funny how women acknowledge that they cheat more than men, but are never caught like men are. But they will get on these blogs acting like women are just the victims of cheating. They got all these advice for men but none for these hoes out here lurking in the streets or calling themselves "friend" and fkn their men. Whatever. I wish I would comment seriously on this simp ass article. Sat, 20 Nov 2010 01:26:08 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/11/why-do-men-cheat-on-the-perfect-girl/#IDComment110748662 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/11/scare-tactic-female-empowerment-and-men/#IDComment110053573 I see what your trying to do New One and I'm sorry but this convo has been up for a few days and to me, its on to the next one. Had I read some of your comments before, then maybe I would have slowed down and give my usual responses. But, I'm already over this topic. I'm ready for a new one. So I'm just relaxing and posting how I want. You ladies tickle me. I see the jab your throwing there. You want me to comment seriously. But I'm sorry I'm just not in the mood on this topic anymore. Catch me on the next one. Tue, 16 Nov 2010 11:59:09 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/11/scare-tactic-female-empowerment-and-men/#IDComment110053573 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/11/scare-tactic-female-empowerment-and-men/#IDComment109996471 Never. Her behavior scares me. Tue, 16 Nov 2010 02:43:25 +0000 http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/11/scare-tactic-female-empowerment-and-men/#IDComment109996471