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I've actually got that 'nervous stomach' people kept mentioning to you, and I admit I find it baffling to think of them being content with that as a diagnosis given what you're talking about here. Upset stomach as a result of anxiety (in my case, as a result of my OCD) is shite to say the least, but that sure does sound like them not wanting to admit they don't know what's up with you.
I can absolutely relate to the sheer discomfort of people commenting positively about weight when it's due to illness. My disordered eating habits are poor enough that I tend to eat about once a day and often only manage 1200 calories or so unless I bolster it with 'empty' calories, and over the last two years I've lost about 25-30lb, bringing me to the point of 'clinically underweight' I've always worried I'd reach. Whenever anyone comments with envy about my being 100lb, I just want to yell 'oh yeah, it's so great being exhausted all the time with a shit immune system, worrying what will happen if you lose weight due to illness'. But then I remember it's society that's so fucked more than any person and I stick with 'I lost weight due to my severe mental illness and find it hard to eat', just to try and dissuade people from trying it out.
Whenever I see those diets that say you can safely cut your calorie intake to around 1200-1300 calories after an 'adjustment period' I just see red. I keep meaning to write something up to put somewhere, anywhere, to talk about what it really means for your body to 'adjust' to living on that. Sure, you'll learn to work through it, but I can tell you right now it's not because your *body* has adjusted, no siree.
I'm not bitter.
Thank you, regardless! <3
Anyway, thank you! <3
Also, if women who have those neurological differences display different attributes and the attributes used for diagnosis are based off how men typically present them- definitely a strong working theory according to the last decade's research- it's reasonable to bring up the fact that it often goes unnoticed in women. Women also tend to be diagnosed later in life, which is probably that factor coming into play. There's been a lot of recent debate and discussion about underdiagnosis and later diagnosis in women and it's by no means solid or resolved.
Yours, someone who fits this profile who may-or-may-not be a late-diagnosis case and is currently panicking enormously over this fact and has done more research than is probably healthy, hah.
I mean I'm super excited to be starting HRT and stuff... but... this is a trial I hadn't really considered til it was staring me in the face. Blargh. I might be able to use e-cigarettes, at any rate. Anyone have any experience with going from smokes to e-cigs? Are they a decent substitute?
You want to a) look at a portfolio of HEALED work- this is important as the way tattoos looked when healed is a way better indicator of quality, b) ask about their safety procedures (there are some good online checklists for this), and c) ask about how they prefer to work. Do they want you to provide the design and have them tattoo it as-is? Do they prefer to work with you to sketch up a design? I usually only work with artists willing to let me provide a design 100% as it is, but some places specialise in at least interpreting the design themselves.
Also, check out waiting times for the studio. Some will do all the above on a walk-in then do the tattoo (or at least the first session depending on size). Others will have a six month waiting list.
A lot of what I've seen around the Hawking biopic seems to be about the incredible difficulty an able-bodied actor has gone through pretending to be disabled for a bit and how he 'learned a lot' and is so admiring of disabled people.
But honestly, 'the Oscars have historically been VERY white and VERY male and this is bad' can 100% coexist with 'there were films including gay and disabled people nominated'. A criticism of snubbing and overlooking people of colour and women doesn't necessarily mean seeing those things as unimportant, just that it doesn't somehow balance out the white male overload.