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8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +3 points

Haha, right? It's like 10 pages of "best of DWIL", but with seemingly qualified psychological analysis.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 3 replies · +6 points

This one, I think: http://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +4 points

There's a chapter on it in Taking Charge of Your Fertility, which is a legit book. Whether the technique works, I dunno.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +4 points

Sorry, just read a little more closely -- doesn't look like you're in the infertility place yet. I hope you never are!

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 1 reply · +12 points

You are looking for reddit.com/r/infertility. No acronyms allowed, a safe space for resentment and other feels, and SUPER KNOWLEDGEABLE. Queer friendly. I wouldn't have gotten through it without them.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 7 replies · +16 points

Much respect to the late Ms. Molchanova, who is (was?) an amazing athlete and, enviably, got to share her career with her son. But as a sport, freediving is terrifying. http://www.outsideonline.com/1896841/open-your-mo...

Like, up there with wingsuit flying.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +1 points

I went to one last summer where guests drew on the onesies with fabric pens before hanging them up. Some of them were pretty cute!

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 1 reply · +1 points

It's no less invalidating to say a woman ought to keep the name she was given at birth, but didn't choose.

Anyway, this whole conversation is exactly what Kate Harding was talking about in her essay, so thanks to Nicole and citizenchristy for tracking it down.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 9 replies · +4 points

Most of the women I work with are a generation older, and they are always surprised to learn that I changed my name when I got married. When I was making the decision, almost 10 years ago, I found Virgina Postrel convincing: even if you keep "your" name, it's still your father's name, i.e., a man's name. And like VP, I love my father, but I chose my husband. http://vpostrel.com/blog/postrel-is-my-name

Also, I was already on thin ice with the in-laws due to eloping. Going traditional with the name-change was a lot more palatable than a big traditional wedding.

9 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +5 points

NYU Langone sounds like a terrible place to have a baby. The only thing that stuck in my mind about this article from last October http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/20...

was paragraph 9, where they sent a new dad home because "visitors weren't allowed." I know of no hospital in the San Francisco Bay Area that separates new moms from their partners, I couldn't even believe that's a thing. I read that article 5 months ago and I still think that's the scandalous part, not the silly "baby-friendly" certification.

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