en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/764125 Comments by Cea920 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment69713355 ? I guess it was just interesting to take it from the prisoner’s point of view because it’s really easy to see and side with the victim. Going back to how I said that I just assume that these murderers are different and must have something mentally ill wrong with them or be heartless…because all you see through the media is the bad. I’m sure that most of them have done something good and great with their lives and have helped someone. Or maybe they were always messed up..and being in prison has helped them change and want them to do everything possible to try to undo what they have already done (and what can’t be undone.) So maybe that’s why they want to donate to charities and help other people out. It may help them mentally to know that they were different before..and they messed up before..but now they are better people. This may help them live their everyday life knowing that they have changed and have done other good deeds for other people..even if it is just a simple task of listening to an inmate’s problems and being there for them..or giving away their phone time to an inmate who wants to have more time to talk to their daughter on the phone on her birthday. Thu, 22 Apr 2010 12:59:29 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment69713355 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment69713219 And you always hear stories of people getting away with things and then doing it again (like sex offenders and prob murderers too if they somehow got off the hook the first time). There also are the feelings of the family and friends of the person who has been killed, and they most likely want the person locked away forever or have the death penalty just to have justice served. It’s kind of crazy..that I read that letter..and felt bad for him. Like I want to free him right now. I guess I just always assumed that these people are different..and heartless.. but really maybe they aren’t..maybe it was just a mistake..But at the same time.. I’m thinking..he’s a murderer...right? But what is the definition of a murderer? All you have to do is kill once and you are (like punching the guy at the bar for threatening you ..and then he dies..and it was a mistake..but you’re a murderer)? Or is a murderer someone who continues to kill..or would if they could…or isn’t that a serial killer? Thu, 22 Apr 2010 12:59:00 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment69713219 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment69713087 I really did enjoy reading that. It was cool to see the view of an inmate because usually you only hear what the media has to say…or once they are locked up you don’t hear anything and can make up what they are going through in your own mind. To me, I was always relieved to hear someone was locked up. This is mostly because I hate the death penalty but do not want these people on the streets if they have caused harm to someone. And that’s the problem. I’m sure there are people who have committed crimes who really aren’t mentally ill and out to hurt everyone or other people (even though I know that there are people like that and they deserve to be locked up)..but what happens is..if you murder someone..we can’t just say “oh that was just a mistake he or she won’t do it again.” ..and then let him or her back in our society..because if it does happen again…it could have been prevented. Thu, 22 Apr 2010 12:58:32 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment69713087 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66482839 However, I really hope that they will ban all games that have to do with rape, especially where the only way to win, is to rape. I can picture little boys now saying “Yes! Yes! I raped her! I won!” It’s also sad that you can download this game on the Internet. I’m not going to lie, I’m a little bit curious to see this game and how bad it really is. But I’m not going to download it (ha), but I’m still curious to see what little boys in Japan are playing. Once something is on the Internet, it’s hard to get rid of, so I’m sure even if they banned this video game from the stores, people will still be able to find it online. Wed, 7 Apr 2010 23:41:37 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66482839 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66482795 I actually have had an incident where a guy was stalking me while I was driving and drove over the curb just to take the same exit as me and got out of his car at the next light and tried to get me to get out of my car. I had to call the police and it was really scary. So any video game that encourages that type of behavior or rape, I’m not a supporter of. The last thing we need is more rapists in the world. But then again, we also don’t want killers as well. And I am a supporter of the games that kill. So really it doesn’t make sense that I would be totally against the raping games. Because if I’m not supporting the raping games, then I shouldn’t support the killing games a well. It’s weird how some cultures except some stuff and think it’s totally normal and others find it offending. I’m sure there are a lot of things that we do and have in the US that Japan does not agree on. Wed, 7 Apr 2010 23:41:13 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66482795 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66482724 Ok this is interesting. It’s scary that they would create a video game where the only way to win is to rape the girls. And it’s also scary that there is more than one of this type of video game meaning that in Japan, it’s probably normal. However, I wonder how mad everyone would be from the US if there were a lot of games like this out and we were used to it. It seems ok to have a bunch of killing games that we let our children play. It goes back to the one question that everyone argues about. If your kids play a killing video game, will they grow up and think its ok to kill? Just like would these people who play this raping game think it’s ok to rape women? To me, this is a scary game. Every girl has a fear of getting raped or being attacked. Wherever I go, I always have to be couscous of my surroundings and we learn to not trust people. It’s kind of sad. Wed, 7 Apr 2010 23:40:43 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66482724 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64830181 To me, it was similar to not really getting say..captin crunch cereal..but a knock off version. I am not black, but I was taught that being blond hair blue eyed (something you can’t control) was better to be. In second grade, I was scouted out for acting. I was sent into New York to meet with a Manager and audition for her. After I was done auditioning, she told me that my “look” wasn’t in. And that being blonde hair and blue eyed was in. I will never forget that she told me the only thing I could do is an Olive Garden commercial. Of course telling a young kid this is going to hurt them. I remember crying and asking my mom why I looked the way I do. It is definitely society and it is sad that it is affecting these young children. Tue, 30 Mar 2010 13:05:07 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64830181 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64830144 I bet if I was faced with a blond hair blue eyed baby doll, and a brown hair brown eyed baby doll, I would have said that I wanted to play with the blond hair blue eyed baby doll… and I bet I would have said that it was the nicer doll as well. In fact, I’m almost positive I would have done that because I always wanted to have the blond hair blue eyed doll growing up. And I wanted the blond Barbie. My mom always told me that she would try to buy me the doll that looked like me and this is probably so I would feel comfortable with who I am although I never asked her exactly why she did that. Even still, I wanted the blond doll. It is probably because of the media and the way our society is. I would watch TV commercials and the doll that the little girls were always playing with in the commercials were the blond hair and blue eyed ones. I wanted the main one, not a substitute/ not as good one. Tue, 30 Mar 2010 13:04:46 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64830144 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64830086 That video is really sad. The fact that these little kids who have not been on the earth for that long believe that the white doll is more appealing to play with and the “nicer” doll, is upsetting. It really shows inequality. You would think that little kids would want to play with the doll that looks like them. Especially because I remember playing with dolls when I was little, and when I played, I always (as well as my friends) pretended that I was the mother of the baby. So that fact that they wouldn’t want their baby to look like them, is really sad. Unfortunately, I have to say that I was a victim of this as well growing up. Probably not as bad and not as much hurt as these black girls were going through but I can relate in some ways. I am a white girl. But I don’t have blond hair and blue eyes. I’m Italian and Greek and have dark features with dark brown hair and brown eyes. Tue, 30 Mar 2010 13:04:22 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64830086 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63925894 I bet that Sam probably has talked about periods in his other classes too. I also want to make a comment about any guys who had to leave yesterday because Sam was talking about this. Didn’t they ever have a girlfriend? And if so, I’m sure they have had conversations about her period. I’m sure he heard her complain about her cramps or feeling moody. So I feel like the people who were offended and wanted to leave were just doing that mostly for show. I mean how old are we? Ok, I guess there may have been some guys who were really grossed out and couldn’t take it anymore. But I just find it a little doubtful. To what this girl said into the flip camera, I agree with her. I’m happy to get my period (for the most part ha). It means that we can reproduce. Wed, 24 Mar 2010 23:41:25 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63925894 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63925835 . Girls may feel awkward talking about it in front of guys and I really think the reason they feel that way is because they know that it is a turn off for guys. And they probably don’t want them to have that image in their head. But it all goes back to society. This is how we were brought up.. to not talk about it. It would be interesting to find out if the students in class who were really offended by what Sam said..were offended because they hated the idea of listening about it at all, or if they just didn’t want to visualize Sam’s wife getting her period, or if they just felt embarrassed for her. For some reason, I have a feeling that Sam’s wife doesn’t care that he talked about that. I’m sure they have similar views and believe that it is something natural and we should be able to talk about it. Wed, 24 Mar 2010 23:40:58 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63925835 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63925796 Ok, I am a woman, and I won’t to comment on this. I first want to say that I don’t think it’s a big deal that Sam brought this up in class. I understand that this is a soc class and not the sex education classes that we had to take in like 5th grade and 9th grade. However, it really does relate to sociology. Sam just proved how talking about something natural and normal bothers people because of the way our society is. They imbedded in our brains that talking about a women getting her period is wrong. However, I have to say, I have never had a problem talking to a girl about periods before. So girls talk about it all the time. Even if I just met the girl not that long ago, a conversation about getting their period isn’t an awkward conversation to have. We all have our own stories and most of us don’t mind talking about it with each other. So I guess the problem is that men get uncomfortable. I don’t know if it is the image of the girl who they are talking to or ”into” bleeding that freaks them out or what exactly it is. Wed, 24 Mar 2010 23:40:34 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63925796 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/women-and-sports__trashed/#IDComment62475405 Either way, being the 1st female football coach takes a strong woman who has to be prepared for a battle with ignorant people who don’t approve of a women being a football coach. Judging by the video clip, it seems like this women would be perfect for the job. It also helps that she has played football before. During the interview, she answered every question the news lady had for her, professionally and very well. Although she comes across sweet and innocent, you can tell that she is the type of person who will not let anyone bring her down and that she won’t take “crap” from anyone. But I guess only time will tell with that because it is still fairly early. All in all, I am very pleased that there is a woman coaching football (especially because by now I thought there would have been plenty of women coaches for high school). And I hope that people will be able to not be too hard on her even though I’m sure the media and everyone is going to be watching very closely at her decisions. This poor women now has the pressure to represent all the ladies well as the first women’s football coach. Tue, 16 Mar 2010 23:22:17 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/women-and-sports__trashed/#IDComment62475405 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/women-and-sports__trashed/#IDComment62475358 I am kind of surprised that they are making a big deal over this and I guess it’s because I thought by now there would have already been a girl football coach and more than just 1. Especially for high school..which I think that is what she is coaching. If she was the first professional football coach I could see how that would bring up controversy because even though affirmative action was a long time ago, I believe fans would be upset about a women coaching professional football. It’s sad but it’s true. People think that we, as women, don’t know about the sport as well as men do because women don’t typically play the sport. I can see a lot of drunken fans who would be pissed off and the other team’s fans making fun of the women coach as well. I know girls who know a lot about football and could honestly probably coach but I’m sure people wonder if it is worth all the controversy. It’s probably good that she isn’t coaching professional football because people are going to be a lot nicer if something goes wrong at the high school level because it’s not as serious as professional football. Tue, 16 Mar 2010 23:21:56 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/women-and-sports__trashed/#IDComment62475358 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/women-and-sports__trashed/#IDComment62475323 I didn’t even know that there was a women’s football league. So that in general makes me happy. But that is really funny how she sounds so sweet and innocent, and then they show pictures of her on the football field and she looks like a beast. What I really would like to see, is a girl play on an NFL team..and I don’t mean as a kicker. However, I feel like the football guys would be afraid of hurting her. And I know that as a women, I don’t care how jacked I am, I would be scared to go up against those huge players. Tue, 16 Mar 2010 23:21:38 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/women-and-sports__trashed/#IDComment62475323 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment60396716 This seemed like the last straw..and people decided to walk out. And everyone was on TV for it. However, when I look back, were people mad?, yes. But most people just walked out to be a part of the event. Not because they were extremely offended. Now, I’m not saying that the people who are making a big deal about the racist party aren’t offended. But it may be that a lot of the people are protesting, just want to be a part of the action, and if this didn’t go to the media, it wouldn’t have been that big of a deal. However, my beliefs are also conflicted because there is a chance that they have been dealing with a lot of racism issues at their school for a while, and if this is the case, and then the party was meant to attack blacks, then my feelings would change again. Mon, 8 Mar 2010 13:43:38 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment60396716 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment60396582 But now, that I saw this media clip, and I can see how many people this has offended and outraged, things are a little different. But that’s the thing. Would this have been such a big deal, and would this many people have been that offended, if it didn’t reach mainstream media? If it wasn’t for the media grabbing the invitation and presenting it to the public, there’s a chance that the University wouldn’t be so divided and there wouldn’t be that much hatred. It really is depressing to look at those kids rallying. It makes it seem like we are digressing with race issues. This made me think of when my highschool had a walk our during my junior year. Everyone was mad because the teachers went out strike, which led to a month off in November and graduation being pushed into late June. But what caused the walk out was when the school canceled our pep rally due to bad weather. Mon, 8 Mar 2010 13:43:20 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment60396582 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment60396540 These theme parties are poking fun at stereotypes. In my discussion group, I wanted to believe that these boys created this party just for fun and not to hurt anyone. However, once you start analyzing the invitation, and when you are looking at it from a race relations point of view, you begin to think “wow, this is racist and wrong. “ However, I couldn’t sit there in my discussion group and think that If I came across the invitation, I wouldn’t just sigh and think “oh just college frat boys being college frat boys.” Because truth is, that’s what I would have thought. Mon, 8 Mar 2010 13:42:56 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment60396540 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment60396420 This issue we talked about in our discussion groups. And for me, I am happy that I had zero knowledge of this party that some frat guys decided to have that created controversy. Because, If I saw how much of a big deal the media made it out to be, my opinion would have changed, and how I felt during the discussion group may have been different because of being influenced on the media. In our groups, we were handed a paper that was the copy of one of the frat parties and that college that they named “the Compton cook-out” or something like that. And while I agreed that what was said on there was terribly racist, and extremely wrong to relate the party to celebrating black history, In my eyes, it was just some college kids being stupid. And in my eyes, no big deal. However, I also said how I am not black, and I don’t know how I would feel if I was black, and it probably would offend me. There are always theme parties that frat boys (and even just regular house parties) have like the white-trash parties, and the jersey shore parties. Mon, 8 Mar 2010 13:42:38 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment60396420 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/who-could-compete-with-this-woman-on-a-level-playing-field__trashed/#IDComment58223437 Yvrose seems like she would be one of the people who are motivated and do well. Sam asked in the blog what we would do in her situation and what she would be doing if she was born where we were in the United States. Just imagine if she continued to get her education and went to college for business. My prediction is that she would be very successful here. I can’t even imagine what my life would be like if I was born in Haiti. I definitely don’t think I would be doing what Yvrose is doing. Seeing how other people live make me so thankful and grateful that I was born here and it makes me wish that everyone could live the same way and have the same opportunities (even though I know that this isn’t possible). Mon, 22 Feb 2010 17:02:47 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/who-could-compete-with-this-woman-on-a-level-playing-field__trashed/#IDComment58223437