Not convinced that it's growing, it's just that people have found others like them via the internet. Discussion is growing, rather than the fantasy.

I'll give it a try. :-)

Well, the standard advice would be something along the lines of start to discuss it in just a fantasy sort of way, and see how she responds.

But I'm no expert...

Oh, I know. Sometimes, though, it feels like life would be so much simpler...