it really is a lovely beach!

really? lighten the fuck up people!

still wake up most mornings expecting to wander down pearl street and bump into my friends ....
anyway - not about requiring permission, simply that even though opinions may arise, i don't consider that i have the right to push that opinion onto someone else - in essence, it's the same sort of dysfunction that says 'you are responsible for my happiness'

love to hear your response to the balance of my comments too

this isn't necessarily true - being monogamous might mean we are sticking to some sort of biological imperative to live longer (which is really socialised - biologically, the longer we live and the more we breed the more likely we are to wipe ourselves out in a blaze of stupid) but it's a tenuous link to evolution

the risk factors associated with cervical cancer are many - and being an HPV carrier is considered to be almost a pre-cursor to getting it (more than 99% of invasive cervical cancers contain HPV); yet of the roughly 80% of sexually active women worldwide who carry HPV, only 10% go on to get cervical cancer; and of those who die from it, more than 80% are in developing countries where access to pap smears, adequate nutrition and other preventative measures are limited in availability

in addition to mathew's comment below, the dominant paradigm informs a significant degree of inequity in our society; monogamy is not only treated as 'normal' but, more disturbingly, as 'right'

ask yourself how many 'successful' people would be so if openly non-monogamous. ask yourself how much (inter)personal suffering results from the socialisation of sexuality

i for one have found myself consistently conflicted between the seemingly opposing aspects of 'doing the right thing' and doing what feels natural; sex and love may well be inextricably linked, but our ideas about them have been conflated to such a degree that it seems nigh on impossible to accept that loving someone doesn't necessarily equate with remaining sexually exclusive

socially there can be little doubt that being monogamous is easier; personally, resolving my ideas about ownership (of self and others) is a task that i frequently doubt i have the emotional maturity to deal with; so i'm monogamous (generally) because, more than anything else, i'm lazy

to be frank, i don't consider i have even the right to an opinion about what my partner does with their body - as long as it doesn't impact upon the health of mine

stimulating healthy debate about the socialised sexual status-quo might seem purposeless, but i suspect it's an issue that continues to arise because, to a certain extent, we are at war with our own humanity

if we're so devoted to loving each other to the best of our ability, why are we still so generally Victorian in our attitudes towards sex?

kind of a non sequitur, don't you think?

Thanks Chandelle; other than a source correction (this was taken directly from the closing article of Jensen's article ... are you able to provide me a reference so that I can correct the attribution? Seems they co-authored Deep Green Resistance ...) was there anything else that came up for you to comment on?

see note below ...

Hi Sunita (and readers); you might find this article here on ele to be of interest: http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/07/forget-sho...

I wrote this a few years ago before ele was really into this type of content - am sure you'll find my almost diametrically opposed view point to be curious ...

i like that there is a presumed choice in where one takes one's penis .... perhaps where one puts it, but not so much where one takes it ...

hilarious