I've known so many couples with dad taking the first year off work (woot woot, Canada!) that it's just so normal, and I'm really sad for the people who make these rude comments, because their lives are a little closed and small.

Becca - I know in most places in BC there is a men's, women's, and "family" restroom, which is nice!

Oh man, I love these. Floating baby black tee!

Oh my, how does one choose just one colour combo??

Navy, with lime...

(All said in a smiley, teasing tone)

Hey hey hey! What's with the stereotyping?? My Oma wasn't a tea-cup-and-doily grandma, and she *wasn't* a lesbian; at 60 she lived in the back of her truck on a tiny island while she build a small cabin to live in. And I will certainly be a non-lesbian "let's go hiking and build shit" kind of grandma (and mom!).

Sounds like they are just kick-ass ladies, regardless of their sexual orientation. :)

Thank you for this! Now I don't have to respond to the smug parents...I can just email them a link to this post. ;)

Red and purple. Red and purple!! *drool*

So cute, I love it!

I totally agree, especially if there are stories behind them. :)

Awesome, amazing post. Tangentially-but-substantially-related: my parents are work martyrs. They own a business together, and they work harder than anyone else ever has in the history of humankind. They have employees, and volunteer offers all the time, but since no one else can do it like they do....they end up doing everything themselves. It's definitely all about control issues, the same as with mommy martyrdom.

My sister-in-law just had baby #2, and they're really feeling the impact of the extreme mommy martyrdom with baby #1....baby #2 came by c-section so they need more help than last time, but everyone seems to have backed away because baby #1 won't let ANYone other than mommy help her with ANYthing. It's definitely a family learning process for everyone, myself included!

My friend remembers repeating to herself "my husband needs to find his own path and equilibrium with the baby" whenever he wasn't doing it her way. She was aware of her own control issues, and sometimes left the room or the house to make sure she wouldn't jump in there. :)