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6 years ago @ The Toast - An Open Thread, and Se... · 1 reply · +43 points

Here am I, and my toastfeelings.

No, they were too big. Here you will find my toast feelings.

6 years ago @ The Toast - A note on The Toast · 3 replies · +135 points

"Proudly take credit for your ideas. Have confidence in the value of your contributions. And if the space you’re in doesn’t have room for your voice, don’t be afraid to carve out a space of your own."

6 years ago @ The Toast - The Final Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +74 points

The internet does not exist for 35-year-old men. It exists for us, too, and this was a good place to exist on it!

I am not a queer librarian, nor am I a body building archivist. But this was my internet home full of other unapologetically smart and interesting and funny ladies and people, and I'm so happy to have been a part of the whole lot of us!

6 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +7 points

For example, here's the discussion about that terrible, terrible man who cheated on his wife after they couldn't have kids. https://www.metafilter.com/160641/Sad-Boner-Confe...

6 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 2 replies · +28 points

Grad school has inured me to sharing rooms with people, and most of the time I don't mind sharing a bed. However, my junior year a friend and I were sharing a room for a conference in Chicago, and our advisor asked us to share the room with one of his grad students, who was Kenyan and couldn't afford a whole hotel room by himself. He had incredibly, mindblowingly smelly socks, which he washed in the bathtub and hung on the towel rack overnight to dry.

The other problem was that there was only one bed. My friend and I said we'd switch off with him, so every other night we'd get the bed and he'd get the sleeping bag, and then he'd get the bed, and we'd get the sleeping bags. Which was fine, fine, fine until my friend was out grabbing drinks and the grad student was getting ready for bed (in the bed) and I was getting ready for bed (on the floor) and he told me I should come up and share the bed with him. Not to worry, he told me, although he'd been away from his wife for 5 months, he would control himself and he would not be like a snake in the night.

I decided to go hang out in the lobby for the rest of the evening.

6 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +10 points

Primates of the Toast, unite!

6 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 5 replies · +10 points

It wasn't a very long conversation, but I posted the link to Metafilter and people generally liked it. Metafilter has its faults, but there are a number of Metatoasters and it's an increasingly-better place to be a woman on the internet (though, definitely with its fault-lines). There's been a lot of work on improving the climate for people of color and queer people, and my sense as a straight white cis lady is that things are getting better, but could definitely improve more.

6 years ago @ The Toast - The Negro Motorist Gre... · 0 replies · +23 points

This is staggering, wonderful, and such a gift. Thank you.

6 years ago @ The Toast - The Brush Off: The Ear... · 0 replies · +5 points

Yes! I did ballet in the early 2000s. The snow scene in Nutcracker between 2004-2006 was THE BEST EXCUSE TO SLATHER EVERYONE IN GLITTER, and slather we did.

6 years ago @ The Toast - If Barack Obama Were Y... · 1 reply · +38 points

He got his PhD in math, and asking him for help in all my high school math classes was a gamble because I'd either all of a sudden get it, or he would say something like, "Well, let x = 7.1452, and let y = ..."

I discovered that saved a pirate monkey onesie for my future (currently imaginary) offspring. He told me the other day that he wished it wasn't probably creepy for him to smile so much at other peoples' babies. He can STILL recite Where The Wild Things Are and The Cat in the Hat by heart. <3 dads.