en-us http://www.fairytalecoaching.com All comments from Fairy Tale Coaching Emilyhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/forget-regret/#IDComment511951519"Wallowing in regret only gets you more regret, more loss." After auditioning at Juilliard for theater and not making it when I was 17, I was crushed. There were several other factors that played into this, but I also ended up quitting dancing, which I loved and had done for 7-8 years. After this shit storm of things forcing me to feel inadequate in the things I loved doing most. To someone else, it may have seemed weak to get so upset over those two things, but in my world, getting the audition at Juilliard was an equivalent to heaven to me and dancing was the one thing that set me apart and made me feel accomplished... invincible, even. I graduated high school that year and went to VCU, and chose to study mass comm and hadn't acted since. I regret it to this day, because I didn't give it my all either. I settled. Looking back (hindsight is 20/20) I feel like I would have done better, I would have put more effort into my acting and dancing and I would not have given up after not getting a Juilliard callback. However, now, I see it as a change, since I can't go back. I like to look at it as "I've found new passions" and not just given up on old ones. Loved this post. Thank you for helping me reflect on these things. Regret is really difficult to deal with. But, you live & learn! Thu, 6 Dec 2012 13:45:00 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/forget-regret/#IDComment511951519 Becky Slackhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/how-to-feel-better-on-bad-days/#IDComment329638081A formidable share, I just given this onto a colleague who was doing a little bit evaluation on this. And he in truth purchased me breakfast because I discovered it for him.. smile. So let me reword that: Thnx for the treat! However yeah Thnkx for spending the time to discuss this, I really feel strongly about it and love studying more on this topic. If potential, as you become experience, would you thoughts updating your blog with extra details? It\'s extremely useful for me. Big thumb up for this post! Mon, 2 Apr 2012 01:54:59 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/how-to-feel-better-on-bad-days/#IDComment329638081 CharityAynhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/my-story/#IDComment274336603Thank you so much, Joy! I am so pleased to have found my path and get to live it each and every day. So many blessings to you, as well! <3 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:53:35 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/my-story/#IDComment274336603 Joyhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/my-story/#IDComment274323879I love your tale, and I'm SO GLAD your out of the ivory tower leading others to find their dreams, Charity! Blessings for lots of success and joy, Joy Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:34:22 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/my-story/#IDComment274323879 CharityAynhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/my-story/#IDComment274272471Thank you so much, Becky! I'm glad you enjoyed it! Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:27:02 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/my-story/#IDComment274272471 Beckyhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/my-story/#IDComment274240278Charity, I LOVED reading this! You are so inspirational and what a gift you have for turning everyday stories into truly fascinating adventures! Wed, 25 Jan 2012 18:49:26 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/my-story/#IDComment274240278 viridianhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/connection-and-completion/#IDComment255535421Yes, this. I've been frustrated all year by the superficiality of most of my interactions. It's partially circumstance: most of the people I interact with on a daily basis are 10 years younger than me, and a lot of my closer friends live further than is convenient - even my NYC crowd is too far and usually too busy for more than monthly hangout time. :( Part of it is me, too. I'm fairly shy and tentative about making friends beyond a superficially friendly level, and it's just hard for me to bridge that gap between having a ton of acquaintances and casual friends and having people that I can talk about the big meaningful stuff with. I was starting to think it's part of being an adult - once you're out of college or past the convenient college-age, you don't get to sit around having deep conversations. But maybe it's not impossible; I just need to be braver. & I decided my word of the year is going to be "balance", because all the other ones I'd considered were about pushing myself, and I've found that I'm pretty good at pushing myself past my limits in a very specific, narrow area... but my health, sanity, and interpersonal relationships suffered. So maybe working on that last part will bring back some much-needed balance. :) - Michelle Thu, 5 Jan 2012 03:30:15 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/connection-and-completion/#IDComment255535421 allenaagneshttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/15-practical-ways-to-adjust-your-attitude/#IDComment207648929oh dear ..it's really hard to adjust an attitude..but I guess at times if you are really serious..u can do it.. Sun, 21 Aug 2011 00:19:27 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/15-practical-ways-to-adjust-your-attitude/#IDComment207648929 Wendyhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/the-most-powerful-change-you-can-make-in-your-life/#IDComment207648926Hi Charity Thank you so much for sharing your insight on "attitude adjustment" - it has definitely hit home for me. As you know, I have found you site as part of the BIB challenge and it absolutely fits in with what I have been / am going through in my life at the moment. As adults many of the choices we have made in our lives hold us back - as a forty-something mother of 3 adult children whom I love with all my heart, I probably wouldn't have done too much different. But I know I didn't stand up for some of the things I believed in and now I find myself questioning how to move forward. Having the right amount of work-life balance is imperative that I change my attitude to change my life! I will definitely be following your tips and making things work for ME!! :-) Wendy Thu, 21 Apr 2011 22:38:15 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/the-most-powerful-change-you-can-make-in-your-life/#IDComment207648926 Andrewhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/15-practical-ways-to-adjust-your-attitude/#IDComment207648928Wow. Just wow. I haven't had a chance to talk to my coach (OK; haven't made the time to overcome some obstacles imposed by others) for several days. I was stuck for about half of today in a very unpleasant mental place. My 25+ years of meditation, centering, grounding, and thought-elevating exercises were strangely inaccessible to me. And then...I read your article. And I began to feel better. Because of the wisdom of your words, the depth from which you clearly speak them, and because they echo the same advice my coach gives me when I let the actions and words of others impact my well-being too much. Thanks, Charity! Sun, 17 Apr 2011 07:18:50 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/15-practical-ways-to-adjust-your-attitude/#IDComment207648928 Andrewhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/fear-and-change/#IDComment207648922Hi, Charity! It's Andrew from BIB. When your article showed up in NewsRack tonight, I knew I had to read it. I'm glad I did. It was very insightful and thought-provoking. And, I _love_ Joss Whedon's work! The world is a better place because of all of us who sat up well into the night (and morning!) debating the philosophical questions posed by his work. Nice to learn we have something more in common. Hmm...what am I afraid to say "no" to that's keeping me from moving ahead? That's a very similar question to what my EC asked me a few weeks ago. One of the answers is saying no to expectations of others that don't align with my beliefs and priorities. I still manage to "fear" I'll miss out on accomplishing something. Silly, really, when inreflect on what I've been blessed to accomplish and be part of. Tue, 29 Mar 2011 04:25:05 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/fear-and-change/#IDComment207648922 Charityhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/fear-and-change/#IDComment207648918Hi, Melissa. I saw your post, as well, and thought the same thing, so I'm glad you came over. I had to work all weekend, so I haven't gotten to explore as much as I would have liked yet. :-) I know exactly how that can feel--when your dreams are calling to you to do one thing, but there are all these other things holding you back, and some of them aren't bad--like a house or friends! Facing the unknown and walking away from what's comfortable really is terrifying. The closer it gets for me, the scarier it gets, but I keep reminding myself how much I want things, and that seems to help on the days part of me just wants to run and hide with my blanket of familiarity. Good luck to you, too! ~ Charity Mon, 28 Mar 2011 20:36:38 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/fear-and-change/#IDComment207648918 Melissahttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/fear-and-change/#IDComment207648917Hi Charity, This is Melissa from BIB. I saw your post for day 1 and I thought I'd check your blog out because it looked like we might have similar goals for our blogs. To answer the question at the end of your post, I'm afraid to let go of my house which I almost wish I'd never bought to dig up my roots and travel the world. I'm afraid of giving up a job I hate with people I like in order to make a difference somehow in the world. Especially since right now I don't have a means to supporting myself without the job. I'm not at the point to walk away yet, but I'm planning on getting there in the next year and a half. Sitting in one place can be stagnating, but it's terrifying preparing to let go of the familiar. Good luck with everything! ~ Melissa Sat, 26 Mar 2011 16:32:15 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/fear-and-change/#IDComment207648917 CharityAynhttps://www.fairytalecoaching.com/its-not-too-late/#IDComment207648905**I'm "reposting" this as it hasn't shown up an hour after I tried to post it before. Not sure what's going on witht he commenting system. If you get 2 comments that say the same thing, that's why! :-)* Hi Kimberly! Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting and subscribing. I'm really happy to hear that the post touched you, and provided some inspiration. I know the feeling so very well of being at that crossroads and looking around and trying to decide which path to take. I'm working on an eBook at the moment that I think you might like about ways to start figuring out your passion and path. It will be free to all my subscribers as soon as I get it done, like Christine's Vision Board guide, and I hope will provide as much value. You probably noticed the Coaching page is still under construction, which is my big oops of 2010! One of my January goals is to get the website fully done, as I've been distracted from my professional goals by my personal ones the past couple of months. If you'd like to email me with more information about what you're looking for and your situation, we can set up a free coaching consultation to discuss if I might be the right person for you to work with. I totally understand the fear of financial commitments at this point, but I offer several different levels you can work with me at. There's no commitment in finding out if we might be a good fit, and if so, we can then discuss how I might be able to help at a level you're comfortable with. You can reach me directly by email at charity@pursuingbliss.com to let me know how I could be of help and when might be a good time to talk, if you'd like. I hope you're having a great day, and thanks so much for stopping by, and letting me know you're here! :-) Fri, 7 Jan 2011 16:48:04 +0000https://www.fairytalecoaching.com/its-not-too-late/#IDComment207648905 Kimberlyhttps://www.fairytalecoaching.com/its-not-too-late/#IDComment207648903Oops - wanted to subs!cribe to comments so I had to comment again - it's me again, Kimberly from Kats Eye On Life! Fri, 7 Jan 2011 14:03:44 +0000https://www.fairytalecoaching.com/its-not-too-late/#IDComment207648903 Kimberlyhttps://www.fairytalecoaching.com/its-not-too-late/#IDComment207648900I just subscribed to your blog today (linked from a post you wrote for Christine Kane, I believe) and I wanted to share that I LOVE this older post. I am currently at a crossroads at age almost 42 (on Jan 18th) and I REALLY want to move in a new direction but am having tremendous difficulty determining what that direction should be. I feel that I need a coach but don't know how to find one and am fearful of an enormous financial commitment while I am unemployed. I am going to check out your coaching info and get in touch that way. But I wanted you to know that this post touched me, as did the one you wrote for Christine. Your writing is powerfully authentic, which is tremendously important to me. Peace. Fri, 7 Jan 2011 14:02:43 +0000https://www.fairytalecoaching.com/its-not-too-late/#IDComment207648900 CharityAynhttps://www.fairytalecoaching.com/its-not-too-late/#IDComment207648899Thank you so much for commenting, Maggie! I'm glad you enjoyed it. Sun, 19 Dec 2010 20:14:02 +0000https://www.fairytalecoaching.com/its-not-too-late/#IDComment207648899 Maggiehttps://www.fairytalecoaching.com/its-not-too-late/#IDComment207648897this is awesome! thank you! Sun, 19 Dec 2010 04:09:10 +0000https://www.fairytalecoaching.com/its-not-too-late/#IDComment207648897 CharityAynhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/3-reasons-to-celebrate-your-past/#IDComment207648915I'm so glad that the post touched you, Erin. I think a lot of people look back at their mistakes and think of their lives that way, and those thought patterns are dangerous ones, for all of us. The new year really is a good time to start thinking about a way to break out of them and see about forming new ideas and new ways of thinking--starting by celebrating the good in your life and, more importantly, in yourself. Sat, 18 Dec 2010 18:56:38 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/3-reasons-to-celebrate-your-past/#IDComment207648915 @inillusenhttp://www.fairytalecoaching.com/3-reasons-to-celebrate-your-past/#IDComment207648912Wow, Charity, I feel so much from having read this, and I really can't put it all into words. I'll simply say that this has been a true inspiration. I feel like there's nothing that I'm better at than looking at my past mistakes and putting them up on a pedestal, standing back, and saying, "This is my life and it shows how big of a failure I am." As self-loathing and pitiful as that sounds, I'm going to stop feeling that way and thinking about that part of my life from a different perspective. Thank you, so much. You've helped me a lot, and I really, really mean that. I've been searching for something lately that would help me in such a tremendous way. Thu, 16 Dec 2010 01:44:31 +0000http://www.fairytalecoaching.com/3-reasons-to-celebrate-your-past/#IDComment207648912