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8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 5 replies · -14 points

I don't fault girls for trying to date people they're attracted to. I reluctantly accept that their rejection isn't out of malice, they just want someone who will make them happy. The intention isn't the problem, it's the result. In the end they all partner up and I'm left all alone. That's the problem.

Doesn't make it easy to be enthusiastic about the whole affair.

8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 11 replies · -15 points

Well, you're in luck. I never will find a person who will touch me. Maybe you should realized how privileged you are that you have gotten to experience "oral sex from hotties" at all. For me that is a luxury I will never obtain no matter what actions I take.

I value agency too, but it's hard to stay enthusiastic about it when people keep using that agency to reject me. It's kind of like supporting free speech when everyone you meet is constantly insulting you with hateful words. Sure they have a right to say what they want, but it really starts to hurt and sometimes you wonder if letting them say what they want is really what's best for the world.

8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 18 replies · -10 points

"You could have used them to take a dance class, go jogging, learn to compose music or even just to meet people. You may think you're not making things worse by stating your opinions but you are because taking that time has an opportunity cost of literally anything else you could be doing to make your life better instead. "

The point is i've literally tried all of these things already. Dance class, jogging, even composing music. I've tried all of them. None of them helped. I mean face it. Unless you're born with musical talent, composing is a waste of time. Nobody is going to be impressed. I put my heart and soul into my music, but I was born without talent so it was a fruitless endeavor. In the end nobody listened to anything I put out. It's just like dating, only people who are born lucky get to bask in the glory of their admirers. The rest of us are cast into the shadows and utterly ignored.

The thing is I'm at the end of my rope. No matter what I spend my time doing it doesn't seem to help, so spending my time here doesn't incur any opportunity cost at all. Even if I dedicated 10 fold this time to composing music it wouldn't change a thing. Nobody would listen to it, nobody would be impressed, and I'd be left feeling like I just wasted my time again.

8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 16 replies · -23 points

I hate to say it, but you're blinded by privilege.

Must be easy to value consent so highly when you're able to attain it so easily.

You think I don't want a partner who is truly attracted to me? It'd be the most wonderful thing in the world. But it's an utter pipe dream. Of course I value agency, but if everybody uses that agency to reject me it gets a little harder to be so enthusiastic about it.

Maybe if you spent a decade in my shoes you'd realize how horrible it is going through life without any intimacy. You'd realize how a lifetime of rejection could lead to such bitterness. I wasn't born with this attitude you know, it was molded into me by a lifetime of rejection by women.

8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 9 replies · -11 points

I don't want to force anyone to do anything. People don't choose who they are attracted to. I'm not saying I have a solution to this problem. It's just a horrible tragedy and I feel like most people don't even consider it an issue.

8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 9 replies · -15 points

Children don't NEED parents or guardians for anything beyond the basic necessities of food and shelter. Technically, they don't NEED love at all. How is sexual desire any different?

8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 31 replies · -17 points

How about taxpayer funded brothels that function kind of like orphanages for the sexually deprived?

I guess I'm not saying that the idea of people only giving love and sex to people they want to and freely choose to is bad. It's just that the result is extremely inequitable and not pretty. Tons of people end up cast aside. I'm not sure if there's a solution to this problem, but I think it's a huge problem and more people should be outraged and work towards a solution for the good of society.

8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 42 replies · -16 points

If I instead mentioned something like "It's so unfair that not all humans get to experience a parent's love", would you find that gross as well? After all, that's also an issue of passing human beings around as resources. Why should sex be any different?

I think the fact that you find my ideals "gross" shows just how backwards our culture's thinking is about sex. We treat it as something special, that only deserving humans are entitled to, while the rest of us have to watch in envy. It is an incredibly bountiful resource that certain humans reap and others are deprived of. And we find this totally acceptable for some reason.

8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 19 replies · -13 points

The Great Dungeon Master In the Sky didn't even try. Nothing even resembles balance. It isn't like everyone has a boon and a flaw. Some people have nothing but boons and others are burdened with endless flaws. I know that yelling about it doesn't change anything but it's just so FRUSTRATING. Imagine rolling nothing but 3's for your stats and being stuck with that character for your entire lifetime. Meanwhile, other people at the table rolled 18s, and everyone at the table treats them like gods. They get all the magic items and all the exp, and you're stuck in the back, doing absolutely nothing. For your entire life. I just want to tear my character sheet to pieces, throw my dice at the DM, and storm out of the room.

It isn't fair. Fair would be if the DM used point buy, or elite arrays. Rolling your stats is never fair. Some people inevitably prosper while others inevitably suffer.

8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 144 replies · -17 points

"Sorry brother, that's how life is. You don't get blowjobs just because you tried really really hard."

Why shouldn't I? Is it fair that right now it's just the attractive guys getting blowjobs, regardless of their effort? Why shouldn't the guys like me who put effort in get blow jobs? Why are we less deserving than a guy who was simply born with good genes??? Why are blowjobs being distributed so inequitably????

Regular sexual contact has been proven to have enormous benefits, both physical and mental. In general people who get sex regularly are much happier and healthier than people who don't. Why is it fair that so many of us are denied any opportunities for intimacy just based on our genes?? Why does my anger scare you?? Why aren't you as mad about this as I am?? This system is ridiculously unfair.

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