I haven't but I am going to now :P

That is fantastic Naomi! Thanks for posting.

I agree that there is another side to this. Guilt is generally a powerful emotion that corrects behavior. Shame is a not so helpful emotion related to guilt. Addtionally, I wanted to focus on getting parents to not miss a moment enjoying their children. Thanks for the comment.

Thanks Naomi for your comment. Having an agreed upon plan for rules and boundaries is excellent. For some families that can be quite difficult. Kudos to you and your husband.

Thank you Queen n Ivy! I had forgotten about writing this poem. I kind of like it myself :)

I think it is perfectly acceptable to talk to the other child's parents. I don't know what you will encounter given that the home life of the child, that causes him to act in a bullying way, may be less than ideal. You could approach the teacher to get some idea about the child's family. I would also check with the school about any bully policy that they may or may not have. There may be some clear policy directions they need to be taking that they are not...

Thank you Gina for your insightful comments on ADHD and the "roller coaster" that the whole family.

Michele, no it does not mean that at all. There are times you have to let them suffer the consequences of their own choices. This doesn't mean you are not empathic towards their situations but you cannot rescue them either.

Brian, Thanks for your comments. You are right that there is no magic bullet but there are general principles that can aid parents. Too many approaches focus on the "management" of child and not in the "relationship" aspect.

I agree with you on the freedom of choice. It is an individual decision that each adoptee should make for themselves but if they choose to, they should have the right to do so.