We will sometimes text/email back and forth during the day. The problem is that most of the time boyfriend is not in a position to read or answer my texts. Even worse is when I text him with something trivial that has me miffed only to find out later that he was already having a really terrible day; that's when things start to balloon out of control. I do think that there has to be some sort of happy middle ground between "We shall never speak of this." and "We shall waste our whole evening bitching about this." I am the type of person who has to get things out. I feel like if I don't talk or write about my stress it just festers until it breaks. I find that men tend not to be that way.