gdp's Comments

Dr. Brian N. Hewlett : Rethinking Sexuality in a New Age

Sun, 17 Jan 2010 22:41:11 +0000

You are so very correct when you say that many live lives to "fit in" rather than be happy. So the question that comes out of your comment is how much of the population would be happier if they didn't live their lives based on social norms but deliberately went against them to experience what is told to them is taboo? Would then people still not be happy because they are missing out on what they would receive by adhering to the social structure? Interesting yes?

Dr. Brian N. Hewlett : Rethinking Sexuality in a New Age

Tue, 12 Jan 2010 07:32:00 +0000

Even with polyamorous agreements, the media still latches on to anything that questions a reputation. Sponsors can also still revoke their relationship with a celeb even if it has is something that is agreed to. For example, Angela Jolie was just removed from a project because her star power was overshadowing the project. Who knew a celeb's positive status could effect the sales of a product negatively?

Dr. Brian N. Hewlett : Rethinking Sexuality in a New Age

Tue, 12 Jan 2010 07:27:54 +0000

"Fear is the mind killer!" I remember that from Dune. But it is also the relationship killer. We all clearly fear being labeled by our self and by others in a negative way and that is often the motivation for our behaviors whether they ultimately benefit us or not. Conformity is the manifestation of acting out of fear of being labeled a part of the "out-group".

Dr. Brian N. Hewlett : Rethinking Sexuality in a New Age

Tue, 12 Jan 2010 07:24:28 +0000

Ignorance influences a lot in our society and I concur that hate crimes are also on that list. If people woke up to the fact that the sexuality of their neighbor is developed from the same processes as their own, they might be able to be more accepting.

Dr. Brian N. Hewlett : Rethinking Sexuality in a New Age

Tue, 12 Jan 2010 07:21:08 +0000

Unfortunately sex sells and charity doesn't in our society. But the question becomes, if people had realistic expectations about their own and their partner's attractions to others after they were married, would that be the case? Because the media has such an influence on how we see and understand people, I am not so sure that a way for sex to continue to sell would not still be fashioned by the media in some way, shape, or form.

Dr. Brian N. Hewlett : Rethinking Sexuality in a New Age

Tue, 12 Jan 2010 07:16:09 +0000

Communication is often cited as one of the major issues for divorce and marital problems. Talking is one thing that surprisingly happens less in relationships than you would think. According to an online article about the top 10 reasons for divorce, Alison Bradbury claims that boredom is as well. So you might be on to something in terms of married people and sexual partners not talking about what they need to to help each understand what the other needs to keep them from being bored.

Dr. Brian N. Hewlett : Rethinking Sexuality in a New Age

Tue, 12 Jan 2010 06:55:36 +0000

One of humanity's natural inclinations is to categorize. Our non-acceptance as a species is relative to how we categorize. In other words our sweating of the petty sh*t is a result of our believe that those things are important and we constantly show they are by the consequences they produce, such as the loss of support that Tiger received.

Dr. Brian N. Hewlett : The Science of Spirituality

Sat, 9 Jan 2010 05:24:44 +0000

Sure! You can quote me all you want but it might be better to go to the sources I am talking about and quote them.