AnisaAven
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I look forward to connecting with you next week. Create a great weekend! Anisa
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http://bit.ly/nEJZwu <br />I look forward to connecting with you next week. Create a great weekend! Anisa
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By the way, I love your http://inspirationalplanning.com/ site - your system for managing our intentions, goals, and tasks is just brilliant.
Thank you again for your kind words. Much love and light, Anisa
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13 years ago @ Anisa Aven's Conscious... - Lessons in Detachment:... · 1 reply · +1 points
This is a great question. In my experience, attempting to counsel someone who is used to blaming themselves for their abuse or used to forgiving their partner with words such as, "they are doing the best they can" with 'no they are not" doesn't work. I have found that if we attempt to make them wrong and say, "your partner is abusive and dysfunctional and you need to wake up and get out", often they will dismiss the very help we are hoping to provide. The victim feels as though we do not understand their situation and therefore they cannot trust our advice. On the other hand, if we align with them by saying, "Yes, you are right. They are doing the best they can. And, you deserve better. Your are a beautiful, amazing, loving, and worthy person that deserves to be happy and well cared for...." They are more likely to open to this because suddenly we understand them.
From there, it's a matter of helping them to gain the self-esteem required to realize they cannot change the other person but they can make a choice that honors themselves.
Thank you so much for engaging in this important conversation. Much love and light, Anisa
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