gdp's Comments

Offbeat Mama : Things are going to be different

Tue, 20 Apr 2010 19:15:43 +0000

God, the You'll SEEEEE thing is such a pet peeve of mine. I wrote about it on Offbeat Bride:http://offbeatbride.com/2010/01/fear-mongering-yo... ... but it was even worse when I was pregnant. I had this one coworker who looooved to tell me about how AWFUL it all was. YOU'LL SEEEEEE. UG!!!!

Offbeat Mama : Cloth Diaper Confessions aka The Disposable Seduction

Tue, 20 Apr 2010 04:48:01 +0000

Totally. As discussed before:http://offbeatmama.com/2010/01/obsessed-with-clot...

Offbeat Mama : When my son met Kate Moss

Tue, 20 Apr 2010 04:29:04 +0000

OOH YES! Option 3: Dr. Seuss Character. :)

Offbeat Mama : What I learned from our first camping trip with a baby

Wed, 14 Apr 2010 16:54:00 +0000

Yeah, this Van is the realization of a MAJOR fantasy for both Dre & I. Of course it's already been towed TWICE in the three week's we've owned it, but that's all part of having VW camper. :)

Offbeat Mama : Why I'm over and done with breastfeeding

Tue, 13 Apr 2010 20:42:30 +0000

I had some really interesting conversations with my mom about breastfeeding dogma -- she helped me see how, given what they were up against back in the '70s, the Le Leche League-style BREAST IS BEST stridency was really important. When you're trying to turn around a cultural trend, a little dogma and hardcore activism goes a long way. But now that breastfeeding is much more the norm, that dogmatic attitude can actually be damaging. It really helped me to understand some of the strident "lactivism" once I had the larger historical/cultural context in mind... Also, even as a breastfeeding mother, I gotta say that having a can of formula in the kitchen cabinet did wonders for my sanity. Even though we haven't had to use it yet, just knowing that it's there helps lighten the mental burden of "omg, my body is responsible for nourishing my son."

Offbeat Mama : My growing boy and the flowered pants

Tue, 13 Apr 2010 15:51:52 +0000

Eliza, I totally appreciate your perspective here. This is something I think about a LOT, actually ... how ultimately, as offbeat as you may be, you're raising a child that needs to function within the larger society. You can work to imbue your kids with a sense of questioning the status quo and hearty independence, but above all you need to equip them with the tools they need to find their place in the culture around them. Also, there's a big issue of CHOICE here. In my comment, I noted that while I love dressing Tavi is bright colors now, at some point he may want to blend in with the other little drab-dressed boys at school, in which case I'll buy him a little brown hoodie and olive cargo pants. Ultimately, it's his life and gender identity, and while I can work to give him a level playing field where flowered pants are as viable an option as olive cargos, it's his decision which he wants to wear.

Offbeat Mama : Norwegian DILF rocks the sling

Tue, 13 Apr 2010 00:04:25 +0000

And then there's this one:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9DnlR7QZl0

Offbeat Mama : Norwegian DILF rocks the sling

Mon, 12 Apr 2010 22:40:13 +0000

It looks like a Moby-style wrap:http://www.amazon.com/gp/search/ref=sr_nr_i_0?rh=...

Offbeat Mama : Norwegian DILF rocks the sling

Mon, 12 Apr 2010 18:34:49 +0000

Yeah, I admit I spent half an hour watching Torstein's vids. Here are a few of my favorites: Jumping on your baby = HILARIOUS!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V5Ho5HgaDnE Old man face = SLAYS ME!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uxYGUbbUppw Aurora demands pasta = CUTENESS!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45M1hvPpYUY Aurora all grown up cooking eggs and chatting in Norwegian = ADORABLE!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Js3ryL-aGXY

Offbeat Mama : My growing boy and the flowered pants

Fri, 9 Apr 2010 20:34:19 +0000

This post really strikes home for me. Now that I have a boy, I'm fascinated by the gendering of color ... yes we all know about pink for girls and blue for boys, but it's to the point where it almost feels like bright colors in general are gendered as feminine -- boy's clothes are so frequently in shades of brown, grey, blue, evergreen, maroon, etc. Girl clothes are yellow and pink and red and bright green. It's super frustrating for a color junkie like me. For now, I dress Tavi in ridiculously bright colors, but I'm convinced that before long he'll be rolling his eyes at me and asking for some nice navy cargo pants and a brown shirt.

Offbeat Mama : Gamer DILF with pretty, pretty hair

Tue, 6 Apr 2010 19:57:14 +0000

Repeat after me: Dad I'd Like to FRIEND. Dad I'd Like to FRIEND. ;)

Offbeat Mama : Who's watching the baby?

Thu, 1 Apr 2010 15:22:22 +0000

The whole "why offbeat mama why are you excluding men yadda yadda" issue has been addressed since day 1 over here: http://offbeatmama.com/questions

Offbeat Mama : Who's watching the baby?

Tue, 30 Mar 2010 20:17:25 +0000

Nikki, just you wait for tomorrow's post...... ;)

Offbeat Mama : Who's watching the baby?

Tue, 30 Mar 2010 19:05:09 +0000

I relate SO MUCH to this post. Since Andreas and I are both self-employed, we share baby caring duties pretty much 50/50. I am so grateful that Tavi gets to spend so much of his infancy with Andreas ... and like Katherine, it's really important to my sanity to have time away to be my own person.

Offbeat Mama : How mamas with high maintenance aesthetics make it work

Tue, 30 Mar 2010 02:00:02 +0000

You should check out all my posts about Pushba: http://offbeatmama.com/tagged/pushba She's fucking awesome.

Offbeat Mama : Feeding my cloth diaper addiction

Wed, 24 Mar 2010 15:58:32 +0000

I'm sorry you're not liking the balance. We like substance and we like schtuff -- 20% of our content is schtuff related, and it's always been that way. If you're only interested in the substance, then I'd recommend changing your bookmark to http://offbeatmama.com/filed/features -- that way you won't see any of the schtuff. But ultimately Offbeat Mama isn't going to be the perfect site for everyone, and I'm cool with that. Hope you find what you're looking for!

Offbeat Mama : This week's DILF, Mr. James Hearn

Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:59:01 +0000

DILFs is actually a subcategory of our EXISTING Offbeat Papas category: http://offbeatmama.com/filed/features/papas

Offbeat Mama : Tavi's got four grandmas

Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:58:26 +0000

Sally, my son has two very active grandfathers -- and I mentioned in this post that my dad babysits every single week. It's worth noting Tavi's got two more grandfathers than I had growing up. Both of my parents' fathers were dead by the time I was born. Having heterosexual grandparents certainly isn't a guarantee grandfathers will be around.

Offbeat Mama : This week's DILF, Mr. James Hearn

Tue, 16 Mar 2010 19:33:40 +0000

Stick your DILF pix in the flickr pool: http://www.flickr.com/groups/offbeatmama/pool/ If you could include some of what makes him so awesome in the caption, that'd be great!

Offbeat Mama : This week's DILF, Mr. James Hearn

Tue, 16 Mar 2010 19:33:08 +0000

I mentioned this in a prior comment, but since I feature hottie MILFs (gay and straight) on the site almost every day, I don't see the DILFs posts as in any way exclusive of gay mamas. If you've got wonderful photos of your partner, stick 'em in the flickr pool! :D http://www.flickr.com/groups/offbeatmama/pool/ Include a little in the caption about what makes your MILF so great. :)