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This has become such a notable phenomenon that I no longer actively invite my closest friends into my work, rather they have to invite themselves in. I have learned to value these friendships on their own terms, exclusively. If I need their validation, I look deeper into myself and ask why. I enjoy, respect, love the friends for their friendship, for the time we spend together, for the laughs, for the adventures, for the opportunity to listen, and to be heard.
And for each close friend who has failed, over the years, to step up when I though I needed them, many other have filled their place. People from our community who actively, passionately believe in the same values, who build equally inspiring ventures in the world, and who show up -- week in and week out -- when we host a speaker, convene a discussion, or build a communal space.
And it's OK -- I think -- to have meaningful symbiotic relationships with them, without inviting them over to my house for dinner with the family, without trusting them to meet before dawn at the trailhead for a long skin to a ski a remote peak, without inviting them to plan a weeklong road trip with no real destination.
Like you, I have also been fortunate to have some folks crossover -- those I've met through my work sangha have become friends, and we observe the sabbath together, ride bikes and raise our kids. And some of my close friends do barge into my work, buying memberships at the HUB and showing up at events they don't really understand.
Mostly, I meet them where they are. When the energies merge, and we get to improvise across boundaries, that's great. But when they don't, I've learned to let it go. After many sad, disappointed, and uncomfortable moments........
The other important theme I was tuned into was the diversity of web platforms supporting this space, and the willingness of the social enterprise / social media leaders to collaborate. More coming on that soon.
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As to the concept on the table here, we are working on a slightly different solution to the same problem set. At Business Catapult (.com), we are building a series of connected tools that creates one big service that builds communities of entrepreneurs and investors, ultimately helping them find each other, in a rules-based environment that optimizes everyone's role, info access and privacy.
Although I'm a social entrepreneur at heart -- and was a .org guy in a .com world in the 90s -- I'm still skeptical of micro-finance for a couple reasons. But your idea around the clustered risk taking by entrepreneurs is brilliant.
Will follow-up with direct communication to connect more privately.
... which is why i'm most interested in your second point. the question of "why are we even doing this?" and assuming the answer is not a PhD dissertation. When I think about the usefulness of SNA, I use LinkedIn as a case-in-point.
I think there are a couple pieces of analysis that don't get done on LI which are more indicative of me to someone's reputation than # of connections. (as an aside, why are people always so into "bigger is better?", but i digress). i actually think that LIONs offer an important service, but I'm always a bit skeptical of their real reputation. the truth is nobody really "knows" one thousand people. seriously. so, i begin to slightly discount reputation of anyone above 400-500 connections (or so -- not a scientific measurement). second thing i do is a quick assessment of ratio of recommendations to connections. this quantitative ratio helps to inform a naturally qualitative analysis that starts to get to the bottom of what i actually care about -- the problem domain for me is quality of reputation, ie: do i really want to do business with this person.
LI would be a very different place if this ratio were the dominant results criteria.
thanks, again, Pete for the discussion.