I am a black male and usually go to predominately black parties. This is because this is the place I feel more comfortable in and know what to expect. My high school was 60% black and 40% white but I always felt more comfortable with the black kids. However all my classes were with the white kids. In a classroom environment I never felt uncomfortable just disappointed that more black people weren’t in the class. The only times I feel real discomfort is when I’m at a party that’s not predominately black. At black parties I know who all is going to be there. I know what songs are going to be playing and I know what dances to do. Ironically it wasn't until after I became apart of a historically Black Fraternity that I started branching out.

After I crossed I began to be invited to white parties and things of that sort. It was definitely a different experience and nothing like the parties I am used to. Overall I enjoyed it but when you are in an environment when you are one of the few minorities, you are going to feel a little discomfort. White girls try to dance with you and they don’t dance like your typically black girl (at least a lot of them). It’s just something different that is outside of your norm. Though you are uncomfortable you feel like you can go harder than you would at a black party because no one is judging you. Everyone is equally as wild. Beer slide? Why not. Take shirts off? Sure. Things that would be unheard of at a black party would be accepted there.

After experimenting with some white parties I made my way over to the Latin parties. To be honest I felt a little more comfortable there. They were playing songs I knew, the women were beautiful, and everyone was having a good time. Then they started playing Latin music and that's when things got a little uncomfortable. Everyone is dancing, doing the Bachata and I'm in the corner watching. Its crazy how fast you can be put in a place of discomfort. Not going to lie, kind of felt like a loser. Eventually I learned the dances and felt a lot better. Being at those parties I learned a lot about culture and the upbringing of people different from my race.

Going to parties or an environment of a race other than your own broadens your horizons and gives you the opportunity to observe others. It’s going to be uncomfortable at first unless you grew up around the race of people. Sometimes it is good to step out of your comfort zone and experience different things.

Why do guys have a problem with asking a female if she had an orgasm after sex? Well there are several reasons why guys go about this situation the way they do. As a male in society it is our job to satisfy a sexual partner, so we think. Its apart of the whole male ego and masculinity belief. How long sexual intercourse last is determined by the male. Therefore, the male sees it as his goal to last as long as he can. If he cannot last as long as the female believes he should last, he becomes emasculated. Most, if not all, men don’t want to feel this way. As a result of “not lasting long” the female has the upper hand. She can tell all her friends and create long lasting embarrassment for the male. No man wants to be made fun of and called names like “minute man.” In result, most men don’t ask the female if she had an orgasm or not.

At the end of most sexual relations the male is satisfied and has fulfilled his climax of enjoyment. This usually just happens once in sexual intercourse with some exceptions of “getting it up again.” It is very possible for women to have multiple orgasms or no orgasms at all during intercourse. Well over half of males (around 70%) experience an orgasm during sex while only about one third of women experience orgasms (which we learned in class). This statistic itself could hinder a guy from asking a woman if she had an orgasm or not during sex. If the female responses with a “no” the male’s pride is hurt. Therefore most guys just don’t ask.

That’s why girls fake orgasms. They don’t want to hurt the guy especially if they don’t know him that well. The closer and more constituent you are with someone the easier it is to talk about topics such as orgasms. Society says the male has to make the female have an orgasm then finish later. In result the female feels like she has to fake the orgasm if not being satisfied because that’s the role in society she is supposed to play. Not all girls feel that way but some do.

Believe it or not a lot of guys just convince themselves that they performed well during intercourse and tell themselves there is no need to ask, at least I do. That’s just something to protect their pride and ego. No one wants to feel like they didn’t just “rock her world” after sex, even if she wants more. Some guys, after being satisfied, don’t care if the female is satisfied. They just roll over and go to sleep because they have enjoyed themselves. Truthfully I believe the reason a guy doesn’t ask a girl if she had an orgasm after sex is to protect his ego and pride.

If I could send a message to the American people it would be: Remember the past, live in the present and prepare a better future. In today’s world we either try hard to forget the past or dwell on it way too much. In result America seems to lack the progression and growth we have seen in previous decades. Yes America is the “land of the free” but there are still lots of improvements to be made on the term freedom. Also attitudes toward races, genders, and other things need to be examined.

In class this week we have talked about the past and a lot of white people, not all, seemed offended by the way they were being perceived. That’s perfectly fine but others races feel like that all the time. Its not often that white people are getting bashed for something and they experienced what other races have felt for a while. The feeling is of someone putting the blame on you or associating you with something that you personally don’t have any say in. This shouldn’t affect us deeply because we should know that we personally had nothing to do with it. That’s just the race we were born in. If we allow it to affect us personally then we are dwelling on the past too much. History is something that has already happened and there is nothing we can do about it. We must acknowledge it, live in the present and prepare a better future.

Though we don’t want to dwell on the past we can still learn from it. America looked at the economy, bills, exercises, programs, and many other activities from the past to help build a better future. We examine what worked in the past as well as what failed. Therefore the past can be very helpful to us in the present. Also we must acknowledge and honor the lives lost in struggles, not just in America, but around the world. The most popular struggles of the 20th century are the Civil Rights Movement and the Holocaust but there are many other people who have died through movements and unbearable circumstances. Even within families, there have been people who have been killed/ died for what they thought was right and paved a way for our present and future. All in all the past is very important but we as a people shouldn’t dwell on it too much. We must use the present as a blueprint for the future.

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Fear of death has not really been an issue for me recently. As a kid i used to think about it from time to time. People play games with kids that involved death all the time and don't realize how it can be harmful. I used to watch superhero shows that showed some type of killing or death. My childhood friends and I would act the scenes out and "kill" each other. This sense of death is instilled i our lives so early that sometimes we don't think twice about it. From an early age we realize that death is just something that one day has to happen to everyone.

There are so many ways to die I just wanted my death to be peaceful. We see ultimate violence on television everyday. Violence that is on movies as well as violence on the local / national/ international news. Shooting, car accidents, heart attacks, mass killers, natural deaths and many other ways to die are on almost every other television station. Its almost inevitable not to think about it at some point and time in life.

Religion has always played a huge part in my life so death has been an open topic ever since i can remember. As a Christian (Baptist) i was told/ believe that if i except Jesus Christ as my savior i would go to heaven. I was also told my time on this earth and actions will also determine the outcome of the afterlife. Therefore we are to live each day as our last because tomorrow is not promised. In result I don't fear death i'm just aware that its real.

Because of this I tend to double think my actions each day. I think if today was my last day would I want this to be my action. However, that statement doesn't always come to mind. After I do something wrong because of my religion and moral values I tend to feel guilty and think about how God wouldn't have liked my decision. In conclusion, religion keeps me on track as a person. I dont always try to do the right thing but I strive to become better.

How would i explain to my family why white and Asian people are the wealthiest in America? America was founded on "freedom." Everyone has also had an equal opportunity to succeed in America right? Of course not and that is the reason for our large gaps of wealth between races. African-American ancestors were brought over by Europeans as slaves. The white people had the power over the minorities, especially the blacks. Every since the beginning of American origins, African-Americans were living in poverty. This hasn't changed much in the present if we look at statistics. The ones who have the power try very hard to maintain the power. This is seen in the Civil Rights Movement. The whites wanted to maintain power over the blacks well after slavery.

Discrimination has been around for hundreds of years and still present today. Blacks didn't have equal opportunity for jobs directly after slavery nor during the Civil Rights Movement. This is another reason why the wealth gap between whites and blacks are so high. Blacks and Hispanics have historically had lower income, higher unemployment, and less education. If these groups can not get proper education or jobs then their wealth is most likely going to be lower than other groups that can. The unemployment rate for whites is 7.4% while for Hispanics its 11% and blacks is 13.6%. Groups who have lower income amounts are forced to spend their earnings on things they immediately need. Other groups, such as whites and Asians who have large income intakes are able to save and build wealth. Having less wealth also prevents Hispanics and blacks from sending their children to colleges and universities. This is a huge issue because without education is it very difficult to get a job where there is a large amount of income.

Other minorities such as Asians didn't come over to America as slaves. A lot of them came for jobs as well as education. With those jobs and education there is a gateway to wealth. Also some Asian families keep multiple generations in their households which is very common. Therefore more income for each household makes sense within the Asian community.

In conclusion, the reason for the major differences in the wealth gap stem back to the beginning of America. There are many different factors that are present still today that prevent the change of wealth between races. Lack of employment and education are huge barriers that reduce the chance of certain race groups to gain wealth. Having an overload of income in which a group has money to save is the only way to build health as well as good home equity. Hopefully our generation and future generations can help close the gaps and get America back on track to equality.

What the world tells us is that there is a double standard between girls and guys. Guys can sleep with whoever that want and get high-fived. If a girl did the same she would be considered disgusting. This is how it works for the question at hand. If a girl says another one of her friends is hot it is simply a confidence booster. If a guy says the same thing to another guy, the guy who made the statement is considered "gay." Why is that? The world will never know, that's just the way people viewed it.

I disagree with it. If another guy tells me i look nice or hot, it would be a little weird. Simply because it is not common and out o the ordinary. I wouldn't or feel verbally harassed though. I would gladly accept the compliment and move on with life. I am completely straight and things like that don't really bother me nor should it bother others. Everyone has different personalities and do things that are sometimes against what society says is ok.

I know a lot of guys that would be completely grossed out by another guy telling them they were hot. Some people i asked about the subject said they might even resort to violence. This is simply not necessary. I'm not saying i'm fully or the idea i'm just saying it wouldn't bother me. Its not in my character to call another man hot. It creates an uncomfortable feeling or both parties most of the time. Is it wrong to call another guy hot? No.As guys we can say other things that are more masculine. For example, "ok i see you bro" or "oh your trying to be fly like me" etc... It is going to take a while or society to accept a lot f things and something as simple as this is one of them.

Race doesn’t have anything to do with your personality. Being in an environment with people with similar behaviors and beliefs has an effect on your personality. Race is something you are born with. Its something you have no control over. Stereotypes have surrounded our minds and we generalize actions with skin color. For example, a stereotype about black people is that they are extremely loud. I know African-Americans that are very loud as well as many quiet ones. We, as a society, have come so accustomed to generalizations that we begin to believe them. We categorized people by the way they look and assume that we know their behavior.

The gentleman in the video looks as if he is Asian and if he is then that is his race. Just because he wears a cross chain or a thon shirt doesn’t mean he isn’t Asian. Your actions nor your clothing can define your race. How people dress reflects their personalities. There will be times where I wear Jordans, levis, a jean vest and a snapback. There are other days where ill throw on a button up, tie a sweater around my neck, put on khakis and wear wingtips. If someone were to judge my first outfit they would say I dress like a typical black kid. If someone were to comment on my second outfit they would say I dress like a preppy white kid. There is no reason that how I dress should be a reflection of another race, it is just a reflection of myself. The media has played a huge role in how we look at the world. Sitcom characters like Carlton in Fresh Prince, to characters like Ice Cube in Boy N the Hood have created lots of stereotypes. Jamie Kennedy in Malibu’s Most Wanted also plays on stereotypes and we begin to believe them. The world is very judgmental, but that’s the way its always been

Do I think that if blacks were giving the exact same rights as others after the Civil Rights Movement, we all would be on equal ground? Absolutely not. Something so major can’t just change overnight. Rome was not built in a day. The whole process would definitely take a while. There would still be people who were in denial about the situation and others who rebel against the Civil Rights. No law or act can totally change the minds of an entire population. There are always going to be people who don’t agree and are unwilling to accept the legislation. In order to be respected blacks had to fight, both mentally and physically. Both sides of the equation were needed in order to reach the acceptance of blacks. Now we look back on the struggle of the blacks who stood up for their cause and admire their determination and drive.

As far as the second question, pertaining to the student who commented on the Black People Meet site, I feel as though he shouldn’t be offended. Everybody’s views are very different. There are black people out there who actually just want to meet/date other black people. This is simply what the site is geared to. Every invention that is made, every idea that created, is not made to please everyone. Most things are geared to a certain group with a common interest. There is no reason to be offended, the site just wasn’t geared to people with the same views that he has. If you browse the internet you will find several sites similar to Black People Meet with other races. No matter what, the world will forever focus on differences in any and everything. Also there is always going to be someone/ group that is not happy with something or doesn’t think they are being treated fairly. How can we get to the place where we can all say will are always treated equal? The sad reality is that place doesn’t exist. Scholarships for specific people don’t offend me at all. It was created to help different types of people. Yes there are some scholarships that are “unfair” to other races, but I’m sure that race has a scholarship somewhere with a large amount that can seen unfair to other races also. All in all equality will always be an issue.