Although this is an insightful post, I do have my mixed feelings about it. It’s a bit cheesy but it does get the point across. He said that it took for him to go to jail for him to see this, and that I can fully believe because you have a lot of time to ponder and think things over, you listen to stories and consider perspectives in your own life and experiences that you didn’t look at before. But he mentions that he got it from movies, television and movies. Well, that’s a bit shaky. Hollywood definitely banks on feeding females the BS that is the “Disney Happy Ending”. Not all women know how to react to such a man, partly because they hardly exist and partly because there is so many ones that put up the Disney Prince front.
All the things he said seem really nice and ideal but it’s hard to keep all that up. I know speaking from personal experiences that I sometimes have the ‘too-good-to-be-true’ mindset. Women can very well sabotage such a relationship unintentionally because of this.
From a sociological view, I think he named all the things of what a man is supposed to be but rarely is. I would hope that he can carry out his promise of really being that man when he gets out but I think it’s going to be very hard. I love that he apologized though, to generations, everyone saying “To all the grandmothers, mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, nieces, and cousins out there that I may have offended; I am sorry”. He realized what he did wrong and admitted to it, I think he just went from one extreme to the other.
I also think that it was interesting that he said “I’ve been brain washed into believing that all women want is sex and money” because a lot of women have a similar view of men: that they want sex with lots of different women. I think he shouldn’t take the opposite point of view however because not all women want relationships. I think this is what media, more specifically Hollywood thinks relationships should be so people strive for that but it’s almost unachievable. I hope that he will keep true to his plan, get himself together in jail and treat some deserving women exactly how he sees fit, according to his new mindset of course.

I love this. There are a lot of things that I could pick at, and I will but I love what this story has made me think about. In no way am I belittling his part in the crime but it's extremely interesting to me why someone like him, now knowing his role, would feel that strongly about not wanting fame and pity nor understanding. He even says that he won't go into detail to feed a "morbid curiosity". I feel like he wasn't close enough himself to feed anything. I fully understand feeling guilt because you did nothing to stop it and I guess that essentially makes you as guilty as the actual murderers but still, he did just that: nothing. He wasn't even in the room. He got shoved out. Yes, he could have called the cops, ran, tried to stop them but he was scared. Fourteen at that. They could have easily turned on him, killed him

Although this was a very thoughtful & deep reflection, I'm a bit confused. He didn't mention what he was locked up for in the first place. I truly don't see the direct correlation between wanting a lot of sex & ending up doing 25 to life. People do a lot of dumb things because of sex but I'm sure the deeper problem is somewhere else. I love how he was able to step outside himself & look at it from a sociological view though. I just think he was so hell bent on looking for the single determinate that landed him there & that just wasn't it. There's more determining factors than just your love of sex that could have lead you there. He mentions that he grew up in North Philly, well so did I. I had a pretty loving childhood, never been addicted to drugs & made it to college just like the people he compared himself to but just growing up there has a lasting effect on me. Growing up there & being one of few that left, I realize that I react to some things in ways that are unnecessary or overboard because that's where I came from. I have certain philosophies that don't make much sense to anyone unless they came from a similar background. That has to do with my decisions. I grew up in a single parent home & although my mother did a wonderful job, that still causes me to make some unwise decisions. Sociology is about the bigger picture & him zeroing in on his demeaning journey for sex is just a small part. But the self reflection shows huge growth, I think & anyone should be proud of themselves for being able to do that.

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