It was very relieving to know somebody that lives over there is willing to get along with us Americans. Basum seemed so caring about everybody around him, in his country and in ours. So to know that there are people like that out there, it doesn’t matter what country they’re from, feels great. What I really enjoyed was his last few words to the class and that was to not let this war affect my life in the long run. It’s only hard for my because my sister has been there and is going again for her deployment. I wish everybody over there was like him, and I wish everybody here in the U.S. thought like me. Then, there wouldn’t be a war. I wish that some day we wouldn’t have to talk to someone in class over a webcam just to see if the people in his/her country really hated us, or what they think when they see us on their territory. It’s sad.
Basum’s answers to the questions were unexpectedly great. Not everybody hates the U.S. which is great! I was really hoping for that. The people over in that country are just the same as us. They are scared to see us, and we are scared to see them. When we see a middle eastern, some Americans automatically will think “terrorist”. But I’m sure when we are over in their area, and they see American, they think “killer”. In the end, we’re all scared of each other. That’s mostly my opinion and doesn’t have much to do with Basum’s answers. But with the way he answered ?s and what we were talking about, that’s just what came to my mind.
Yesterday was a great class for us and I’m really hoping it changed many of my classmates minds about being so judgmental. Yesterday’s class we got to talk to Basum, and ask many questions. At first I was nervous to hear what his responses would be like. The reason for this is because of what I hear around me. Even though I’m just one person in the country, to other people outside of the country I am just like everybody else. The only difference between me and other people would be that I don’t have hatred for other countries. I feel like just because we are at war with the middle east is why people have such hatred for other people over there. Simply, the government is telling our soldiers to go over there, and those people over there are just defending themselves. Do you blame them?
In conclusion, what this says about our society is that we are not fully accepting of other races yet in the US. There are still hate groups in the US as well. Our society needs to let go of past opinions and keep with their own, then I feel like this would be a much better place for all people of all races. I disagree that schools are more segregated than the 70s because I don’t think they’re segregated at all. In the 70s, you had kids who had the opinions of their parents who lived through the 50s, so there had to have been some harsh racism, but then again, not so much segregation. If anything, people of different races feel the need to segregate themselves for their safety.
In my high school we had a variety of Russian students. I thought it was weird that some of them would eat in a different room than the lunch room, but that was because of the choice they made. Our school had no hint of segregation. There were kids that would make unnecessary comment to these Russian kids, or other people of different race, and that too me is defined as racism, not segregation. When somebody of a different race is attending my high school, they are entering a school of mostly whites. My town is small, with not very many open minded people. I’m not saying that people are racist, but it’s just new when someone of a different race comes into the town. So when I saw this question I looked at the answer in a different perspective as to what he is asking for. What I’m saying is, there’s still some racism going on in schools, and people of other races and ethnicities are uncomfortable with that. Therefore, when they choose to exclude themselves, that is their choice, not the school.
In all honesty I don’t feel like our schools are more segregated than the 70s. In the 70s, there was a lot more hatred for people of color and other races that were not white. I know I didn’t live through that time period, but from what I’ve experienced with my mom, and grandmother’s generation, race is now more accepting than before. When I think of segregation, I think of having to separate because of your race, or ethnicity. With this time period now, I feel like people of different race or ethnic background are “clicky” with others that have the same race or ethnic background as them. I feel like races click with each other because they have a better understanding of each other, and can share more.
What I thought could have been uncomfortable though was thinking about the homosexuals in my class. Sam and Laurie had great points, and awesome views on things but they were all related to heterosexuality. Some of the lecture could have been slightly relative, but I could see homosexuals getting angry, upset, or uncomfortable with that specific discussion. Although if there were lesbians in the class, we did learn that since women know more about their body, and their hot spots, lesbians tend to enjoy their sex more than a woman in her heterosexual relationship. This was proving that girls that have sex with girls don’t fake their orgasms because they don’t have to, but many girls fake theirs with men. In conclusion, I thought it was a good discussion for sexual women to wake up and think, “hey, that could be me” and for guys to get a better understanding that it really is not all about them in the sexual relationship.
This may sound weird, but I thought It was awesome how they pointed out that the clitoris is the hot spot for women. A lot of guys don’t have knowledge about what feels good for women, so they don’t know this. Now, a few hundred do! I’m already talking engagement with my boyfriend so I’m not exactly worried about if guys know how to have sex or not, for my sake. Although, for others, I feel it’s important. I also thought it was great to watch them prove how fake porn is. I was worried Sam was going to make us watch something, thank goodness he didn’t! Their point was that a lot of guys learn how to “have sex” by watching porn when really is all about the guy in those videos, unless you’re watching lesbian porn.
The talk on the “needy” penis didn’t make me uncomfortable at all. I thought it was a decent topic to talk about especially in a class of 700+ some. There were some parts of the lecture I was uninterested in knowing but I thought that Sam and his wife did a great job speaking about it. I’ve come to see that many college students go to school and think they need to get their “numbers up” and be wild and crazy and do things. What I thought was great was the fact that Sam and Laurie pointed out that in reality, a lot of people just say that’s what they want, but if you were to ask, the majority would say no. I’ve seen it myself that people are all talk, no show. What I think people really need to take in consideration too is that sex will only feel so great if you really like that sexual partner.
That’s why I’m really upset with my outcome. My best friend that dated the only black guy in the neighborhood definitely didn’t have this kind of experience. This guy was also very “white” for his race, considering where he grew up. He didn’t look for these aspects, just a companion. So, I have dated a black guy before and he was a horrible experience, and I’m insecure about dating black guys now. Because I say this though does not mean that I still wouldn’t try. I would just be a little shy about it. It’s almost intimidating to me. I’m very scared about what black girls would think about me. I’m only scared because some families grow up being taught to only date within their race. My family isn’t like that, and that’s why I would just date who I want. But also, I don’t have some qualities like a lot of those girls do, like singing and dancing. But like I said, I’m not generalizing all black guys here; I just had a bad experience. I would try again though if the opportunity came.
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