en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/763114 Comments by BiancaG https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68844553 There really shouldn’t be any judgment of what anyone looks like, because beauty is ultimately in the eyes of the beholder and the way each and every person has been created, they have their own gifts and contributions to the earth and long as they know that and start to take that into consideration instead of listening to the nonsense that others have to say, they would be in a better place within themselves. Being a woman is very important, we have the power to continue life and we should be happy for that and embrace it, even if there are people who don’t think that being a woman Is a joy and a wonderful thing, then they don’t have any idea. I love being a woman from the clothes to the shoes to the little quirky things that make me, me. I love getting my hair done and looking in the mirror and feeling pretty in whatever outfit I have decided to wear. Having a period might not b the most fun part of being a woman, but the fact that having a period will enable me to have a child in the future makes those five uncomfortable days all the worth while. This world wouldn’t be the same without woman, so every time think about it, I get happy. Women equal life! Mon, 19 Apr 2010 14:24:43 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68844553 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68844500 I agree with the fact that all woman are the same, no matter what color or creed, woman are woman, we all have the same distinct features that our creator gave us and we all have roles to play on this earth whether mother or wife or just a good friend. Even though in the media often times the woman that are portrayed as beautiful are slim with big boobs, flat stomachs and clear skin that is not the only types of woman that are out there. The big woman who are not able to be a size 2 or 3 or beautiful in their own right and often times those women are the ones that more beautiful than the model types that we most often see. I think that if woman begin to feel more comfortable and secure in the skin that they have then there would be no complaints or comparison to this person and that person and the world would get the opportunity to see that beautiful comes in all shapes and sizes. Mon, 19 Apr 2010 14:24:16 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68844500 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66860533 Just even trying to picture and imagine someone really sitting down to create or play this really disturbs me. I think that to create this someone has to have a sick mind, because if they feel that what they are simulating is good and acceptable than something has got to be seriously wrong. There are so many other things that game makers can make into a game, and when the game is so bad that a news reporter isn’t eve allowed to show it on her news broadcast, than that is a very clear indicator that it contains madness and need not be sold. I am sure that there are little kids in Tokyo who probably have played the game and I think that that is sad, what kind of example is this game setting for younger children? Its showing them that it is ok for them to harass and mistreat women and that the end result will be them getting rewarded for their behavior. I really wish that I could have a word with the creator because this is just downright outrageous. I am very sad with this whole thing and I wish that they would reconsider putting this out on the shelves for consumers to buy. Fri, 9 Apr 2010 19:37:57 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66860533 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66860503 I think that it is very absurd that people have created games that encourage any type of violence against women especially when it comes to rape and things of that nature. When I women has gotten raped or assaulted that is something that they live for the rest of their lives, they are permanently scared and there is nothing that anyone can say or do to make them take away that pain or memory. For these people to even be allowed to manufacture this game, no matter what country they are in, I find it to be very sad. There are just some matters that you don’t touch and joke on and women being raped and assaulted is one of them. I don’t see the humor in making this into a game and would really like to know what satisfaction is given to the makers of this horrible game as well as the people who play it, what do they really get out of it? Is it the fact that they can live out a dream that they may not be able to fulfill in real life by taking advantage of helpless women, or is it just the fact that it gives them the control to do whatever from the confines of their homes without anyone knowing Fri, 9 Apr 2010 19:37:44 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66860503 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/nothing-about-the-census-is-easy__trashed/#IDComment65584561 I am black, and maybe I am a little more nonchalant about things concerning my race than I should be, but I really don’t see the big fuss or feel the need to make a big up roar over it, because black people have to many preferences, some want to be called black, while others want to be called African American. There is never going to be a time when everyone is just content and doesn’t have something to complain about. The people at the census are trying to be as inclusive as possible and they are still catching grief. At the end of the day no matter which one you choose to go by, they all mean the same thing, as long as they don’t put the option of “Nigger” on I don’t really think that all of the fuss is really necessary. When it comes to a touchy subject as race especially in reference to blacks, in my opinion there will never be the right thing to say, because even amongst blacks they have their own sets of feelings on the situation Fri, 2 Apr 2010 18:11:52 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/nothing-about-the-census-is-easy__trashed/#IDComment65584561 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/nothing-about-the-census-is-easy__trashed/#IDComment65584526 I’m sure that there is a lot of consideration and thought that goes into the categories that are placed on the census based on the fact alone that they don’t want to offend anyone but they want to make sure that they cover all bases. I feel that African Americans should be happy that they have three choices to choose from that in the end still means the same thing, because other races or groups of people don’t have that, and they are not complaining as much. I feel that there are so many other things that should be of importance rather than an extra category on the census. A census that comes out every 10 years, it’s not even like it is something that is done on a yearly, monthly or weekly bases. Fri, 2 Apr 2010 18:11:35 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/nothing-about-the-census-is-easy__trashed/#IDComment65584526 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/nothing-about-the-census-is-easy__trashed/#IDComment65584497 I really think that all of the fuss over the categories that they have on the census is just pointless and makes no sense at all. There will never be a time where everyone will be happy with anything. If they just left African American and left out black people would feel offended, now that they have added Negro people want to be upset, no one will ever be able to win. I understand what they were saying when they said that the word Negro brings African Americans back to the times when they were not allowed to do anything and were treated badly, but on the same token there are people who are older like they said, who all they know and understand is negro and wouldn’t fill out the census if it wasn’t there. Fri, 2 Apr 2010 18:11:21 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/nothing-about-the-census-is-easy__trashed/#IDComment65584497 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment64486482 Some guys shouldn’t even be disgusted because there are a few men out there that will have sex with a woman while she is on her period, so if that’s not nastier than just having a period then I don’t know what is. People need to look past the fact that its blood and it may seem nasty, but the over all purpose of it, it something that everyone should be happy about and should be excited for. Even though periods are not the most comfortable thing for females, because of the cramps, the nausea, the back aches and the mood swings and all of the other annoying things when it’s all said and done, they are the beginning of a beautiful cycle of life. Periods are a reminder from God telling reminding woman of the gift that they have and a duty to fulfill on this earth, and even though all woman who have their periods are not able to have children, there is a reason fro everything and there are all new different ways for them to be come a mother sometime in life. Periods are not the devil and should be appreciated Sun, 28 Mar 2010 17:27:04 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment64486482 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment64486443 Getting rid of the old and preparing the new for fertilization should not be considered a nasty bad thing. I don’t know if the fact that the blood comes a woman’s vagina is what makes them cringe at the thought, but if that is the case, then when woman have sex and they discharge that should be considered nasty as well, because its coming from the same place and some discharge is actually the vagina cleaning itself and getting rid of bacteria. So I would like to know which is worst. Blood is blood and if it’s nasty coming from the vagina then it should be considered nasty coming from anywhere else on the body. Sun, 28 Mar 2010 17:26:45 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment64486443 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment64486376 I too would like to know what is the big deal over “periods.” Maybe it is because I am a female and I have to endure the monthly visit from a not so pleasant friend that I don’t see anything wrong with it, but for people especially men to act like it is the most disgusting thing in the world, I really do not understand. When a woman has her period it is an indicator that she is fertile and able to have children, which is a wonderful thing and something that many people hope to have one day. So without it, having children would probably be Impossible, and the fact that all a period is, is the removal of all of the woman’s unused eggs over the course of that month, makes me even more curious as to why it’s considered a bad thing. Sun, 28 Mar 2010 17:26:19 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment64486376 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63025811 Me being a black female, I do not condone black and brown people having negative things to say either, but that’s just me. I don’t think that two wrongs make a right and just because someone says or does something to me I have to do it back, but not all people feel as I do. Many people may think that it is their turn to say things about white people and belittle them the same way they once did us, so as a result of that rude remarks might be made as well as whatever other racially targeted comments that can be made. Over all, I don’t think that rudeness coming from either side is acceptable and that for the sake of each other and the class, especially since it is a race relations class, everyone should be mindful and watch what they say. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 19:57:59 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63025811 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63025776 Now to respond to his question, in my opinion I don’t believe that it is ok for black people to make rude or racists comments, just like I don’t believe that white people should. But of course that is not the world that we are living in. when white people say something racist or ignorant in regards to a black or brown person they are automatically looked at as the bad guy because of the past that whites have with black and brown people. There was once a time when white people could say whatever they felt about black and brown people because that was the world that we lived in at the time, but now that times have changed and movements have been made to change that, so that black and brown people could get the same respect as white people, so now whenever a white person says something negative they are pounced on and considered racist and the bad guy. It doesn’t make it right but that is just the world that we now live in. black and brown people feel as though coming from where we are coming from and all of the things that our ancestors have had to endure for us to be where we are today, it is not acceptable for white people to say things that would put them down. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 19:57:44 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63025776 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63025722 First I would like to say that the comments that are text in are sometimes just flat out ridiculous and ignorant. Most often times I don’t have much to say when people say foolishness but the madness really should stop, we are given the opportunity to express what we feel about topics discussed in class and ignorant people use that as an opportunity to disrespect and belittle people, whether its black or white student s that are doing it, it is just foolish and definitely needs to stop. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 19:57:22 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63025722 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/when-do-we-do-or-say-something__trashed/#IDComment58908288 To put someone else’s well being before your own is not like the first thing that citizens do, and I know that I don’t do it practice it all too often myself, but I do try and from now on I will think about what the next person might be going through before I decide to leave them hanging. You get back what you give, and giving someone a little helping hand may go a long way in the future. Sat, 27 Feb 2010 02:48:14 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/when-do-we-do-or-say-something__trashed/#IDComment58908288 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/when-do-we-do-or-say-something__trashed/#IDComment58908253 Often times it is more complicated to look after someone else even if it is the slightest way especially if you don’t know why they are being treated the way that they are. I know that if someone is being ill treated based solely upon their race, culture, or sex then something should be said, but it doesn’t always work out that way and the morals of what is right from wrong goes out the window and it then again becomes all about self. I really wish that the world that we lived in didn’t have situations where people are mistreated for no reason at all, but unfortunately that is the way of the world and we have to deal with it, but while dealing with it we can choose to do what is right and try to be a stand up person for those who cannot stand up for themselves. Sometimes being selfless may seem like a burden, but in the end it will all pay off and I’m sure that whoever takes the time out to help will feel like a much better person at the end of the day. Sat, 27 Feb 2010 02:47:51 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/when-do-we-do-or-say-something__trashed/#IDComment58908253 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/when-do-we-do-or-say-something__trashed/#IDComment58908218 I do feel as though there is an unspoken rule in society that certain people feel it is not there place to say or do anything when they see situations going on involving people that they don’t know or situations that don’t involve them. I don’t if it is the fact that they don’t want to be put in the same predicament of the person that they are trying to help or if it is that they really just don’t want to help, but it is something that happens very often. I cant sit here and judge anyone based off of if they help someone or not because when or if I was ever presented with the situation I don’t know if I would be willing to help anyone myself. Things get different when you are in the heat of the actual moment and sometimes as confident or as courageous a person might say that they are or if they actually they can get chocked up and only think of whats going to be in their best interest. Sat, 27 Feb 2010 02:47:27 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/when-do-we-do-or-say-something__trashed/#IDComment58908218 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/lgbt-class-question-six__trashed/#IDComment57643441 I might have been a little more close minded about the situation before I came to college, because I didn’t have as many friends who chose that kind of lifestyle, but once I got to college and found out that the people who I had been hanging out were attracted to the same sex, I really had no choice but to accept them. I wasn’t goig to stop being their friend because of it, long as they didn’t do anything to offend me, I was all for them living their life the way that made them happy. Fri, 19 Feb 2010 16:34:39 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/lgbt-class-question-six__trashed/#IDComment57643441 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/lgbt-class-question-six__trashed/#IDComment57643291 Me personally I have nothing against gay men or lesbians, I have males friends who have chosen to be gay and I also have female friends who have chosen to be lesbians or bi-sexuals. Even though I sometimes would prefer not to have to hear the stories that the males want to tell, I listen and I am very accepting of them. Just because they choose to live the life the way they do that does not mean that I am going to love or treat them any differently than I did before they became that way. I actually want a very gay and flamboyant male friend, beause they are so cool and can dress, and are overall very entertaining with the things that they do and the way that they act. To me once they have taken that step to come out of the closet and live life how they want to, they are the best that they can be. The same things go for my female friends who choose to live as lesbians or bi-sexuals, I probably don’t mind listening to their stories as much because it doesn’t disturb me as much, but I listen and I accept and treat them the same way I always have. Fri, 19 Feb 2010 16:34:16 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/lgbt-class-question-six__trashed/#IDComment57643291 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/lgbt-class-question-six__trashed/#IDComment57643260 I think that lesbian relationships are more accepted because some people, both male and female find it sensual to see two females in an act whether it be kissing or being intimate. I don’t know what it is, but there is just something about women that give off this aura of sexy to men and women when they see two women getting physical. While on the other hand when people see to men in the act there is nothing sexy or inticing about it. To see two men is considered vey nasty and wrong, and anyone, from males to females find it to be very disturbing on all accounts. I guess maybe its the thought of what the men do togther why it is sometimes more unaccepted, because the way that they have to be intimate is considered disturbing, even to people in a heterosexual relationship when it is brought up. Fri, 19 Feb 2010 16:34:01 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/lgbt-class-question-six__trashed/#IDComment57643260 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/animals-vs-humans-vs-welfare-cheats__trashed/#IDComment56517361 I understand that mistakes do happen and things are said without being fully thought out first, but this comment is truly hurtful, even to me and i am not even on welfare. I just cant imagine how the people who look to the government for help and support feel now knowing that one of the politicians feels this way, because if he feels that way it makes you wonder how many others feel the same way also. Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:15:12 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/animals-vs-humans-vs-welfare-cheats__trashed/#IDComment56517361