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http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : Gender neutral anti-rape ads? Great idea!!!!!

Tue, 23 Jul 2013 20:11:29 +0000

Good question and we talked about that on the radio a bit also. At that point, "TYPE of gender" makes the difference. How is she dressed? If "sexy"-- most assuredly could be onset of sex crime. (then you get into the question of class and the fact that what one class of people thinks is sexy is not necessarily sexy or attractive at all, to another class.) If not, though, and she was polite and obsequious? Could have totally diffused the situation, and made Zimmerman feel like a big hero for caring: win-win. If she was mouthy? Anyone's guess. Like the situation above: imagine it if we had been dressed "sexy"--cop might have assaulted us himself. Imagine if we'd become mouthy! Ironically, we might have, if we had been INNOCENT of all crimes! It was actually due to our guilt/fear over having so many drugs on us, that we were so quiet and polite! If we'd acted all self-righteous and angry about being profiled as hippies, we might have gotten ourselves arrested easily. (Instead, we thanked him over and over... obsequious to a fault. He even rolled his eyes at us, we must have been very obviously high.) But he even SAID "you don't belong here" and I almost started to argue... but one of those things about multiple drug-abuse is that you can't remember what you were going to say, so you end up not saying anything at all. But he DID say that to us. A black cop actually told us, in so many words, that young white women don't belong in East Oakland... these days, he could get his badge taken away for being so out front and honest like that. (I've thought a lot about that too.) The thing about the Zimmerman/Martin altercation being between two males, it became a matter of "bad man/interloper" against "good man/protector of neighborhood"--and that is a primal masculinity-drama, which is why so many people will NOT see it as a racial thing. Our radio show engineer, Jonathan, quiet-young-wisdom-dude I call him, thinks the whole thing about a female jury is that they did not instinctively understand how MEN view interlopers, which is AS A THREAT. They saw it like women would see it: Mom goes over to see what's wrong and tell everybody to play nice. I think he is most assuredly onto something and told him he needed to start blogging.

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : Gender neutral anti-rape ads? Great idea!!!!!

Tue, 23 Jul 2013 17:10:10 +0000

BTW, at our local rally Sunday (see photo I linked), hundreds of black people, and I counted 11 whites. ELEVEN. That's it. Where are all these white women screaming from the roof tops? Because of that 11, there were only 4 white women. In our local paper, local media, etc... where are all these white women you speak of? Most have defended Zimmerman. I see this as a very racially-divided verdict. I don't see many whites (of any gender) speaking out, and so I do it. At the rally on Sunday, a young (black) woman said she was afraid she would hate all white people due to the verdict, and seeing whites speak out prevented that from happening; reminded her that not everybody buys the racist okeydoke from Fox News, especially here in South Carolina. That, alone, is enough reason for me to shout from roof tops. I thanked her for her speech. (We got all teary eyed, admittedly.) As I asked you on Twitter, what exactly would you have white women do? Absolutely nothing? Then of course you'd undoubtedly make fun of us for doing nothing. And rest assured, most ARE doing nothing. At least around HERE. I get enough grief from teabaggers, Danny... I really do NOT need it from you too... then, again, you sum up the whole issue with the MRAs: WOMEN (or is it just us women who call ourselves "feminists"?) can't do ANYTHING right, can we? Well, *I* do a helluva lot more for ALL men's rights (not just the white, straight, middle class men)... than those privileged fellas at A Voice For Men. But for some reason, they will always get your loyalty first.

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : Yes I could have been, and still could be, Trayvon Martin

Tue, 23 Jul 2013 16:54:34 +0000

Am I allowed to comment on this speech? Or does my gender and race automatically mean my opinion is of no importance and I should sit down and shut up?

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : Gender neutral anti-rape ads? Great idea!!!!!

Tue, 23 Jul 2013 16:46:47 +0000

In moderation.

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : Gender neutral anti-rape ads? Great idea!!!!!

Tue, 23 Jul 2013 16:46:30 +0000

I'm sure its easy for white women to scream from the roof tops about rights when at the end of the day there is no chance in hell they'd be in Trayvon's shoes. I scream from the roof precisely for that reason. I guess that doesn't count though, right? My apologies for not doing activism to your specifications, but I do what I can. (Should I ignore this kind of stuff when it happens?) I even told a story on the radio: the time me and a friend of mine (also white) were stopped by cops in Oakland, CA, very late at night (might have been early morning by then), both of us carrying various illegal substances. I was on cocaine and LSD and my eyes were likely dilated in extremis. Both of us, messed up, carrying drugs. And what did the (black) cop stop to tell us? (Note: we nearly fainted, and assumed he stopped us because HE WAS GOING TO BUST US). He said, you ladies need to go inside, it is very late and this is a dangerous place and you COULD GET HURT. We were both radical women and were dumbfounded by that. We knew we would have been arrested if we'd been dressed "sexy" (i.e. assumed to be hustling) or non-white. No question. But we were not supposed to be there, and instead of us being blamed for that, we were PROTECTED, and we were BREAKING THE GODDAMN LAW. We were *so grateful* not to be busted, we were very polite and obedient... my friend did most of the talking since I was nearly catatonic over the whole thing. We talked about it for years afterward. We knew this special treatment was due to race AS WELL AS GENDER, and also being a certain TYPE of gender (looking like clueless, rather asexual hippies in t-shirts). Being young was undoubtedly also a factor. End result: We nodded, showed the cop our IDs when asked, said thank you, and promptly got on a bus. That particular outcome of us "not being where we were supposed to be"--is just as real and political as the outcome of Trayvon "not being where he was supposed to be"--and that is why I juxtapose the two and tell the story. If you think that is not adequate, or that I should not be broadcasting that (or shouting from the roofs, or whatever)... well, sorry. You may have noticed: I do not shut up just because people tell me to, either on the right or on the left. http://daisydeadhead.tumblr.com/post/56237894275/...

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : Gender neutral anti-rape ads? Great idea!!!!!

Tue, 16 Jul 2013 18:57:21 +0000

I just mentioned on my blog (in comments) that I think its fascinating all these men's rights blogs have not defended the rights of Trayvon Martin in the wake of the Zimmerman verdict, the Good Men's Project excepted. I was hoping to read something from you too. I guess its all about WHITE MEN's RIGHTS huh? Not a peep from Genderratic or A Voice for Men... empathy apartheid indeed. Does their silence give you pause, Danny? It should.

TransGriot : It's Renee's Birthday Again!

Thu, 11 Jul 2013 20:08:25 +0000

Happy birthday Renee! Sorry to hear of your health problems... I got a few of my own lately, and they most assuredly suck. GET BETTER and hope you are feeling well soon.

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : What\'s the purpose of fathers you ask?

Wed, 26 Jun 2013 00:44:51 +0000

Interesting post, as usual. I am uncomfortable with the concept that women don't need to tell kids who their dads are... in this kind of anti-father environment , what can you expect from a cultural arbiter like the New York Times? I think people are entitled to know who they are (i.e. who they come from) -- but that seems to be a minority view these days. Since its considered no big deal to lie about who dad is or is not, we now have the new situation of women having babies made with other women's eggs, and they don't find it necessary to tell their children that they are not biologically related . Imagine the shock when you get a DNA test for some reason and discover your mother who bore you is not really your genetic mother? Apparently, some kids get truly angry about it, as they do when denied knowledge of their genetic fathers. The first situation has helped to cause the second. The experience of having the children is paramount, by whatever means necessary. If the kids should later be unhappy about that, oh well. Its not about them anyway. --- PS: I was hoping you'd say some cool stuff about that Jodi Arias movie! I am still withholding a complete post until the sentencing.

Womanist Musings : I Always Wanted To Ask…White People And The N-Word

Wed, 16 Jan 2013 03:20:43 +0000

What to think of Tarantino's scripts, putting the N word in the mouths of (very talented) black actors like Samuel L Jackson and Ving Rhames, etc? And of course, the recent controversy: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/14/quentin-...

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : An MRA Hellhole that MRAs reject?

Mon, 7 Jan 2013 02:55:00 +0000

I don't get your love of ballgame, the control freak. He can be very nasty and unforgiving; he judges harshly. I must be missing something. I loved a couple recent GMP pieces, so I have decided to give GMP another break. No, its not a hellhole.

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : 10 Things I\'ve Learned Since I Started Dating

Tue, 18 Dec 2012 22:53:18 +0000

Yes, Danny, I called you Clarence... sorry about that, I was talking to Clarence at the same time I was talking to you, through the miracle of windows. (I wasn't even high) At least I manage to get the comments on the right blogs. Someday, I will learn to answer one person at a time... but I usually don't! :P But yes, good to read nonetheless. I can't imagine Clarence spooning, but he might. :)

Womanist Musings : Michael Eric Dyson Tells the Truth About Fox News Sellout Jesse Lee Peterson

Tue, 18 Dec 2012 22:48:21 +0000

As you may know, we got a new black senator to replace teabagger DeMint. (Congressman Tim Scott from Charleston) He will be the first ever black senator in South Carolina. He sounds (easily) as bad as this guy.... we are girding our loins for a round of black self-hatred in extremis. :( Argh. http://daisysdeadair.blogspot.com/2012/12/tim-sco... My recent post Waiting for the End of the World

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : 10 Things I\'ve Learned Since I Started Dating

Fri, 14 Dec 2012 00:40:03 +0000

This is good to read Clarence. :) And the spooning, LOL... my husband regularly rolls over on my loooong hair (YOOOWWWCH!) so he does get even with me for having to eat it so often!

TransGriot : Texas Secede? Yeah, Right

Wed, 14 Nov 2012 14:24:40 +0000

That "Secdee!" photo is hilarious!

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : Out of the Office

Thu, 8 Nov 2012 00:18:40 +0000

POST PHOTOS PLEASE! :)

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : Weekly Mashup - Hawkeye Style

Mon, 15 Oct 2012 01:05:26 +0000

My comment on your open thread at GMP was moderated. Any reason why? I was polite.

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : Weekly Mashup - Chief Style

Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:58:34 +0000

I have to say, good point, Danny... you are probably right. Last time I remember that kinda thing making me mad were the ads for the film "Looking for Mr Goodbar"--the movie was seen as a cautionary tale about bringing strange men home for sex: "See what happened to her? She asked for it!" Made me furious. (More so because the book had been written by a feminist and that was not her intention at all. The focus was on the woman's life; her obsessions and motives.) I think we can't ignore that Cooke was immensely popular and becoming radicalized... this is what I tell people about Assange. This shit is NO ACCIDENT, and I know, sounds paranoid, but as Abbie Hoffman reminded us, "just because you are paranoid doesn't mean they aren't out to get you." At the very least, we can say the accusations color accounts of political incidents and the media joins the pile-on in a decidedly negative way. It just seems suspicious to me. The account I linked was the one with the most details, but I hated that it was still "he was a skirt-chaser!" etc. (I made sure to include Etta James' as one who wasn't buying it). And as I said, the reverse is regularly called out. I guess we could call this: Slut shaming of men!

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : Weekly Mashup - Chief Style

Mon, 24 Sep 2012 03:21:20 +0000

Yes, I hate the shitty Blogger interface. Good reads, Danny... I just posted about Sam Cooke, and I thought you might be interested to know... if you Google his murder (by a woman), it is uniformly: "He liked to chase the wimminz and that is what ultimately brought him down!" etc. I was startled in the extreme! Hello, that is NOT a given at all.. and the reverse is now not acceptable: "Girl liked to party with the boyz and that is what ultimately brought her down!" Well actually, we DO sometimes get that, don't we?... but we call that sexist and disgusting. But they sure do say that about Sam Cooke, even 48 years later! (As you said, I thought we pretty much agreed on that already.) I would not be as aware of this if I had not been participating on men's blogs. :) So thank you.

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : I suppose that some progress is better than no progress...

Wed, 19 Sep 2012 22:01:55 +0000

"Can a woman sexually assault a man?" Perhaps it is also that "grabbing and kissing a man" for instance, can always be taken in a dizzying variety of ways. (i.e. your mother and sister do that too) Women are more expressive in "affection" and sexuality in our culture, for women, is often all bound up with "affection"... she can always claim she was just being a cuddly fun friend, and you took it ALL WRONG if you thought otherwise! Men never get away with that kind of thing. I am starting to think deeply and seriously about these issues, and why men get the brunt of the blame, and I think "style" is a big reason why. Women are encouraged not to be sexually explicit, so we kissy-kissy and then can pretend that isn't what we meant, when it was. The equivalent for a man might be, telling a dirty joke hoping a woman will respond in a naughty and approving way, but if she is horrified, you can say, you "didn't mean it like that" and thus stay out of trouble. (You just had an off-color moment, thats all!) For women, the equivalent might be cutesy behaviors, nips and kisses... then if he objects you can say you were just trying to be friendly and platonic, like you would a kitten or something. The problem as I see it is, male and female behaviors are DIFFERENT, and thus, we need to find these equivalences to be able to spot them. If we continually say "women don't do that!"--well, we will be correct. The task is to find the FEMALE EQUIVALENT, and that has been the shortcoming so far. It will take more women allies to figure out this stuff, IMHO, and figure out what the behavioral equivalents would be.

http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com/ : I suppose that some progress is better than no progress...

Wed, 19 Sep 2012 21:52:19 +0000

Great signs, and good to see. Baby steps!