en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/658579 Comments by Duuuuude http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64466582.html#IDComment38966109 We lost our son at 13 days of age in 2008. I understand how these, and other, parents are feeling. While we did not have the time to digest the gravity of our son's condition (it appeared out of the blue and after the NICU staff had told us he was doing so much better than expected - it took only 2 1/2 days to go from onset to incompatible with life), we had to deal with it just the same. Compassionate Friends has a balloon release every year, which we attended in 2009. They are a wonderful resource for support, which I would reccommend to any greiving family. Additionally, Lamb Portrait Studio did our bereavement photos, which we have displayed on our social networking sites and will be incorporating into our family reunion next year. Our angel actually led us to a previously unknown family member with his same name - which led us to discover our extended family. Though our little guy can't be here with us in life, his spirit has guided us in the present. We love all you little angel babies! Fri, 16 Oct 2009 18:29:19 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64466582.html#IDComment38966109 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38611654 Never said all. I only discussed this experience. Are you insinuating that it didn't/doesn't happen every minute of every day? I would then have to prescribe a few sociology and stratification courses for you. When one isn't directly experiencing the event personally and for a lifetime it is very easy to say, "It wasn't my fault . . ." or "Get over slavery/racism already . . ." We were personally told by the Sheriff of a local small, annexed-type town to stay out of a particular city at night because there are active KKK and 1%ers there. Are you saying there are no racist jailers and staff/inmates? Wed, 14 Oct 2009 00:13:36 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38611654 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38609296 Another bummer is the city now has a contract with the local law enforcement that each vehicle is towed, regardless of the passenger's ability to drive it home, so I had to call someone to come get me, and pay for the charges associated with that (and SATOP, etc . . . .) Boy, as a criminal justice/sociology major, I truly intended to steer clear of problems like these! That's what we get for trying to have a night away from kids! :) Wed, 14 Oct 2009 00:03:09 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38609296 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38609166 He does, however, have the permit and that is also messing with us since he does not have a hard copy of his license any longer. He has to rent vehicles for work and is actually gone this week - having to take our personal vehicle (which I don't trust to go long distances, but that is another story). We are waiting for the administrative hearing and will know more after that, though our attorney told us that since he blew, the prosecution pretty much has its case sealed unless, by some luck, the city/county forgot to calibrate their machinery. (I'm sure it's not a long stretch to figure out the asterisks, lol). Wed, 14 Oct 2009 00:02:47 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38609166 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38609132 I thought that was the procedure, also. Our attorney advised us (and he is only one of the best (and costly) defense attorneys in town) that he would have (at best result) been able to keep him driving with no problems and maybe pead C& I or something of the like. As for the jail time, we have insurance (our vehicle would be repo'd if not) and our tags were legal. There are no other charges. There was no option for bond and it was a mandatory 24 hours. This was not in Springfield, but a neighboring city if that makes a difference. They did not let him use the bathroom the entire time - they told him to urinate/defecate in a corner with several other males in the holding cell with him. They ridiculed him and belittled him. It is definitely an experience we do not want to repeat, and did not intend to place ourselves in to begin with. As I mentioned earlier, when we know we will be having more to drink than necessary, we will take a cab or find a driver. I never thought there would be a problem with a few drinks with dinner! Wed, 14 Oct 2009 00:02:26 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38609132 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38571284 To clarify: He passed the FST. They were going to fingerprint and release until good 'ol boy supervisour happened upon what was happening. As he does not have a degree in the criminal justice field as I do, he did not know to refuse to blow. When he was threaened with his license for a year which would put the only income earner for five children and a wife out of work, he did it. Once that happened, they decided to keep him for the 24 hours. My comment was to illustrate the discretion officers have in every action they perform, and to highlight the possible race conflict still breeding today - especially in our smaller towns. They could have let him go after he clearly passed the FST, but carried it on further. Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:46:52 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38571284 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38518994 Funny, my partner was not given a second chance to blow at the jail. I'm not sure where your information comes from, but it is not accurate for all individuals. Additionally, for the entire 24 hours he was there, he was given no access to restroom facilities and was ridiculed by the local small town jail administration - including comments made about his race. We truly believe this is the only reason he was actually arrested, as they told him he was a "fingerprint and release" at the checkpoint - until good 'ol boy supervisor came upon us. But, we have no real proof . . . . Tue, 13 Oct 2009 12:59:20 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38518994 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38429298 Funny you should mention that - my aunt told me a story from when she had been in her early 20's in Springfield. She ran into the rear of her friend which she was following and the officer told them to get home and drink another one. He let them DRIVE!! Maybe that was a little too lenient . . . . Tue, 13 Oct 2009 02:17:56 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38429298 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38429200 If someone is very large in height and weight, then the two or three does not affect them as it would the average sized individual. Additionally, females process slower than males. In our case, and again, we have receipts to prove it, it in fact DID put him at .09. As for the donation, my partner is a major advocate for donation and has worked for an organ/tissue not-for-profit in two states for 10 years now. We absolutely understand the grief. Though we did not lose our son to an auto accident, we did lose a son just the same. We recognize and empathize with the pain those families go through. Tue, 13 Oct 2009 02:16:00 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38429200 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38428891 In fact, they usually do selective stops. Not everyone is questioned - many are just waved through. Crim 101. Tue, 13 Oct 2009 02:09:17 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38428891 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38379972 That is just what happened to us. After three years of me being pregnant and we didn't do ANYTHING, and after losing our son last summer, we finally made a date and went out with another couple for dinner. We each had TWO drinks and my partner had three(our attorney has the receipt to prove it). We went through a checkpoint and he blew a .09. Now, being 6'2 and 289 lbs, .09 is nothing. Now, we have a world of hurt just because we went on our first date in years. That is, I believe, what MO Rick is referring to. NEVER would we drive if we spent a whole night out - we have taken a cab before and will always do it again. But dinner and drinks?? All we wanted was a quiet night with no kids! Mon, 12 Oct 2009 18:56:38 +0000 http://www.ky3.com/news/local/64008062.html#IDComment38379972 http://www.kspr.com/news/local/59186757.html#IDComment34425881 And FYI folks, one does NOT have to blow above the legal limit of .08 in order to be arrested for DUI. One can blow a .05 and they can still arrest. It is a COMPLETE judgement call on the part of the officer, so your best advice is to NOT BLOW. Spend your 24 hours in the tank, hire a really good lawyer, and you will NOT lose your license as the police claim you will. DO NOT BLOW!!! Mon, 14 Sep 2009 13:14:36 +0000 http://www.kspr.com/news/local/59186757.html#IDComment34425881