Jen Green
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If you browse the Parenting section of Barnes and Nobel, you can see that there are dozens of different parenting styles. If I’m looking for parenting advice or help, I’m going to search out someone who has similar philosophies, thus where labeling becomes helpful. Because of the way I define my parenting style, I’m probably going to search out a book by Dr. Sears, whose philosophies are more in line with mine, as opposed to say Michael Pearl, who advocates spanking and training your children to be submissive, because he is not in line with my parenting philosophy.
I think labels become detrimental when they’re applied as a sweeping generalization of a person. If used that way, they can be dismissive of a person’s multi-faceted complexity, and pigeon-hole said person to being nothing more than whatever label has been applied. But, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with labeling yourself or your philosophies in order to search out like-minded people for advice or comradery.
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As far as being in places other than our home, we try to have a conversation ahead of time so they are aware of what will be happening. For example, if we’re going to the supermarket on a Saturday afternoon, we make sure they know that there will be lots of people and it will be important for them to walk closely to us so they don’t get hurt by another shopper who may not see them. We try to let them know if we’re getting a lot of stuff, or just a few things so they’ll have an idea of how long we’ll be. We try to keep them involved while we’re shopping and stay as attentive of their needs as we would in any other place.
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As far as maturity-based decisions…I don’t think we expect our kids to make “mature” decisions for their lives. After all, we’re talking about bedtimes and what to have for lunch here, not picking a career path or deciding on a religion! Before they’re able to express their wishes/feelings/etc. what we strive to do is follow the cues they give us to figure out what it is they are needing or wanting at any given time. For example, if we put my eighteen month old to bed, and he cries after we leave the room, we would go back and get him. He’s not verbal yet, but his cry tells us he needs something: maybe he’s hungry, or has a belly ache, or isn’t tired yet. We don’t just leave him there to cry until he gives up and falls asleep; we pick him up and meet whatever need it is he has, even if that need is simply just to be with us. At the same time, if I have naptime planned for 1:00 in the afternoon, but he’s showing cues of being tired (rubbing his eyes, sucking his thumb, etc) at 11:30, I would put him to bed then.
So, no, my child doesn’t have the same life experience that you or I do. But I don’t feel that a lack of life experience exempts one from being treated with the same respect I would treat a fellow adult with. I respect that my children have needs and wants, and just because they are children doesn’t mean those needs and wants aren’t relevant.