en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/764572 Comments by CassandraBailey https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment71563674 Imagine an earthquake hitting here, we would definitely give it more attention. This is like this because it is our home and we feel protective of it. Now imagine this from the people of Haiti’s point of view. They are thinking the same thing. Now think about how you would want help getting back to how everything was. Fri, 30 Apr 2010 22:43:04 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment71563674 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment71563657 I remember reading an article maybe about a month ago about students support on Haiti. It was about how effort was slowly decreasing, while some groups were staying strong, including Project Haiti. Even though there was hardly any news coverage about it, groups were still involved. If only more groups were. It makes me think that I still can get involved and so can everyone else who has no helped at all really. If you think about it, there is still so much damage left and so many people left who need our help. I know right now that I am saying this and most likely I am probably going to forget about it with classes and getting ready for break, which is what is on everyone’s mind, but what if we really made it happen. We might think that just one person might not be able to help, but it just really takes one person. It starts with one person and then it turns into a huge group effort. Fri, 30 Apr 2010 22:42:46 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment71563657 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment71563611 I do feel like a lot of people did help out in the beginning. This only really happened because there was so much news coverage and so many groups were getting involved. However, this eventually changed when the news coverage slowed down and people began to forget about what happened. I have to admit I even forgot about it, too. One of my friends is actually involved with Project Haiti and she tries to do as much as she can. This is something that I feel like I should have done. Fri, 30 Apr 2010 22:42:25 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment71563611 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment71563580 I remember when the earthquake in Haiti first hit. I was watching the news and all of a sudden something comes on about the biggest earthquake that hit and it was in Haiti. For a second, I thought how could have this happened. I thought about all of the people that lost their lives, how all of their buildings collapsed, and how so many people would not have anywhere to live anymore. After that I thought what I could do to help. However, I really did not do anything and because of this, I feel like I should have done more. The only thing that I helped with was donating in class whenever we did. I felt that this did go to some kind of change, but I could have done more. Fri, 30 Apr 2010 22:42:07 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment71563580 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/stories-for-uplift__trashed/#IDComment70626111 It was hard not to think that their love was adorable. It makes you not think about race really when you watch it because that should not be a problem at all. I can see how it does tie in with the first one by means of accepting each other no matter who were are. If only more people could be like the man and woman in the first video and the two little children in the second video. There would not be any race problems that we would have to deal with and everyone would be able to understand each other. If people are willing to help others and to care for others in a world where we are dealing with all of these issues today, it just goes to show that there definitely is progress and improvement toward a better society. If everyone gave a little kindness every day and if everyone cared as much as children do. Mon, 26 Apr 2010 06:45:38 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/stories-for-uplift__trashed/#IDComment70626111 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/stories-for-uplift__trashed/#IDComment70626099 In the second video, it just goes to show that everyone is truly equal. It is the judgmental adults in the world that cause the problems. When you are little, you really do not understand anything. You are always trying to figure things out and understand why everything is the way it is. The last thing on a child’s mind is different races. Do you really think a child thinks that if another child does not look the same as that, that it means they should treat them differently. Children are more accepting and do not think about race. When they grow older, they are then submitted into a world of prejudice and judgment. If only the adults of the world can think back to when they were younger and look at the world they used to know. Mon, 26 Apr 2010 06:45:27 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/stories-for-uplift__trashed/#IDComment70626099 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/stories-for-uplift__trashed/#IDComment70626090 I have to say that when I watched both of these videos, I kind of wanted to cry, too. It just so nice to see that are people with these characteristics out there. In a world, where people seem to not care about anyone else, but themselves, it is always nice to be reminded that there is still caring and this simple love out there. In the first video, it made me so happy to see someone so giving and caring. He actually gave something to someone who he is not even related to, but still considers that person family. It just goes to show it does not matter who you are or what kind of ethnicity you are, everyone is equal. It is so nice to see that this man would only see this woman maybe not even once a week, but he changed her life. He gave up something for someone who he barely sees to save her life. To me, this kindness and love in the world is what everyone needs. Mon, 26 Apr 2010 06:45:19 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/stories-for-uplift__trashed/#IDComment70626090 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68293737 I realize that it does not really matter, because guys most of the time never even realize what you are wearing and a lot of girls just care about what they are wearing, too. It is nice when someone comments on your outfit, but that is only because you put a lot of work into it. I think girls care more about what they look like than guys do. There is definitely a standard that has been set that girls have to compare themselves to. It has been created through movies, music videos, and just about everything else. It is hard for a girl to accept everything about herself because they are always going to find at least one thing they do not like about themselves. I learned that it is more about your self confidence and how comfortable with yourself is what makes you beautiful and will make people want to be around you more. You really do not want to be around someone who complains all the time like I really do not like my hips or this or that. If you accept who you are then that is one step closer to breaking that standard that has been set. Fri, 16 Apr 2010 00:22:48 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68293737 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68293690 Admit it, while you are going to class or even in class you sometimes feel like you are comparing yourselves to other girls that you see or you are friends with. I know I find myself doing this sometimes, but not as much as I did in high school. The whole topic of who do you really dress for kind of does not relate to me. I really do not dress for women or men, but more for myself. I am more comfortable in wearing something really nice compared to sweats, which I sometimes wear occasionally, but I like to get dressed up most of the time. It is not because I feel less self confident not dressing nicely. I just feel more confident in it and more of myself. Maybe sometimes I feel like maybe I need to dress better than her or maybe the guy I like will notice me more because I got dressed up today. Fri, 16 Apr 2010 00:22:26 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68293690 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68293666 A girl's appearance is definitely a big issue that surrounds everyone, including guys today. I really did like how the play was a good opener for discussion on this issue. I have to admit at first I was not really sure what was going on, but then I finally realized what was going on about halfway through the play. I did not get it at first that it was switched. It meant that everyone wanted smaller breasts rather than having larger breasts. If only the world was kind of like that or even if nothing was preferred over the other. There is always going to be an issue around this topic no matter what. Fri, 16 Apr 2010 00:22:07 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68293666 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/revisioning-the-revisioning-stage__trashed/#IDComment65673289 The only way that someone might be different from you is maybe the different cultures that they are used to. Other than that everyone is basically the same. I think when we started learning about this stuff in class I did revise some things, but I still have the same thoughts and ideas today. I see race as a problem that should easily go away, but it isn't. The only thing from making this not such a big problem anymore for everyone is that everyone has to accept each other. People need to be taught the same things and learn that just because they have a different skin color, it does not mean there should be that difference between them. Sat, 3 Apr 2010 00:55:03 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/revisioning-the-revisioning-stage__trashed/#IDComment65673289 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/revisioning-the-revisioning-stage__trashed/#IDComment65673268 I am a white person and when I was younger, most of my best friends were black. I did not think about it twice. To me this was how it should be. You see everyone equal because truly everyone is. It was not until I was in I think middle school. This is where I started hearing about race relations problems. I think this might have been the revisioning stage for me. This is when I started to think about race and saw how we were all different. I only really saw everyone different because of their skin color. However, that still did not change me. There were some people that I saw that started to fit the stereotype that I started hearing about, but it was not that often. Just because you do not have the same skin color as someone, it does not mean that the other person should be treated in any different way or that they are in any fact truly different than you. Sat, 3 Apr 2010 00:54:56 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/revisioning-the-revisioning-stage__trashed/#IDComment65673268 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/revisioning-the-revisioning-stage__trashed/#IDComment65673244 When we were first learning about the stages that white people go through and people of color go through, I thought it was really interesting. I did not realize that there were actual stages that we go through towards the direction of getting rid of racial issues. To me the revisioning stage can happen whenever. It all depends on where you grow up and the people you are around. There are different influences for everyone. I know for me that I already went through the revisioning stage. However, in class I definitely revised the revisioning stage. I think for someone who has already been through it you don't really think about it. When I was little, I was in classes that were equally mixed. When you’re that little I feel like you do not think about race, especially if you’re taught that everyone is equal. Also, when you are that young, you are not told about stereotypes and you do not realize that race is an issue. Sat, 3 Apr 2010 00:54:47 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/revisioning-the-revisioning-stage__trashed/#IDComment65673244 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63947502 I know as soon as I talk to my guy friends about it they freak out right away. They don't want to hear about it at all. I wonder if they know when they are married they are going to have to deal with it every month. I am planning on my husband on being supportive, too when I get it every month, too so he better be comfortable with it. I know I am comfortable with talking about it in front of my guy friends because I feel like it is something everyone should just accept. I really do not understand why people are so embarrassed and do not like talking about the topic of having their period. The menstrual cycle is something that every woman goes through. Having your period is not something you should be ashamed of at all. It means that you are able to have become pregnant and give birth to your own children. This is something that women should be proud of and not be ashamed of. Sam is right that when you are bleeding it is a bodily function and it’s something that everyone should accept. Thu, 25 Mar 2010 02:38:59 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63947502 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63947486 I can see both sides of why guys can get grossed out from periods. One thing is that they have no idea what is going on. As soon as they hear the word bleeding or any word related to periods they get so grossed out. When I am talking to my friends that are girls we are very open about it. We do not care at all. We are all going through it and might as well talk about our problems. It is also nice to know someone has it the same time as you do so it feels like its less pain. It just makes us feel better to talk about it. I mean that is what girls we like to talk about everything. Anyway back to how guys feel about it. The only thing they know that it involves bleeding cramps and pmsing. Thu, 25 Mar 2010 02:38:50 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63947486 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63947465 First of all, I have to say that I am not ashamed of my menstrual cycle. I am actually quite proud of it. If it also weren't for getting my period, I would not be able to have children when I am older. I did not get mine until really late like after all of my friends. I got to the point where I got really worried and thought what if I never got it. Then I would never be able to have children. This is a gift that all women have to go through every month even if it is painful with the gift of getting cramps along with it, too. Thu, 25 Mar 2010 02:38:38 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63947465 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/prom-or-no-prom-just-dont-let-the-queer-students-dance-together__trashed/#IDComment63079955 When I read this I was really surprised. Why would they cancel a prom just because a girl wanted to bring her girlfriend to the high school problem. I think its ridiculous. As a society, we are already trying to accept LBGTs. When something like this happens, it makes the whole society take one big step back further. How are we ever going to make progress on accepting LBGTs in our society if we keep moving backwards. The girl might already have a tough time, too by being who she is. To a lot of people she is different. Maybe some students in her high school don't like her. By this girl wanting to take her girlfriend to prom and the whole school canceling is going to make everything worse for her. All of the other students will really not like her because of this even if it was not really and should not have been her fault. Or this whole thing can go in another direction. The other students should step up and support her rights and everyone else's. They should realize this is not fair not just for them not being able to go but also that the girl has to go through this. This makes me think why would the school even do this. Do they have a problem against other people similar to her because if they do they have a lot of prejudice going on. I can see somewhat from their point of view. I can see that maybe they do not want to expose the other students to things like this or maybe they are worried about what the parents might thing. Maybe even they want their school to have a certain reputation. Either way, though, this is not acceptable. We first have to make progress in order for everyone to accept. By canceling the prom, though, was definitely taking it too far. I can see maybe why they just wanted her to wear a dress, but that should not have really been a problem. Even if they did want to make rules it should have been just that. Not to decide to cancel everything. It makes me think who was the one to decide all of this. They all had to have the some opinions. They should have heard her side of the story before they did this. What will happen if another situation comes up like this one, which is very likely. Are they just going to cancel again. If they do, this problem will never go away. Sat, 20 Mar 2010 01:13:53 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/prom-or-no-prom-just-dont-let-the-queer-students-dance-together__trashed/#IDComment63079955 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/are-whites-the-only-people-willing-to-humiliate-themselves__trashed/#IDComment59776265 Another thing is maybe whoever the bachelor or bachelorette is, might fill out like a paper saying what they look for in someone. They might be asked would you feel comfortable dating out of your race and maybe most of the time they might not be. It's not because they are racist, but maybe because they are more comfortable that way. Also, it just might be more likely to happen that they shared all the same qualities and things that they look for in a person with all of the contestants that are chosen. I feel that the show isn't racist at all and they way there show is set up is just how it happened that way. I feel like white people are not the only people willing to humiliate themselves. If you look at other reality shows that are out there, you notice that there are different races on them. Some shows even have all but one race on them, too like maybe all blacks. So it’s just not one show. I think that everyone is just looking for attention, and to get attention they are willing to be embarrassed along the way. Thu, 4 Mar 2010 19:11:36 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/are-whites-the-only-people-willing-to-humiliate-themselves__trashed/#IDComment59776265 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/are-whites-the-only-people-willing-to-humiliate-themselves__trashed/#IDComment59776223 I ask this because another reason that they pick white contestants is because maybe that is what they think is the most attractive. They might feel that if viewers think whoever is the bachelor or bachelorette is really hot or really attractive they are more likely to watch it. I have to admit that this is true because the bachelor on the most recent season was definitely not hard to pass up on. When I heard last season he was going to be the next bachelor, I knew I could not even miss one episode. Another point I should mention is lately, the people who are usually are the next bachelor/bachelorette are usually on the season before it. They are usually someone who was not chosen and since so many people seem to like them so much, they would get another chance to find love. Since every season there are only white people, there will always be a white bachelor or bachelorette. It’s a cycle that has been happening and always will. Thu, 4 Mar 2010 19:11:16 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/are-whites-the-only-people-willing-to-humiliate-themselves__trashed/#IDComment59776223 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/are-whites-the-only-people-willing-to-humiliate-themselves__trashed/#IDComment59776195 Let me start off saying that I am a huge fan of the bachelor/bachelorette. I know this sounds maybe a little silly but I can help but watch it. It never really occurred to me once really that all the people the contestants were white. It might have occurred once when I was watching one season and there was only one black girl when there was a bachelor. She was picked a couple of times, but then eventually sent home. There have also been a couple Asians, but not too many. After a while, I eventually forgot about this and just went on watching the show. I feel like the reason there are always white people on the show is because maybe the biggest majority of people watching the show are white and they are just trying to appeal to that audience. If they did include more diversity, than they would have more ratings, but it all depends. Would some white people not really watch it anymore if they did have more diversity. Thu, 4 Mar 2010 19:10:58 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/are-whites-the-only-people-willing-to-humiliate-themselves__trashed/#IDComment59776195